Me and my husband had been married for five years now, we used to have sex once a week, and then that changed to three times a week, and then everyday. Now we do it twice a day, and I'm tired. I tell him about it but he keeps on saying that I don't love him anymore, or that I'm cheating on him. What should I do now?
2007-08-27 10:12:25 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Mr. you are busted. He is just another troll. While the reverse may happen, men never go from having sex once a week when newly married to twice a day, years later.
2007-08-27 10:20:53 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I average a few times a week and I wish it were more! Unfortunately, my husband is an over the road truck driver and only home about 3 night a week. My husband and I both go through phases where we or one of us) want a lot of sex for a time and then we want less for a time. Its natural in a long term relationship to have peaks and lows.
You and he have different sex drives right now. His is higher and yours is lower. In a few years, that may change and become the opposite. You need to find a way to work things out so that you are both happy.
What could he do to get your drive up? Does he need to add more forepley? More talking and hand holding? Help with chores? Experiment with different positions or do some new things to spice it up? Figure out what he can do to get you in the mood more often and tell him.
Other than that, reassure him that you still find him attractive, are faithful and that you just don't have the same sex drive he does. Ask him if there is anything bothering him that is making his want sex more often. Maybe he is really looking for closeness and intimacy. You could give him that in other ways. Maybe he is really that turned on and his sex drive is just up right now. In that case, you could come to an agreement to how often you are willing to have sex and he can masturbate to release tension between times.
Good Luck!
2007-08-27 17:24:11 · answer #2 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You tell him the truth. You tell him that twice a day is just too much for you. Explain that most married couples only have sex a few times a week at best and that this is a little extreme. Sex is not supposed to feel like a chore.
2007-08-27 17:26:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People go through phases, and it sounds like your husband is going through one right now. He wants you... that is good! Good for you girl! lol, I know that it can be exhausting, and if he is constantly asking for it, it can also be a turn off, but just talk to him about it. Tell him that you are tired. And remind him that women need to be wined and dined, perhaps if he were seducing you instead of just expecting you to service him then you would be more willing.
The main 2 things for you to remember is:
1. relationships are based on communication. ALL COMMUNICATION. And if you have a problem with this, then you need to talk to him about it, even if you are afraid that it will start a fight.
2. it is still your body. You have the right to say no. Even if he is your husband, you still have the right to say no to him if you are not in the mood.
Good luck!!
2007-08-27 17:25:26 · answer #4 · answered by Nik 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know my husband likes to do it all the time n if i don't want to I'm "cheating or i don't love him" he has issues i say!! and he pisses me cus he has these insecurities and he feels that the only way we can express r love is through sex 24-7!! and that he makes me wonder if he is the one sleeping around on me cuz he is always accusing me n that usually shuts him up n shuts his penis down! LOL
2007-08-27 17:24:04 · answer #5 · answered by notyochic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you getting your tires rotated I mean do you have an orgasm every time daddy gets busy? He probably one of those 60 second players! well I guess you could eat an apple while having sex!
Something ain't right here, I smell a rat when i see one .
2007-08-27 17:48:47 · answer #6 · answered by maria s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a horn ball on your hands there. Just tell him your appetiete is not as huge as his and that every person is different. Tell him waiting a day or two could make it more fun for the both of you.
2007-08-27 17:20:45 · answer #7 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him sex twice a day is enough, he can do it once by himself and once with you.
2007-08-27 17:18:03 · answer #8 · answered by ~MB~ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He has a problem with believing you that's his way of thinking keep you satisfied and you won't cheat>>??Have a talk an help him believe in you>
2007-08-27 17:22:47 · answer #9 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice is just to give him a WHOLE BUNCH. Rock his world so to speak...then he will leave you alone for a while.
2007-08-27 17:28:36 · answer #10 · answered by Rein 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋