I have been with my husband 5 years and the last year or so for various different reasons have been quite difficulr between us. He has been away for a month to visit his family who live abroad (idecided to stay at home for a bit of space for us to reflect ect)
He is flying home Wednesday and I would like to kinda get the love and romance back, I am meeting him from the airport and am really excited about seeing him now. I plan to dress real pretty for him to think "Wow" but i really want that sparkle back! Any advice? Im really hoping the phrase "absence makes the heart grow fonder" is true!
2007-08-27 09:24:36 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thanks so far for all answers, they are all brilliant, thanks guys x
2007-08-27 09:43:00 · update #1
Play it by ear and remember he may be tired and jet-lagged.Flying can be a real hassle. So make your home as welcoming as possible and chill with him for the evening. Tell him you missed him so much, and leave it there.
2007-08-27 09:29:18 · answer #1 · answered by pufferoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it as a new beginning. the spark should be there for you guys. Absence does make the heart grow fonder and if he feels the same the spark will be there. Enjoy being back together. don't start with the way things were. Once he is home and things are getting back to normal..talk to each other with out accusing each other of things and saying the other was wrong. That won't help.
2007-08-27 09:31:10 · answer #2 · answered by chris d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are both wanting the same thing, then I think you can make it work. Start dating again. Find some fun things to do together that you haven't done in a while. So many cities offer things like movies in the park, farmers markets and these such things that some of us never look into. It may be fun to find a few things in your town...together...and decide to do a few. My aunt and Uncle have started doing this recently and are having a great time.
2007-08-27 09:34:03 · answer #3 · answered by lifeisgood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to invent the spark, it doesn't stay alive forever. You have to remember what made you fall in love with him from the begining. Think of all the great times you've had together and forget the bad, also think about all the things you love about him. That is the way to keep the spark alive. Plan a romantic evening. Many times us women complain that our men aren't romatic enough but truth is they just don't know how to be so we need to do it for them.
2007-08-27 09:31:19 · answer #4 · answered by misbotta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That's a lucky guy. But don't jump on him when he leaves the terminal building. Talk gently, slowly and caressingly. He'll be tired, I presume.
First words I'd love to hear on my return.
"How was the flight?"
Then follow up with
"I've really missed you." ... because it sounds like you have. Then take him home. Make he feel relaxed and see what happens.
If on the other hand he wants a brew with the boys, hit him with the frying pan! :-)
2007-08-27 09:32:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!! All these are really great answers so far!! I agree with you. When he walks off that plane is is going to see you looking AWESOME!! Maybe you can have his favorite dinner ready for him when he comes home.
Here are a list of ideas:
*Full body massage...men LOVE this, and it should work for you, as long as he is not to tired from the flight!! :) Make sure if you do this wear something sexy under the clothes you are picking him up in :D
*Do something special for him...maybe have something for him on his nightstand when you guys go to bed as a couple..anything from his favorite candy to his favorite pic
*If you have a perfume that's his favorite, wear it..
*Let him sleep in when you wake in the morning...make his fav. breakfast..
These are just a few...Let me know if you need more help...Most Of all ENJOY eachother!!!!
2007-08-27 09:41:12 · answer #6 · answered by blondieoftexas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring "love" back is usually trying to re-capture that "in love" feeling. The thing is the "in love" feeling is the excitement of exploration. Anything that you could do with confidence that is different from what he expects will give that feel of exploration, but I do warn you that over time you will have to move to the next stage of "loving" which is much more about acceptance of who we really are.
2007-08-27 09:42:03 · answer #7 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time will tell just do what you said get dressed up get your hair done look good for him and have a nice romantic evening at home alone. Maybe have a romantic meal ready or a catered one there depending on your budget and then just a whole night of candles, talking, romantic music and yourselves. you go girl ;p
2007-08-27 09:29:35 · answer #8 · answered by youcandoit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a fresh new exciting sex with your husband in a total different place. lol haha When my wife left for 14 days to visit family of hers. She came back to me like a roaring tiger. It was super awesome and great! My wife has not been like a tiger in years...actually over ten yrs back of our marriage. lol haha
2007-08-27 10:52:47 · answer #9 · answered by pain_of_unhappiness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't force anything and if you see a problem now is not the time to hash it out. trying and act like everything is ok even if only for that night. show him why he married you in the first place.
2007-08-27 09:33:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋