Why do men do that ?

Question

Why do guys love to criticize whenever they have the chance to and raaaarely compliment things about their gf/fiance'/wife ? although they love their women

However, if the guy was just a friend or has any kind of relationship with a woman that is not love .. he compliments everything even the air she breathe

Why would "most" men do that? (i dont wana say "all" )

I REALLY WANT TO KNOW

Answer 1

People, both male and female, criticize their loved ones from time to time.

Between my husband and myself, we have a balance. Honest and constructive criticism when needed and compliments when deserved or to express affection.

When you love someone and are sharing a life with them, what they do affects you. So, you are more comfortable being honest and telling the person when they are wrong or need to make an improvement. Besides, a critic is good to have sometimes and can be very helpful. Sometimes we just can't see the forest for the trees and need someone close to us to point out where we are going wrong.

Guys and girls who aren't in a close relationship are trying to get laid and be seen in the best light, so they aren't usually forthcoming with criticism.....even when it is needed. They compliment the good and use flattery to get a foot in the door.

Answer 2

Couples take each other for granted. Once we have caught each other, the compliments may end because we feel that we each should already know what we like about each other.

Our ears flutter with JOY, men and women BOTH, when we hear a compliment from a new source. It feeds our egos!

Do most womne always and constantly compliment our men? NO

We criticize each other because there is this invisable wall in which we feel won't fall down, because we know we can criticize and still keep the other person in our grips. It's also a sence of control.

Answer 3

I'm a woman but I'd Have to say its the taking for granted thing too. I am experiencing a strange thing with my hubby right now. In the last 8 or 9 months I have lost 90 pounds. I was pretty heavy for a long time and my hubby while he loves me alot never had many compliments for me but plenty of criticisms well things went on like before until one of my brother-in-laws happened to be complimenting me on my new figure and looks and my hubby over heard it and saw my reaction to it. Smiling and blushing at the attention I was getting. I think it kind shook him up because after that he began to see me differently and began to compliment me too. Lot less criticism too now. So maybe they need a shake up to see what is right under their noses.

Answer 4

I always felt that I would give corrective information and not criticize or lecture anyone. yet I was always accused of do the thing you ask about. I have given compliments and it is often taken in the wrong way or it comes back and bites me in the butt, I'm corrected n how I say something or why i said something. I guess in some ways when we are always criticize we become gun shy, a little shell shocked and over time keep our mouth shut because if we don't we get the taste slapped out of it.

Answer 5

Guys do not know how to compliment women. They are more interested in the impression they make on their friends, because they want to appear to be 'in control' of their wives and their marriages. It makes women hesitate to believe them if they DO compliment them as women wonder what the guy has done wrong and if he is just covering the fact that he has.

Answer 6

My husband compliments me all the time. Even when I'm cleaning the house in old stained clothes.

I wouldn't say all or most, Maybe some men do that.

Answer 7

Because they get comfortable with what they have. They think you're not going anywhere, and you're not as "high a maintenance" as you were before, because they "have" you.
In guys' defense, though, women do it to. They swoon over their men, look over their faults, sex them up relentlessly, and put on their best clothes and perfume. Then once they say "I do", they start to let themselves go, don't want sex as often, and nag about the faults they used to see past. Then they wonder why their men don't see them the same way. It goes both ways.

Answer 8

Well, there is no telling. I can say that my husband isn't in your "most" men... I get lots of compliments, and not just on me either. Also my cooking, the way the house looks and even our children. :-)

Answer 9

Its a mystery to women and always has been. My dad does it a lot, and it really angers me. He's silent around my mom and loves criticizing her parents. but when we go out some where he acts so pleasant and nice.

Answer 10

I constantly compliment my wife, buy her flowers, praise her. Maybe that is why we have been married for 20 years. If your man is not doing that for you maybe rethink your relationship because there are plenty of men that will.