Why should i stay at a job that makes me a bad person?

Question

i hate my boss and my job no way i look at it makes it any better my boss tears into me for everything and anything weather my fault or responsibility. i have 3 kids and a husband when i get home i take it out on my family,i have a house pyment bills insurance car pymnts and daycare i cant afford not to work but finding a job is not looking good what do i do heres the catch i work 56 hours a week and dont leave for lunch so i have very little time to go out and find something else i apply online a lot but have to lie to my current boss saying one of the kids has an appoitment to goto interviews the other catch its only me one other girl in this office and the owner (my boss) and one other guy in the other office very small business no retirment benefits or sick days or personal days i get paid really good money here and get 1 week paid vacation every year i have been working here for 2 almost 3 years what are my options???

Answer 1

Look at it like this, you can have the material things you need making big bucks, or you can go to work everyday happy. You only live once and a bad job weighs on your personal life. You deserve better. Take your weeks vaca and go look for a job that pays similar but is better. If you have to settle for something less at first do it that way you can still look. There are always ways to cut back. You seem to be working to hard at a job you hate.
SOmeone told me this quote today
"find a job you love and you will never have to work a day in your life"
It speaks volumes live for YOU and your home life will be better:O)

Answer 2

Hi,

I wanted to tell you that you shouldn't stay at a job that leaves you that miserable. And you don't have to. But there are things you'll need to do before just leaving (unless you have a job to go right to).

First, if you haven't already, talk to your husband about your work. You are skipping lunch (in the US this isn't legal...but it's probably part of why you're so miserable.), you are being treated abusively, and you are accepting it. One obvious option is to pull yourself up, consider confronting your boss. I'd do some homework. Unemployment insurance is available if you're fired, but make sure someone else knows what is going on from a legal standpoint. Find someone in your area (even an attorney, legal aid, etc.) to list your grievences with, and give details. Then tell your boss exactly what's going on and why it isn't acceptable. Let him know what your expectations are. There is a good chance you'll be fired, but you never can tell. Which is why I suggest talking to your husband first. They would likely have to pay unemployment if you were fired. If you quit, they don't have to pay anything. (But you'll need a way to verify your info and when you talked with him so he can't fire you for subordination, etc. and make you ineligible for unemployment.)

Second is to assess your financial situation. I understand feeling like the bills have you 'round your throat, but sit down and look at them with your husband. What can you cut down on? See how you can minimize some bills. There are books that actually help you see how much you make with your job.

Third, consider going back to school. Talk to the school about it. Receive training for what you need, and you'll also receive financial aid.

Forth, you could go to a temp agency and see if they have anything for you. You might not be paid as good, you might not have the options you have now, but it's better than coming home miserable and taking it out on your loved ones.

You have choices. Start brainstorming with your husband. And good luck.

Answer 3

I understand where you are coming from. I recently just had my first baby and I was in a job that I didn't like and I had a boss that didn't make my job appealing anymore. I finally talked with a good friend of mine, a special ed teacher, who was starting a business with Melaleuca. I have recently decided to join the Melaleuca team and couldn't be happier. I now get to stay at home with my son and make money. I have the best of both worlds. If you are looking for a way out with better benefits than you have now let me now and I can get you more information, it truly is worth a look.

Answer 4

Jobs do not make bad people, people do it themselves. Looks to me like you pay day care to work, drive a car to work, and you could be saving money by not working. No job is worth the headache for you or what you say you are doing to your family. House payments, car payments, bills...that is life and we all have them. But you do not need the headache too. No one has to work 56 hrs a week, it can not be demanded of you. Stand up for yourself and quit letting the job run your life or it will pass you by and you missed it..and so did the kids.

Answer 5

Not much for now since you are making really good money. I think I would review my life and see if it is just this job that's causing all the problems. Good jobs are very difficult to find as you have found out. Don't leave what you have before you find something. You will really regret it. Trust me. Been there done that. Good luck.

Answer 6

I'd say you are doing the best you can right now. Anytime you have a holiday, use that time to look also. Get the newspaper and look in there. Send out resumes to everyone you can think of in your field.

Good luck hon.

Answer 7

just keep applying for new jobs, but dont bag out your current employer to them as this could stop you getting another job, hubby was in the same boat and eventually got a new job, just have to perservere if you can not afford to leave, dont take it to heart what your boss says either,

Answer 8

all jobs suck equally. if they were good they'd be called play,not work. I'd see if i could find an agency that can straighten out your , nasty boss.