I love my wife a lot and I want to be with her, but one pussy in not enough, especially while I'm in the service. It hurts because I don't want to lose her over this, but I don't think she'll ever understand.
I always date other girls when I'm out of state. I'm stationed on the other side of the country from her until she finishes school. What should do, I don't want to lose her....I treat her well, send her gifts and never love her any less. Am I a bad person?
2007-08-27 10:40:37 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I meant to say having sex with one woman is not enough...
2007-08-27 10:43:09 · update #1
River why are you sad?
2007-08-27 10:58:54 · update #2
"what she does not know will not hurt her"
2007-08-27 10:50:18 · answer #1 · answered by Alicia S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Rosco- Here's the deal with cheating: Go ahead and keep cheating on your wife but believe me on this, when you get caught at it, which sooner or later you will, is when you will wish that you could change it all because the Guilt will eat you up like its nobodies business. Before you get caught I suggest that you find a way to control yourself and give your wife the True Love and Respect that she undoubtedly deserves. Think about it....She would be crushed if she found out, no matter how long the two of you have been together. And I also hope that there aren't any children involved. Hypothetically think about this: If you had a daughter and her husband treated her like this, wouldn't it really piss you off?
2007-08-27 21:24:27 · answer #2 · answered by 2BaD4u 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK... 1st of all u're not half bad, it's obvious u feel guilty, and that itself is very good. Your gifts to her is a way for u to compensate for the guilt, however, it isnt right. Not because u treat her well and give her gifts u can cheat on her..... Cheating is NEVER justified, and no woman on earth would ever understand that its ok for u to have sex with some1 else other than her, unless ur relationship is NOT exclusive( i.e. she gets to have sex with other guys too).. but for god's sakes u're married!!! u dont get any more exclusive than that!!!! U know; a woman can morph to be several other characters, if u talk to her GENTLY and ask if she can role-play or dress-up in diff characters she might b up for it! But if u continue cheating on her i promise u u will definately lose her! U're lucky she havent found out yet, but STOP or she will sooner than u think!
2007-08-27 17:54:15 · answer #3 · answered by virtualbeing0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man that says he loves his wife and then says
he likes to be with other women, is not telling the
truth. Marriage is a one to one, and if you can't
handle that then you need to be single. You say
you love your wife, yet you constantly dis-respect
her by going with another. I was in the military for
22yrs and once I married my wife no matter where
I was I was and am always faithful to her as she
is to me. I know what marriage life is all about and
I not only say I love my wife I always show her
and respect her. Just because you say you love
her and buy her gifts means nothing when one
does what you are doing. As for are you a bad
person, I can't say however from what you told
us you are an unfaithful husband, and if that makes
you proud then so be it as you will become an-
other statistic in divorce sooner or later.
2007-08-27 22:05:51 · answer #4 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guy, right now I'm 800 miles from the woman I love, I have been for several months now. There is no way in hell that I would ever consider cheating on her in any way shape or form. Even if she would never know, I would and things would never be the same between us again. If you are doing that, then you aren't in love, you just want someone there when you come home because you are afraid of being alone.
2007-08-27 17:52:45 · answer #5 · answered by aircraft mech 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with you you are in the service and spend time out of state why did you get married if you werent gonna be honest with your wife Yes you are a bad person because you are out there dating other woman and what happens if the other woman falls in love with you than she will be hurt by this and your wife.
best of luck
2007-08-27 18:10:42 · answer #6 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being married is about having sex with one person and one person only and that should be enough
Thats what you made the commitment to do
If you couldn't handle it you shouldn't have been married in the first place
Instead of cheating and hurting a person you supposedly "love"
2007-08-27 17:54:06 · answer #7 · answered by Alyssa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you cheating if you love your wife? If you love her so much then you should wait until you see her and have sex with her. Marriage is a sacred thing and you should try to be faithful instead of lying to her. The truth always comes out and when it does, it hurts.
2007-08-27 17:48:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, I think you should have thought of that before you got married. You have to see if from her situation too. Just like if you were going off and being faithful and she was back where she was cheating on you. How would you feel? You should just break the news to her before she finds out the hard way. Good Luck
2007-08-27 17:44:58 · answer #9 · answered by SiCnGaged 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shoe on the other foot.... Are you ok if she sleeps with other people too? ....and if she does, is she a bad person? Girls have needs too - but I have a feeling you wouldn't like the idea of her doing any of the things you're thinking about. Marriage is supposed to be sacred. If you couldn't handle the commitment, you shouldn't of asked her to share the rest of her life with you --- very selfish on your part.
2007-08-27 17:48:04 · answer #10 · answered by bedee9731 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to cheat on someone you say you love and that you value her feelings? You could give her an STD. If you are so interested in dating other women,why don't you let her know and see how she responds. Good luck with that one.
2007-08-27 17:46:58 · answer #11 · answered by philosophy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋