I love to nurture a home and feel like a protected feminine being focusing on cooking,cleaning and perhaps raising children.
do u think I will find a man who will support my beliefs?
2007-08-27 13:38:18 · 19 answers · asked by deleted 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I think it is a very important job. So many children are raised by strangers, and the cost of child care eats up most of the working mothers paycheck as well. I will say a word of caution though; be sure you have a good education. You never know what can happen in this world and for you to be to needy in a relationship can just end up hurting you. For instance, if you got in a abusive relationship, you might feel paralyzed to leave if you had no job skills to speak of. Make sure you are strong and do what you feel is right.
2007-08-27 13:46:45 · answer #1 · answered by CherryCheri 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's wrong to want those things. I think it's quite admirable, but I would also want something to fall back on for myself in case what you start out as, you don't end up as. I am not trying to sound cynical, but I was married 12 years and then it ended. After my first child, I didn't work for 4 years. I had my 2nd child almost 8 years after the first and wasn't working after she was born and my husband left when the baby was 14 months. I had no money and no job.
I would advise you to put a little back each month. Call it a safety net. If you never need it, use it to help put your children through college.
I have discovered that the person you thought would never do certain things, really can.
By the way, that doesn't mean if I got remarried and had a child with my new husband that I wouldn't consider being a stay at home mom. I would be secure of my inner strength to persevere if it concluded prematurely.
2007-09-03 19:32:35 · answer #2 · answered by A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong for you to feel that way. That is the woman's job (in my opinion). I am just like you. I am most comfortable in my position as a housewife, while my husband earns the dough. It works for me and I love it.
I know you will find a man who supports your beliefs because you aren't going to settle for anything else. You have a right to have your own goals so don't compromise your values for some guy who wants you to go out & work, then come home and cook, clean, do his laundry, and take care of the children, while he sits in his recliner, watching football, and slamming beers.
ps: the best advice I can give you is to get an education. When women are at least qualified to work if they choose to, you won't be a slave to some control-freak who thinks that just because he is the breadwinner, that he gets to control your every move.
2007-08-27 20:56:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is Truly Wonderful of You !!!! I stayed home and raised our 3 sons, and Loved every Moment of it ! And I wouldn't go back and change a thing about it.
I didn't start to work till a year after the youngest graduated from high school.
I Enjoyed going on field trips, being a room mother volunteering at the school, attending EVERYTHING they were in , etc.
Being home when they got home from school, having a homemade supper on the table, baking two or three times a week from scratch.
Having a house full of football players eating me out of house and home . Being there for them when they wanted to talk, yell or cry.
I admire you for wanting to be a housewife, I also love & enjoy my home! I never get Bored..Always something to do around here!
I miss Not having the time to cook every nite and bake like I did before, my sister, always called me.."Betty Crocker".
Pray for God to send the Right Man into your Life, be specific.
Good Luck to You !!!!
2007-08-27 21:12:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why you feel that way, when the time comes if you and your husband want can sacrifice thinks here and there, and you
can stay home and raise your child or children.
we did it, i stay home. yes we could not go places, buy things
and stuff. but we made it.
as a matter of a fact you will do the most human thing one can do.
young children must be raised by parents not Nanny's, or day care.
we did it i am %100 positive that you can do it, now if your
future husband does not agree with it, then that is his problem not yours. .
it is not wrong at all. to nurture a home and raise kids not at all.
2007-08-27 20:55:49 · answer #5 · answered by not fair 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all! That is the beauty of feminism, in my opinion. It allows us as women to choose whatever road we wish. It empowers us to choose from our own sense of joy what we wish to do in this world and allows us to work with our stengths to make the world a better place - whether that is in the boardroom or the nursery!
There are many men who like the idea of a woman who stays at home. The hard part is finding one who is secure enough to believe he can afford it - but fear not. If you maintain your aim and your intention for your beautiful life, I am sure you will attain it. xoxo!
Peace!
2007-08-27 20:44:44 · answer #6 · answered by carole 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ofcourse. If a man expects you to work as he's working, then this is hardly fair, especially if you have to do the house work and he just sits there doing nothing. You will find someone
2007-08-27 20:43:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with stay at home moms.When you are ready to get married you and yours need to talk about this before you say I do.
2007-09-04 12:37:15 · answer #8 · answered by fernwood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell no!~
there is nothing wrong with wanting to be a stay at home mom
and they are lots of men that will support it, if you pull your weight by making home cooked meals.. baking... hosting parties... raising the kids, gardening... stuff like that
2007-08-27 20:42:41 · answer #9 · answered by Blazin 22s 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as a Victorian, anachronistic, male chauvinist pig - music to my ears.
2007-09-04 07:14:34 · answer #10 · answered by cheir 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋