I have been married 2 years and today found out that my husband got really drunk and kissed my best friend. I know that is all that happened because I was at our house when this happened. My question is should I divorce him even though this happened 3 years ago.
2007-08-27 09:40:40 · 33 answers · asked by rscottsluv 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-08-27 09:50:00 · update #1
I wouldn't if it was that long ago. He "may" (and I use that term loosely) have changed his ways. However, I would keep a close eye on him...his kissing habits might have turned into more by now.
2007-08-27 09:46:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, let me make sure i have this straight.. u've been married for 2 years.. and your husband got really drunk 3 years ago and kissed your best friend, yet u just found out about it? And your wondering if u should divorce him for something that happened before u got married??????????? Ummmmm NO unless ur just looking for an excuse to leave your husband.. which sounds more like whats going on, then that ur actually concerned with a mear kiss that took place 3 years ago before u were married. Id be hurt, but i dont think its anything to breach my marriage vows over..
2007-08-27 09:53:30 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been married two years and it happened three years ago and it was just a kiss, I do not think this in and of itself is grounds for a divorce. Now, if your husband is still involved with this type of behavior, that would be different, but if it was a one time drunk thing and it was only a kiss, then you probably should just let that go.
2007-08-27 09:58:20 · answer #3 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't divorce him. You admitted that he was drunk (which is no excuse but definitely a contributing factor), and that you know nothing else happened. This certainly doesn't warrant a divorce, and apparently both your friend and your husband were too embarassed to tell you and that is why you haven't found out for so long. Is he a good man, husband? Also this happened before you were even married, so you shouldn't be too harsh on the old boy.
2007-08-27 09:53:33 · answer #4 · answered by No one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if your husband slept with your friend It was before you were married. How serious was your relationship then? Have you seen a huge maturity in your husband in the olast 3 years? How are your feelings toward your friend?
I'm not sure a kiss constitutes a divorce, although to some it's more personal then other things.
2007-08-27 10:15:30 · answer #5 · answered by ~MB~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been married 2 yrs. He did this 3 yrs ago dont be stupid it was well before you married so he didnt cheat on you. If you were dating oh well this should have been addressed long ago since you just found out about it if your willing to throw out what im going to assume is a good marriage to a man you love your stupid. What happened in the past stays in the past im sure you have things in your past you wouldnt want him to know about and if he did find out would you want him to dump you over it..I DOUBT IT
2007-08-27 09:51:21 · answer #6 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reading carefully, you have only been married for two years. How long into the dating process were you when he kissed her. Also, if he has never done anything like that since, just chalk it up to alchoholic stupidity.
2007-08-27 09:53:04 · answer #7 · answered by Qyllix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well have you heard anything else, have you talk about this with your hubby? because if it happend three years ago, and out this kiss nothing else has happend then I don't think you should go as far as divorce, you said he was drunk, come on now talk to your husband does he know you know? hear his side of the story, also you should have a talk to this friend of yours, I think she is just as responsible for this too! don't invite her to anymore gatherings where you guys might be drinking again and let her know why too! talk it out with your hubby, it was a kiss, not sex I think he could be forgiven just remind him don't drink and kiss.. LOL good luck hon.. talk to your hubby and friend is my advice don't trust her.. she should have known better than that.. equal fault on both..but not enough for divorce.
2007-08-27 15:23:15 · answer #8 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk with him about it, what about your friend, have you said anything to her? I understand that you found out today but did he tell you and why three years later? I would not just jump to divorce but I would be asking and expecting answers to questions.
2007-08-27 09:50:19 · answer #9 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you have to confront your own feelings and make sure your not pissed when you talk to him alone. tell him what happen just in case he may not remember because he was drinking. explain to him if he said it was the drinking then he shouldn't drink so much he doesn't know what he is doing. tell him it was wrong you didn't give him any suggestion to these moves. then tell him it will never happen again if he does try it again you will make sure you tell her right away it's a little late to say something now it will make you look like an idiot instead of him.
2016-05-19 03:42:18 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been married 2 years? this happened 3 years ago? this happened before marriage? let it go! Move on....
2007-08-27 09:50:19 · answer #11 · answered by 2nd 2 none 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋