2007-08-27 13:33:54 · 55 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Im so sorry to hear that. Don't listen to all the judgmental people on here who think there perfect. If you think your ready to raise it then do it. If not then give it up for adoption. God bless and I will pray for you:)
2007-08-27 13:43:49 · answer #1 · answered by Jamie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get as much done as you can before the baby comes, because when it comes you won't have time. Get as much school done as you can now. A really good book (better advice that I got from anyone was in this book) is What to Expect when expecting. Great book. Library probably has it.
If you are unable to raise the baby do you have anyone in the family that would. Someone in my family had an a abortion. She didn't know me and my husband would have taken that baby in and given her any relationship option she wanted. That baby would have still been with us...my son's age.
Good luck...YOU have a lot of choices and work. be strong
2007-08-27 13:44:49 · answer #2 · answered by Cat Goat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont give me a thumbs down for mentioning abortion.
Its what you want to do. Do you want to have this baby? I mean 13. Thats a young age. You will be 14 by the time you have it. You will then have to raise it. That will take up your middle and high school years. Not including college. This is a real big decision most people dont make till they are older. Or you could have an abortion. Im not saying Im all for it, but you are 13. This is probably one of the main reasons why abortion is not illegal. You have a choice. You are young. Live your life. Enjoy it. Then when you are older, if you want a baby, have it. But you have school. You need to get a high school diploma AT LEAST. It wont be an easy choice, and may God be with you through it. But hopefully you make the right one. And if you decide to keep it. I hope all goes well.
2007-08-27 13:43:19 · answer #3 · answered by Southern Comfort 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Work out a way to stay in school, because without an education you have no chance of ever getting a good job so you can support that baby.
I sure hope that at least one of you parents know about this. Look at all options through guidance counseling.
2007-08-27 13:42:50 · answer #4 · answered by Aliz 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think it through long and hard. do you want to keep the baby? if so talk it throuhg with the father AND your parents. Do you want to put it up for adoption? you need to talk about it with the father. Do you want to abort the baby? if so, there are tons of planned parenthoods in every state, some states even let you get an abortion without parental consent. I'm not saying you should do that, but its one of the few options you have. I wish you posted more information about the situation, I dont know how your parents are but yeah they are going to be VERY mad at first, but they are your parents and they love you no matter what. And every parent will try to help their child through tough times. How far along with the pregnancy are you, if its not fair, maybe you can even take plan b. Good luck !
2007-08-27 13:40:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sit down by yourself and think through your options; if you keep the baby what kind of life will it have as you raise it? If you put it up for adoption think about it's life with a grown up mum and dad; i think your parents should know they could help you; but just so you know the decsion is yours not theirs.
Also i think you should stay away from underaged sex especially if this is what happens but i wish you luck darling and i hope you decide whats best for you and your baby.
2007-08-27 13:43:51 · answer #6 · answered by molko_vatch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Watch this Japanese series with English sub called
"14 year old mother"
The link is down below, You have to register to watch
but it's free.
The screen would be a little small but if you download
Opera web browser from Opera.com, You would be able to Zoom in.
Good luck
2007-08-27 13:46:55 · answer #7 · answered by Kat 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have a friend who this happened to too! she's 14 and same with me. she ended up having the baby and giving it up for adoption, so it could get raised by at great family who was ready for a child. there are people out the that cant have babies and wish they could...you could give them their wish. thats what my friend did...and she gave them a scrap book and a note for the baby to read and this my seem like an annie thing but she gave the baby a locket with a picture of her. but please don't kill the baby....i have a boyfriend who was an adopted baby just like what my friend did and he is the funniest nicest person in the whole world and if his mom killed him by abortion then my life would be totally different. please dont kill the baby, adoption or if you feel up to it keep it. you need to tell your parents..but tell them when you really know for sue, cuz you could be having a scare..
2007-08-27 13:46:14 · answer #8 · answered by emily 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im sorry for you,this is a big thing to deal with at 13,i to was pregnant at 13,i had an abortion at 3 weeks,i had always been a person who called that murder,however the fauther was already sleepin with someone else,so after alnite tring to think what to do,i made an appt,i do not recommend it for every one,but honey at 13 your still a baby,an so much life ahead of you,so many ups,downs,changes,lost loves,new loves,there is adoption,but 9mths then deliver an give up is a hard situation to.i also feared burnin in hell for it but now at 31 i have 2 healthy kids,so i think god forgave me for my choice.but you have to make the choice you choose,god bless you,an good luck in your life.
2007-08-27 14:13:51 · answer #9 · answered by pooh 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
More important....
How old is the father and does he know?
Tell your parents, they'll be your biggest resource for help.
I wouldn't suggest an abortion but in most states you'll need your parents permission as well as several hundred dollars. Be safe.
Britany
2007-08-27 13:40:17 · answer #10 · answered by AJ'S mommy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋