Do you think she's mad at me?

Question

Ok I have an older friend who was my past college teacher last semester. We have grown close and had lunch and all that and I have been to her house to see her new baby. Well a couple of weekends ago I had bought a gift for her baby and I wrote her in an email telling her, and she wrote me back and told me that I was welcome to come by in the evening that week sometime, and I answered her on that but she never emailed me and confirmed. I have written her a second time a few days ago just to remind her but she still hasn't responded. I understand that she started school and is now teaching again and also has a fairly newborn baby... but I dont understand why she would tell me to come over but never confirm. She has never gone this long w/out responding either and I didnt write anything rude in the emails. What do you think.. I really need to give that gift b/c it is a baby outfit for 0-3 months and her baby is already almost 2 months!... I dont know what her deal is!

Oh and I cant call her because I dont have her number... and even if I did.. I still wouldn't because she hasn't ever asked me to or gave me her number. And I am not going to go over there unexpectedly because she told me to tell her WHEN... so she is basically not wanting me to just show up.

Answer 1

How good is this friendship? Seems you guys are right there on that thin line that seperates really knowing what you can get away with, from not having a clue. Usually in the above situation you know them enough to KNOW there busy and you just need to drop by. But your so uncertain, which makes me believe that you might be pushing the friendship a little fast, just its best to understand the senerio, which shows your doing the right thing. Just give her time, so what if she doesn't email you back, so what if you don't get the gift on time, you've got reasons for that. You'll see her again, THEN you can explain yourself and the actions you've tooken. Chances are because you went on the side of caution, you'll both get a good laugh. Besides your right with the new-born she's got plenty on her to-do list. Besides gifts at that age are not really for the baby, there for the mom, so you can easily make up for this. I'm more then sure she knows you care about the baby, and that you'd by her a sweet, nice gift. Just let this ride for awhile and have a talking to her about the next time, its kind of sweet and cute the way your handling this so just chill, it well work out! If not she wasn't really a friend, and she lied to you about giving a heck, but I don't think thats the truth, do you? DIdn't think so, so chill, relax! Have a laff later at your expense;-)