I feel a little snubbed, a little selfish, but that's my preference. What should I do, she has another year to plan it.
2007-08-27 11:46:59 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I understand that this is your "special date" but in reality, it's probably a "special date" for millions of people world wide.
If you were to talk to your sister in law about changing her date, would she be receptive or resentful? A wise person once told me to choose my battles wisely. Is this worth battling over or should you save your opinion for the future?
2007-08-27 11:56:59 · answer #1 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We deliberately got married on some friends' first anniversary so they could come--the day before--our original choice, they had another wedding to attend 250 miles away. They were pleased and it's been fine for 30 years.
My BIL got married on my husband's birthday, which would have been okay except that my husband would have been 43 that year, but he died 18 months before. That was NOT okay, and I've been p**d about that for 15 years.
Unless you decide to hate her, this can work out well. In a few years you can arrange group baby-sitting for your children (to save money) and either celebrate together or go off alone. You and SIL can work out a deal to remind your respective husbands of the upcoming date if they prove to be as forgetful as 80% of men.
If you're determined to be hurt, you can get satisfaction. Say, "Yes, it was a lovely wedding, and they choose a great day;. It's sure been a lucky one for Fritz and me. You know it's been 3 years exactly." Then you can lead the conversation into how your wedding was so much nicer than this one or what a catch Fritz was compared to SIL's loser.
2007-08-27 19:01:35 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, it's kind of an honor that she wants to "share" your anniversary with you! Lots of other people
(thousands) have that same anniversary, you know. It's not your private date. In years to come you could all go on a cruise together or some special vacation to celebrate your anniversaries. Plus, it was your date first...as you have been married longer right?
2007-08-27 18:51:45 · answer #3 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's OK for your sister-in-law to get married on whatever day she and her fiance choose. It's her wedding and her life. You can feel however you like, but she has a right to get married whenever.
2007-08-27 19:41:45 · answer #4 · answered by shine_radiantstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she your slave? Do you own her? If not she has a right choose the date of her marriage. If you want her to choose a different date, offer her $5,000 to select a different date. I'm sure she will be willing make the trade.
2007-08-27 18:54:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree, my sister in laws, new sister in law planned their wedding for my sister in laws birthday, basically so it was all about her, as it usually is, i think there's 364 other days she could have a wedding why take you special day, especially if it holds no significance to her
2007-08-27 18:53:15 · answer #6 · answered by t.s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do nothing.... You don't own that date, and she may have valid reasons for picking that date that have NOTHING to do with you,
2007-08-27 18:52:02 · answer #7 · answered by Dena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel and if she doesn't understand then just drop it. It's your day and you don't have to acknowledge it as her day. This is one day that belongs to just you and your husband.
2007-08-27 18:52:25 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it, but in the end, it is not your descision.
2007-08-27 18:50:54 · answer #9 · answered by Qyllix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋