If you have had a relationship with more than its share of ups and downs, and you knew then what you know now, would you get involved with the person? I wouldn't. I have two kids by him, and I love them more than life itself, but I sometimes regret getting involved.
2007-08-27 09:29:25 · 20 answers · asked by Ms. GTO 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
But the only way to get the two kids that you love so much is to do it over again.
I do think you want to give up the kids, so if you had the chance, you would still do it the same way as the first time.
Why, because if you don't you won't have the kids, and you love them so it was worth it.
2007-08-27 09:40:45 · answer #1 · answered by harold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I literally fight about 30 times a day - we have 3 children together, and almost had a fourth (recently miscarried). I am 23 and he is 25 - so you can imagine, we had to grow up fast with 3 children - a 2, 3 and 4 year old. We never had the chance to be friends, he is the biggest jerk in the world somedays, he doesn't spend enough time with me and the kids, when I cry he says im crying for stupid reasons, when I try to express my concerns he runs away, he never listens, he never tries to make things better, he's never there for me emotionally, and sometimes not there for my physically, he laughs when other people are around and say the stupidest things but never laughs when I say something funny, he doesn't smile anymore, he doesn't tell me Im beautiful anymore. NOW - he works 10 hour days in 105 degree weather, he puts food on the table, he pays our bills, he buys what the children need, when he gets home from work he helps with the kids, when Im tired he lets me sleep in on the weekends and cooks breakfast, he always makes sure I have what I want and need, sometimes when he kisses me I feel as though I did 5 years ago when we first met, after a long day at work he still manages to play with the kids until he's so achey and tired, he takes care of me when Im sick, if I just want him to stay home a day from work no questions asked he calls off, when people say I ***** too much he tells them to mind their business, he always has my back no matter if Im right or wrong when it comes certain situations.....
The point of this is - EVERYONE has their ups and downs, but the journey is what builds the love between one another .... I would go through EVERYTHING all over again a MILLION times just to have the husband I have today - he is the only one for me, if we ever seperate, Im turning lesbian, because in my heart I honestly do believe there is NO other man for me.....
Things that happen, happen for a reason, don't regret something you have been through, those things have only molded you into the person you are today girl!!! God Bless!!
2007-08-27 16:43:34 · answer #2 · answered by singing_angel_of_the_night 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would NEVER do it again-
I love my kids as well but sometimes I think about it and HATE the fact that I brought them into this relationship that I had/have with their mother. We DO NOT argue or anything in front of them however I know that they can sometimes sense the tension between us and that is something that no matter how civil you act you can't get rid of the tension.
So for that reason and the simple fact that she ruined my credit and cheated on me and now won't let go- I regret every minute of being involved with her
2007-08-27 16:44:18 · answer #3 · answered by billy g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
On the contrary. If I ever feel that way I look at my two boys (and soon to be daughter) and thank my lucky stars that I did get involved. No matter what hardships and disappointments I have they are nothing compared to my kids. I am not trying to bash you for feeling the way you do because I know each person is different and I am sure that you do love your kids. I do wish however that I would've done things differently with my wife in the past to improve where we are at now, because now it is too hard to get her to open up to suggestion.
2007-08-27 16:36:16 · answer #4 · answered by No one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you in my head???
What keeps me going IS my two kids. I look at them and realize the ONLY path that would have led me to have them as my children would be for me have been with my husband.
So, if I had to do it all over again, I guess I would. But I also know if I had it to do all over again, I'd probably still end up not in love with my husband.
There are days when it is easier to accept than others.
But you have to realize you cannot change the past. However, as George Eliot said "It's never too late to be what you might have been"
You still have control over the rest of your life. Make the most of it.
2007-08-27 16:51:10 · answer #5 · answered by candy'sroom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I regret my life with him, no children...so hell yeah...I should of stayed away from him. The first years where OK, but I could of done without the abusive later years that did the most damage. I at least wish I had of left the very first time things got out of hand.
2007-08-27 16:37:37 · answer #6 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey let me tell you I had my share of shiTTy relationships.I would not change a thing.I have a beautiful daughter from my last marriage but I hated my husband the whole time we were married.I had a relationship after him that was horrible also.Cheating lying sob is what he was.So now I am married and I know a good man when I see one since I have had the bad ones.If it had not been for the bad ones I would not think as much of my husband as I do now.I would not appreciate as much as I do.I would not love my life as much as I do either.
2007-08-27 17:13:57 · answer #7 · answered by samwise25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your past is what made you who your are and you should be proud of that, you should embrace your growth and acknowledge that fact that the only reason you know what you know now, is because of those past experiences. If you never had those experiences you would probably fall right into one now. Don't regret decisions you have made, learn from them, and become stronger from them and make better decisions in the future. "What doesn't kill you, can only make your stronger".
2007-08-27 16:37:50 · answer #8 · answered by ░▒▓► Aqua Fires 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would start all over and wish some of the things he did would have never happened because its going to bother me for the rest of my life. I think about it all the time but im sure itll go away .But yes iw ould start all over and make sure things went in the right direction.
2007-08-27 16:36:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The good times and the love we have for eachother out number our differences by quite a bit. Sure I would do it all over again, in a heart beat. In fact...I would have found him sooner if it was possible.
2007-08-27 16:34:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋