Do all husbands do this?

Question

My husband is always tired...to tired to be together, to tired to go out, too tired to ..well you know. When I try to talk to him about bills or straightening out our credit or doing things to the house or about us hes like I don't want to talk aboutit right now. I am pretty sure alot of women have to deal with this I just have to know about how many. Whats his deal? Never wants to talk about anything I am always bitching and is always too tired from working. Alright guys whats the deal?

Says I complain meaning I want to save to buy a house and why doesn't he ever want to talk about anything. Or thinks i am byatching when I ask why is he always too tired to help with the house the kids. I don't ask for much.

Ok this was not a comment on how good my husband is which I know he is Sara I am soo sorry I didn't start the question off i with something positive about him but this question was about the things I don't agree with. I love my husband so you can take your negative feedback and go.

Sophie not sarah

Answer 1

to him, this is alot, i went through this, although i am not married, and it was because he was way to stressed out about money. my guy felt as if he wasn't making enough, or felt like he couldn't do anything to have fun and go somewhere because their wasn't enough cash and all he did was work, and it felt like he was just working, working, working. if this sounds like your case, think of something he has fun doing, not what you have fun doing, and make him do it, trust me he will have a good time, and things will get better.

Answer 2

My husband is the same way - back when we first met he carred about my feelings, now if I try to tell him something bothers me he either falls asleep, turns the tv on, or walks away, no matter the situation or topic of discussion. He has become less carring of my needs/concerns. I was getting "it" twice a month for about 7 months IF i was lucky - so I finally I started getting disgusted with him, because the ONLY time I was getting IT is when HE wanted it, and it just doesn't work that way - women are PEOPLE too, and men sometimes take for granted when they have a good woman. the ONLY thing I do is ***** at my husband sometimes, and if that's all I do than he's lucky, im not out running around on him, talking to other guys and so forth, I sit at home with our 3 children all day (which sorry men but this is considered a JOB)...cook, clean, do his laundry and still give him an hour after work to go work out or relax before asking him to help with the kids....but yes honey, all husbands do this...just start acting like him, like you don't care, it's hard yes it is, but he will start feeling neglected and so forth, which will allow him to open his eyes and see how you feel....goodluck girl!!

((EDIT)) - as an above poster said - I do know my husband works, works and works - and because we have 3 children who require things at this time, he feels like he works for nothing, even though we have a roof over our heads and food on the table and the children have EVERYTHING they need, and some things they want, he doesn't feel like it's enough - like his family should have EVERYTHING they want....it's a man thing - try to get him concentrated on starting his own business maybe....mine is starting his landscaping business next summer, and we will be much better off 3 years from now - I don't know, I think also comunication is very important, if he's not willing to listen to you, MAKE him listen....when I make mine listen, he doesn't say a word, which pisses me off even further, because he doesn't confirm or doubt the things i say....but at least I know he's soaking it up, and possibly feels bad for not listening sooner.....

Answer 3

lol I thought you were talking about my husband! NO seriously my husband has a bad habit of thinking anytime I say something he doesnt want to hear or doesnt think is right or ask him a question Im "bitching or complaining". When I ask him to do something Im bitching or on his a**. We however do not have issues with bills we have issues with his hobby that costs us over 20,000 a year! He spends every weekend doing his hobby and every free moment. Its to the point our 15 month old cries and screams when dad walks out the door because he KNOWS dad isnt going to be back soon. My husband will say he'll be back in an hour and eight hours later he comes in. He's been 2 hrs late for dinner with friends and I could go on and on. He is the owner of his own business (actually co-owner i have 51%) and goes to work at 545 comes in the door at 7pm (its an hr drive from the office here) and there are times he doesnt come straight home he stops at the track to work on his cars but when he's got a baby that misses daddy and we dont spend any time together theres a problem. Thats our only problem in our marriage wish we could solve it. Sunday was the final race here in ND where we now reside and I thought GREAT we can spend more time together but he gets in last night and informs me he's also going to drive to Montana (7 hrs away) to race now on weekends! I put my family first he puts his hobby first its more of an addiction. I dont know what the deal is and I know ive rambled but I wish all of us could just communicate better with our spouses there would be lower divorce rate

I would like to add my husband is my best friend and I love him to death he thinks when he gets home his day is done. We have 2 children one is 15 months old the other is 14yrs old and terminally ill my "job" never ends he doesnt realize how stressful this can be on me.

Answer 4

Sounds like an overwelmed me. Too much going on and so I tend to shut down, and my favorite words: "I'm too tired" and "can we talk about this later" but later never comes. This frustrates my wife to no end and she feels that she has to do something about it and begins to critize me for my lack of interest in her feelings. Soon, an hour passes and she's still talking and I've shut her out. We done everything from trying to set appointments with each other to just flat out trying to ignor it.
But not all is lost and we are learning to communicate. And since she is more invloved in this process than I am, I've beginning to feel a difference in my own attitude. One day she just came up to me and sat on my lap and said: "I love you and cherish you, and I honor you for all you do fo us and the kids. Thanks for taking care of us!" then she got up and walked away, my jaw hanging open, limp with contiplation. The door had been opened for communication. Later, my wife addmitted that she was too critical and was pulling me down. I'll let her share the rest.

Hi - I'm the wife and know just how you feel. I though if I rode him and put him down he'd rebell and do the opposit. I couldn't be more wrong. He needed to be built up and most encouraged as most men do. Us women really do have the power to shape our marriages, but we just aren't tough that in school.
Critisim may seem fairly harmless, even "constructive" under certian circumstances. Yet it has the potential to bring about the slow, painful death of a love relationship: when critisim drips unchecked, love dies by inches. The deadly destroyer of marriage, critisim should be replaced by encouragement and edification. Unburden him with high demands and start at the beginning when you fisrt fell in love with him and watch the responsible man in him start to bloom. It worked for us! Good luck!

Answer 5

youcandoit, by experience u wd have known by now how tired a person feels at the end of a grinding day at work, the traffic snarl to return home and perhaps a nagging partner. Plz give him a welcome smile, with a hot cuppa tea. you will be surprised to change in his attitude. He will be willing to sit with u and sort out home affAIRS IN mutual understanding, as we did.
An outing once a month would bring to surface whatever is buried deep in his as well in ur heart. Have a candid chat n enjoy life.

Answer 6

That is bullcrap. No man stays that tired all of the time. If he is that tired then he needs to take his *** to a nursing home and have someone wipe his butt and feed him for the rest of his life. Any self-respecting man doesn't get that way.

Answer 7

My husband is NEVER too tired to...well you know...but sometimes he doesn't want to go out for days. We spend more time renting movies and staying in than going out. He procrastinates about some things but ultimately he takes care of his chores.

Answer 8

Not sure, if he's always to tired for anything . . .kind of weird. Myself or my wife may be tired sometimes, but we always take time to talk and spend time together

Answer 9

Sounds like he is right.. you didn't say one nice thing about him thru this whole question Probably the first thing that comes out of your mouth when he comes home is "take out the garbage " or "set the table"

It should be" Hi, Honey I'm glad to see you..."

Answer 10

if hes to tired for you know what,, check his pulse,,he might be dead