Why is abortion only considered a women's choice?

Question

I don't support abortion but people that do say it's the womens choice to have a baby or not. What about men? Why don't they get a say in this? If men don't want a baby why don't they get any input? They have to pay child support and stuff so shouldn't they get a little input? And what if the man wants to keep the baby and the women doesn't? He helped create the baby shouldn't he have choices?

Answer 1

Because our laws haven't caught up with the thinking that women AREN'T dumb creatures here for men's amusement, and that responsibility of such things SHOULDN'T just lie on the man. I personally love the people here who said "it takes two to tango" or something equally as retarded and used that argument to try to explain why men should get screwed in the process. It does take two. So why's the woman get all the choice and if the man disagrees, he's screwed either way.

Think about it:

If the man and woman agree, everybody's happy.

If he wants it and she doesn't. She can have the abortion and he has no recourse. Woman happy, man screwed.

If she wanst it and he doesn't. She'll have it anyway and he has the option of either paying and caring for a child he didn't want in the first place or getting the label of being a "deadbeat dad". Again, woman happy, man screwed.

I'm not saying that a woman shouldn't have control over her own body, but there should be some fairness to the process. A man should have the right to say "No, I don't want it" and legally separate himself from any obligation of care. Women have that option: they can get the abortion or give it up for adoption. A man doesn't have a choice. He's stuck with the consequences of her decision. And the pregnancy resulted as a consequence of not HIS decision, but their mutual decision, let me say that one more time: THEIR MUTUAL DECISION. Most of the women I know are not retarded enough to not know how babies are made. You girls know the risks the same as, or likely better, than guys do. It's your fault as much as ours, so why do you have the option to get out of the situation if you want to, but we don't?

It's not a fair system unless you want to concede that women can't think for themselves and thus the pregnancy is all the man's fault anyway. If you think that way, I guess it makes sense, but I prefer to think of women as equals and here they are obviously getting preferential treatment unfairly.

Sorry, I ranted a little. This question's a bit of a hot button for me.

Answer 2

This is a big question, and I think you're on the right path. It should be the choice of both, but as the mother has sole responsibility while pregnant it can only be her choice. I do believe this is unfairly one-sided. I myself was unexpectedly pregnant at 19. I knew I would keep and raise my son, but could not find the father (he moved and we had long since broken up before I knew I was pregnant) It wasn't until my son was 6 months old that he was found. I personally did not feel that he should be obligated to support my son as he had had no choice in the matter. As I was on income assistance (government funds) I had no right to the negotiation (or lack thereof) of child support and visitation, the government took control, and wanting to pay out the smallest benefit possible every month, forced him to pay support and deduct it from my monthly cheque. Had I not been receiveing monthly gov't funds, I would not have forced the issue.

The issue of course with your question is that if each parent has a choice, and a child is born, with one parent agreeing to raise the child, and the other not, allowing the the non-involved parent to be totally free of obligation, it allows every father to simply say they didn't want their kid. And as such support would no longer be paid in any arena, and so many of our youth would suffer. I suspect this would also create a much larger pool of children up for adoption and in foster care.

Answer 3

If a man or woman is adamantly opposed to becoming a parent, they need to either get themselves fixed, or become celibate. If a couple is having sex, they should understand that no matter how careful they are, a pregnancy can happen. This means that they should have some kind of idea about what each of them are willing to do about it. If either partner doesn't wish to be a parent, they should be able to opt out by way of a legal document, signed by both parties, BEFORE a pregnancy occurs. Both of them can then decide whether or not they are willing to take a chance on a pregnancy, and being stuck either making the decision alone, or not liking the decision of their partner. If the woman decides to continue the relationship, and she gets pregnant, her options include keeping the baby, adoption, and abortion. The father can choose later to claim paternity, but if this is delayed past birth, she gets to set the terms by which he can be involved. A woman should NOT be able to force a man into fatherhood if he has made it clear, previous to the pregnancy, that he is not willing to be a father.

If a man does want to be a father, he should either find a woman who is willing, or he needs to figure out how to get pregnant himself. He should NOT have the option to force a woman to bear a child.

Answer 4

It's the woman's body and the woman's life that's at risk. When a man can carry a child for nine months and go through that excruciating pain for hours and hours then he can have a say so about abortion. I do not believe in abortion either. It's murder to me. But a man has no right to tell a woman to to have a child that she does not want. Besides, most of the time the man walks out anyway and the woman is the one who ends up raising the child and therefore she's gotten messed over twice!

Answer 5

Because A: The woman is the carrying the baby, it is her body that is going to labor the birth, not the father. Statistics have shown that 90% of the time it is the mother who is left with the burden to care for the children. Statistics have shown that if anyone walks away from the child it is usually the father. Helping to create a baby does not make you a father it means you had sex. Being there everyday, raising that child, not just sending a check raising that child teaching it right from wrong, staying up all night when your child is sick, taking them to the dentist and to the doctor. Going to your child's functions, meeting w/ your child's teachers discussing the educations progress. Meeting your child's friends and their parents creating a bond with them. That is something that is generally done by women. Furthermore you are not a "father" until the child is born so until then everything is in the hands of the mother because the one be effected by the pregnancy is the mother. The right to abort is a decision that should be between a woman and her health care professional and that is it. You say that a man helps create the baby well if he didn't want to "create" one then he should have kept his dick in his pants or wore a condom.

Answer 6

I could see your point however, women are the ones that are carrying the child and they should have that right to be able to keep the child or abort that child. A man could only support what decision is making.

Answer 7

Because the woman is the one that carries and nurtures the bab and whose life may very well be threatened by the baby she carries.

If a woman has a medical condition that could result in her being harmed as a result of a pregnancy, why should it be anyone else's choice but hers to carry the pregnancy to term? Why should someone else have any say on her health?

Answer 8

The solutions practical - guys do not pass via what ladies pass via for the period of being pregnant and parenthood. Their frame does not difference - their hormones do not play with their feelings - and they do not get the bond that comes among a mom and a little one. It's less complicated for a person to stroll clear of the parental tasks whilst a little one is born - the ratio of absentee father is way, so much better then that of a mom that willingly leaves their little one. So... a person will have an opinion, and it will have to be significantly taken under consideration by way of the ladies, however finally its her alternative.

Answer 9

It is only a woman's choice because the baby is growing inside of her body. You don't get to dictate what someone else does with their body. And you can't prove the baby is yours until it's born anyway.

If a man doesn't want a baby, he should wear a condom.

If men don't want to pay child support, they shouldn't be making babies.

If the man wants to keep the baby, he can take the woman to court, get a DNA test, then prove to the court that he would be a better parent than the female.

If you want to create a baby with someone you aren't married to, you have less rights. Sorry. . . having some morals is the solution.

Answer 10

I've always been of the opinion that two played, two pay - or both get the say over the wellbeing of the baby, and both get a say over abortion. I've always thought if a man wanted the child and the woman didn't, they she should bear to term and relinquish all rights to the child after birth, letting dad have the baby.

I'm pro choice, but that includes the father's choice as well.