My babys dad and I have been together off and on for over 2 years. It has been a very unstable and rocky relationship. We were both at fault for the drama and fights but now we have a child together. Shortly after she was born he said he would want to be with other women in the future and that he couldn't see himself getting over our past and be able to be with me. I took that to heart and tried to let him go in my heart. Recently he has said he wants a fresh start and to put everything behind us. He promises me that he doesn't want anyone else. He treated me horribly while I was pregnant and even after. Just now he is behaving the way a mature man would. The problem is he pesters me to be intimate with him and I don't really want that or him. I want to be a family for my daughter and for all of us but how can I trust someone that has disrespected me, not appreciated me at all, and told me he wants someone else and then goes back on it. I don't know what to do.
2007-08-27 08:42:34 · 5 answers · asked by lostgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You sound like you've been on a very rocky journey. I think a big part of you knows the answer, but accepting that means giving up your vision of what a family should be. Mother, father and child. But staying with a man who cares so little for you may only lead you to ask the same question again later on.
If you leave this man not only will you gradually gain new strength in yourself, but your daughter will not be influenced by the troubles that seem likely to happen again.
In time you can grow and have the self belief to find a new man. One who has the maturity and compassion required for family life.
Good luck :)
2007-08-27 08:59:28 · answer #1 · answered by intuition 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you should know when you are tired of certain situations. If you are feeling leery about the relationship due to past occurcences, then you should be. No one deserves to be mistreated. You have to first love and respect yourself. Eventually no matter how much love you have for a person, if you're not happy you will soon grow apart. I won't be the one to say to leave or stay because deep in your heart you already know what is best for you. Just pray about it and daon't ever think you can't rase a child alone. My kid is 6 and we are straight with or woithout her dad
2007-08-27 16:33:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hate to give this repeated advice, but you guys really need some counceling to help you work out the issues. do it for your daughter. she deserves a decent family life with a family that she didn't ask for.
2007-08-27 15:53:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he has to be a responsible father to the baby first, If he can manage that then you will consider other things.
My guess is he will run, because he is only interested in getting in your pants....again.
2007-08-27 15:48:52 · answer #4 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the loser and concentrate on your baby.
2007-08-27 15:47:08 · answer #5 · answered by Suzy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋