how can i makemy parents trust me to go out with friends alone??

Question

im the 3rd child out of 4
my parents already had to deal with my older siblings adolescence
but now its my turn
they are too strict on me
they say tht they don't want me to become like my older siblings my older siblings never did anything wrong
just go out with their friends
they usually had to lie to go somewhere
cuz then my parents wouldnt let them go anywhere without taking a younger sibling
im a honor student
have good exemplary friends
i just want to have some fun
but they don't trust me to not even go to the park or mall with them
they want me to stay home 24/7 cleaning the house and cooking while they work
and they used to let me to go to the park before but i always had to bring my rude little brother
i want to live my young days
before im doomed to be worrying for the rest of my life and full of worries
i know right from wrong and live above the influence
and i told my parents all that im telling you now
but they still dont give me a chance to prove to them im mature enough

i dont want to have to lie to them or sneak out

im 14...and i want to explore the places around me and meet new ppl

Answer 1

My honor student didn't get to go out with her friends until she was 15. It was always in a group, to the mall or coffee shop. She had to bring a phone and let us know whereever she was. That's still the rule, except now she can date. She's 21.

I can see that you're a good student, but your parents know you better than anyone else. I don't know if you're old enough for them to give you a chance. A lot of chansters end up pregnant.

NOBODY lives above the influence. If you were my daughter, and you snuck out, I'd take everything you have, including clothes and bed out of your room (my $$ paid for them) and let you be mature enough to earn them back.

But you're not going to sneak out, right? You're going to keep a log of all the responsible, mature things you're doing, so you can show it to them and say, look at what I've been doing. I think I've earned a chance to go to Jenna's birthday party.

But it all boils down to this one sentiment: Nobody will ever love you like your mama. So trust her judgment, and realize she's looking out for what's best for you. And she's been on earth a lot longer than you.

You'll be 18 before you know it...

TX Mom
Mom of 21, 17 yo s.

Answer 2

I know this doesn't answer your question and probably isn't helpful, but the first thing I thought of when I read your question is I worry how your son will react to being with people (the sitters) he's never met and doesn't have a comfort level with. When we've 'broken in' a babysitter, we've done so by having her come over about an hour and half before my husband and I are set to leave just to acclimate our son to her. The next time, she showed up a half hour early, and now shows up when we leave. I just don't know how your son will react to these new people without mom and dad. I'm sure the older girls are wonderful babysitters, but that doesn't really account for much when the baby doesn't know them. If he's cool with the sitters, then that answers your question. If not, I guess the only other option is to bring him and keep him 'corralled' as best as possible.

Answer 3

i think it depend if you are the only girl in the house. Because you have older siblings

You have to show you are mature at your age. And talk to your parents about it. Make them understand.
it depend on your age too.

Just tell them where you going then lie about it.

Your parents need to trust you first before you go out with your friends.
And i hope your parents have meet your friends.

Answer 4

if you want to meet new people and explore the world i suggest joining an after school activity, such as a sports team or some kind of society at your school...it will show your parents you are not a "trouble" teen and in time they'll let you go out with the friends you made. if they still dont then tell them you have to attend a school function and this should let you get away with it

Answer 5

You shouldn't have to lie to them or sneak out, I wish they could see how mature you seem to be. It's hard for us, you will always be our babies in our eyes, it's hard to see you as adults when it still seems like you just said your first word yesterday...
Keep trying to get thru to them, but do it calmly, don't get emotional, don't be accusational, don't get angry. They need to look at you as a young adult, so present yourself that way.
And don't give up!!!

Answer 6

u cant my parents wont even trust me its like playing 50 question

Answer 7

You never said how old you are, that makes a difference.

Answer 8

ummm tell em i said to lighten up.
its only the malll nothing too bad except the occasional emo store shoppers....