When someone talks about another subject he always says let me tell you the story about when this or that happen to me. I feel like punching him in the mouth. Why does he do that?
2007-08-27 09:04:08 · 10 answers · asked by Pepper1black 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
trying to get people to approve of him. He might not feel like he is well liked and this is away of him getting people to notice him. Try talking to him about it and let him know that it is nice to just listen once in awhile. He might have low self esteem....
2007-08-27 09:10:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're married to MY husband! LOL
There are many reasons someone does what your husband and my husband do....
He may be insecure (even if he doesn't seem to be, he may be acting with bravado to hide - even from himself - the fact he doesn't really feel that sure of himself) and this is his way of ensuring that he doesn't blend into the background and be forgotten....
Maybe he's just nervous and doesn't know what else to say....
He may just have poor communication skills....
He may have become this way at least in part as a reaction to negative feelings he may have with his relationship with you and/or with other people (if he doesn't feel like he's appreciated or maybe he feels lonely, he may be trying to divert himself from those feelings by telling things that make him feel "real")....
Or, he may just be egotistical and self-involved.
If the latter is the reason, he may not be able to change.
If you have talked to him about this, telling him how it makes you feel (without scolding or yelling at him) and what reaction it causes in other people (especially you), and he still continues this behavior, you may be stuck with things the way they are. If you haven't done so already, find a good couple's therapist. Maybe s/he can help. The longer you wait the less likely he is to be able to change his behavior - IF it's possible for him to change at all. So seek help ASAP. Good luck!
2007-08-27 09:37:42 · answer #2 · answered by ilenerm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought I was the only wife in the world with a husband like this. I'm at my wits end! He never asks about me, my family, my job. He cuts me off after one minute to tell me of a similar occurrence in his past and goes on for thirty minutes or more! Now he's out of work and in pain 24/7 and that's all he talks about. Meanwhile, I'm supporting us. I could go on and on! I guess I really just need to vent before I have a stroke! I want out so bad.
2016-04-07 11:14:21 · answer #3 · answered by P. Lynn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are so good and patient wife that still with him after all those time having a self centered husband. Why not try to walk out when he start turning the story to him or tell him "why not let's talk about true stories?"
2007-08-27 09:18:04 · answer #4 · answered by jaja15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Pepper,
Sounds completely infatuated with himself. May be a narcissist, depending on how well he treats you and other family members. If he is unwilling to listen or carry on an actual 2-way conversation, it's likely he is a narcissist.
Have you tried telling him "oh, you've already told that story twice"
Have you tried telling him how this affects others?
If he is completely self-absorbed and indifferent to the opinions of others, bringing this fact to his attention may be just the ticket to getting him to tone it down.
Good luck, this cannot be easy to handle ~
2007-08-27 09:15:24 · answer #5 · answered by yoak 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually that comes from insecurities, or overinflated ego. Have you talked to him about his doing this? He may not even realize that he is doing this. The show him those Saterday Night Live clips where that lady is one-upping everything that Molly Shannon is saying and say that he is doing something like that.
2007-08-27 09:11:47 · answer #6 · answered by Qyllix 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex husband was like that. He had only two topics of conversation: His aches and pains and his problems at work. These are all he talked about. When I eventually talked to him about his two and only topics in a nice way, he switched to another topic about himself. If this happens to you, get out and get out as fast as you can. Please don t waste your life.
2015-05-29 00:53:10 · answer #7 · answered by Lynch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, there are a lot of people like that, they are not interested in anything about you, they don't even ask about you..... they either interrupt you while you are talking, or the minute you stop talking they ramble on about themselves.
i avoid people like that at all costs!
2007-08-27 09:14:24 · answer #8 · answered by Cornell is Hot! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you with my X husband?!? hehehehe....I hate know it alls, worse are the know it alls who really don't know dick. Its not that he's sharing....because we all do that. It has to be the way that it is delivered that puts you off.
2007-08-27 09:14:59 · answer #9 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DIVORCE!!!
Don't put up with him anymore, move on ... get a divorce, and take as much as you can. Always works.
2007-08-27 09:10:23 · answer #10 · answered by Alyssa 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋