we live in a two family home but we renovated it and made it one big house. We enjoy living together but latley he is so mean to her. She has cried everyday this week. My husband told me to stay out of it but I really think my hubby should talk to his brother.They normally get along but this week has been BAD!!
2007-08-27 09:23:31 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
lisadurrence he just got fired form his job and hes been really stressed...
2007-08-27 09:30:25 · update #1
normally he si really good to ehr...
2007-08-27 09:31:11 · update #2
Your hubby is right in away. If she knows he is under a lot of stress then she needs to let things go. Your hubby should talk with him cause it causes stress in the whole house but, on the other hand he could hurt his pride and it could get real uncomfortable fast in that house...
2007-08-27 09:33:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Normally, I'd say stay out of it since it's not your relationship. But the fact that you all live together and it is affecting your life at home makes it everyones problem, not just theirs. Personally, I would try talking to my husband about it and letting him know that it was making me uncomfortable living with them (it's your home too after all), and get to some agreement with your husband about when/if you should intervene, etc.
2007-08-27 09:30:16 · answer #2 · answered by squirrely 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have to agree with your husband about staying out of it. There is always something you can offer though, you can tell her that you are there if she needs someone to talk to (but only keep it between you and her) or a shoulder to cry on. I'm sure she could use something like that. If she does feel comfortable confiding in you then make sure you can just keep it between you two, and that means no telling your husband , mother, anybody, etc.!! Just let her know you're there for her if she needs someone.
2007-08-27 09:30:49 · answer #3 · answered by ~{Graciela}~ 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wait until they throw stuff or punches, then you can call the cops and step in. But they could be going through some serious stuff this week. Stay out but keep an eye on it to make sure it doesn't escalate.
2007-08-27 09:32:02 · answer #4 · answered by Manny 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The fact that he's yelling at her isn't good. I do think he's right it's not your or your husband's place. But your husband could tell your brother that's not an appropriate way to deal with his wife.
2007-08-27 09:27:07 · answer #5 · answered by Missy Saffron 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he needs to get a job of course. your husband is within his rights to remind his brother that a good man does not pick on or scream at a woman, especially in front of others no matter how many jobs he has lost.
2007-08-27 10:12:13 · answer #6 · answered by jaded 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok deal with it for the week and see what happens but after that yea your hubby needs to talk to his brother. Tell him there will be two couples arguing in the house if he doesn't
2007-08-27 09:27:11 · answer #7 · answered by youcandoit 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
From not knowing more facts, I am led to believe this bro in-law is drinking to heavely or doing some kind of drugs.
Is he faithful?
I was in a simular situation. It's how my hubby got me to leave so he could carry on with his new gf.
2007-08-27 09:32:04 · answer #8 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would tell him that if HE won't say anything to his brother, that YOU will. Verbal abuse has no place in a relationship. Stress, bills, whatever's going on between the two of them, it's no excuse for your brother in law to mistreat his wife. Be there for her, but please speak up about the situation.
2007-08-27 09:33:07 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. GTO 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
has anything changed this week for them? something to add stress to his life??? If so that could be the problem. It is not your place to say anything but maybe you could talk to your SIL and offer her your support. If you can give her support and guidance then maybe she can get them the help they need.
2007-08-27 09:28:01 · answer #10 · answered by chris d 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋