why dont i have any confidence in myself?

Question

it seems like i always feel really depressed. people always tell me about how attractive i am and how i should be a model and all. But deep inside i think am hideous. why do i feel this way? what can i do to improve my self-confidence? and make more friends?

Answer 1

Most people have a small voice in their head telling them all the things they can't do, aren't good enough for, etc.

Positive affirmations can drown that voice out, turn your mood around and so on. There are a lot of good books on affirmations, I usually suggest THE POWER OF POSITIVE THINKING because just about any library or book store will have it. Amazon usually has a ton of used copies available.

Answer 2

Stop thinking like your not good enough. You can do anything, or be anyone that you put your mind on being. Self Esteem is a wonderful tool. But you have to believe in yourself, and stop thinking in the negative all of the time. If people are telling you that you are attractive, then believe it. God didn't make any junk, he made you to be the absolute best person that you can be. He gave you the power to use your brain, and to set goals. Little ones that are reachable, and bigger ones once the small ones are accomplished. Have you set some small goals for yourself? Do you think that you are attractive? I'm not talking about a striking beauty, I mean attractive. I'll bet you are. Ok, let me tell you, believing in yourself must be your first goal. Secondly you need to know that you can do anything you set your mind that you want to accomplish in your life. Don't expect to achieve these things overnight. It takes time. But be postivite, and think positive in everything you do or attempt to do. When you are around new people or are meeting people for the first time, do not be frightened of them, and stand your ground as a proud person should. Don't be cocky, or go an ego trip, just be upstanding and be a good person. Be the best person you can possibly be. Treat everyone with kindness. and respect unless they show you they don't deserve to be treated that way. Your general nature will shine through, and the decent person that you become will also shine. People that you meet will also see what kind of a person you really have become. God Bless and Good Luck, don't forget be positive and the best person you possibly can be, everything else is relative.

Answer 3

10 Ways to Instantly Build Self Confidence
Self confidence is the difference between feeling unstoppable and feeling scared out of your wits. Your perception of yourself has an enormous impact on how others perceive you. Perception is reality — the more self confidence you have, the more likely it is you’ll succeed.

Although many of the factors affecting self confidence are beyond your control, there are a number of things you can consciously do to build self confidence. By using these 10 strategies you can get the mental edge you need to reach your potential.

1. Dress Sharp

2. Walk Faster

3. Good Posture

4. Personal Commercial - listen to motivational speech.

5. Gratitude

6. Compliment other people

7. Sit in the front row

8. Speak up

9. Work out

10. Focus on contribution

Answer 4

I don't know what you look like but I kinda get this feeling too. Maybe join a gym, and work out and just improve yourself so that you feel beter. If you don't have a six pack, getting a little toned one is very sex from my point of view.

I love a sexy girl in shape, that doesn't smoke, or drink and is very athletic. I hope I spelled that right. If you don't want to do that, you could go out and try to make friends and see if people warm up to you quickly.

I know a few girls that just have a knockout smile. And when they just smile it makes others go: "Wow she looks pretty friendly" Stuff like that.

Ether way, at one point you'll just have to ether get over it, threw it, or let it smother you. So while you can, I say take those feelings, break there legs with a hammer and lock them out of the house. :D

Answer 5

It is very easy to tell you why you do not have any confidence and I am not trying to be funny at all. You do not have any confidence because you do not want to have it. That is right you do not want it. It is that simple, it is not too complicated

Look you can be the most attractive woman in the world, it is not going to give you confidence. Confidence comes within you and having a beautyfull body helps you in many ways.

To have confidence you must bring it out of yourself within you. What I mean is this; you have to say to yourself, I will have confidence, you must be positive within yourself. Another ingredient to having confidence and it is so powerful that you can have anything if you want it. You must believe in God that he will give you the strength to be positive and confident. With God nothing is imposible. With God you can do everything,

I do not know you and I am not trying to bring you closer to God or make you a church goer but all I am telling you in having confidence you can use the power of God and it is also up to you to go and do the things that you want. Feel confidence, get rid of the I do not have confidence attitude. Put in your mind, I have the confidence and can accomplish anything attitude, because you have the power of God. And when you have God in your side, who can be against you.
Try this in the morning, say this 5 times before starting your day:
Today is going to be a wonderful day,
Today I will sucessfully handle all my problems that will arise today.
God is here, He is with me and He will get me through.
It is great to be alive.

I say this every morning and it helps me a lot. I have a lot of confidence and it is up you if you want confidence or not.

I hope I was helpfull..take care, Rob

Answer 6

how is your home life ? what do you do outside of school or work ? I felt that way ...it felt kind of lonely too.. then I decide I didn't want to feel bad anymore...then i got into some things that I was really interested in. I really liked to be creative but didn't know how to let it out, so I joined a ceramics class, the people were a lot of fun, and i got to create some really beautiful pieces and believe me i had nooo experience in it before I started, I also loved to dance so me and one of my friends joined a dancing school, we took tap and jazz and had loads of fun, we even has recitals!!!.Did I mention that I was 21 when I started, so you can never be too old or too young. I say if you find something you like a lot ,then do it. I found confidence in myself because I was actually happy with the things I was doing in my life.

Answer 7

See a counslor or doctor, it will take time to improve your self image. But, for the mean time write a list of all your good atributes physical and more. Every moring on your way to work/school repeat them over and over in your head.

Friends are easy to make, you just need to be out around people. People like to talk about themselves, so ask questions, and be a good listner.

And Fake It til you Make It.

Answer 8

first thing you have to do is stop thinking of yourself based on what others tell you you look like and should do. give your depression to Jesus Christ and start each day by loving yourself and everything around you. wake up with a smile knowing that you are beautiful first on the inside then on the outside. soon depressed will be out the window and confidence will settle in your heart.

Answer 9

IT's really simple yaar. ..I had the same experience.. ur feeling..I have a answer which looks simple and funny.. but it is the ultimate answer for all.. don not think about others.. be brave.. Why should u feel shy? timid? Have u done something?/?? R u ugly to feel uncomfortable?? NO! SO...... develop this attitude...(my attitude) "I m a bond. whats matter with others... let them do their work and let me mine... " also as our friend is saying.. be casual always and speak friendly...with a smile always....... try to say hai to ur friends 1 st.. that make them feel good and brings them close to u ... which will help u grow in relations finally what u need!!! ALL THE BEST.

Answer 10

Hmmm, confidence issues are a toughie with women. I had a beautiful ex who was also smart and had tons of personality, but low self confidence.

People who have confidence "just know"... they just know that they're good looking, or smart, or athletic, etc. So even if you don't feel like you're good looking–act like you're good looking (or smart, or athletic) and eventually you will start developing more self confidence.

When people tell you you're attractive say, "thanks" or think to yourself "damn right". When you're in front of a mirror just say "damn, I look good." instead of nitpicking every little thing that's not perfect about you.