i'm a young lady facing problem---plz advise?

Question

i am a soft spoken young lady,22+, recently appointed as a teacher ina remote village.here some girls are even of my age.most of them r late learner and less interested in learning. some older girls are creating problems in maintaining discipline. when i report this to headmaster he put blame me only and advised me to punish the disobedient girls.even he told me to use cane like other teachers.still now i can not even think of , like other teacher, i'm hitting a girl of my age with a cane or making them kneeldown outside the class .will i start punishing girls? pl. advise

some of them r married women.

i made some girl getout off .but getting out of class they r used to 'walk' creating disturbance in other class also.thats wht they r given kneeldown punishment by the other teachers.

Answer 1

Do NOT use physical punishment - it's barbaric and ineffective. If the girls are disobediant, send them out of the classroom. Tell them that this classroom and the education it offers is a privilege - if they aren't here to learn then they might as well leave. Remind them that they are welcome to return when they are ready to learn and respect their fellow classmates.

Answer 2

Can you befriend the girls who are your age? And maybe try to make them understand the benefits of completing their educations. Maybe they don't realize what an opportunity they have. They may be facing negative reinforcement at home regarding seeking an education at all. Instead of hitting them (which won't benefit anyone), try encouraging them, praising them when they behave and try their best.

But when they start misbehaving, treat them like the children they are being. Be immediate and consistent in your reaction, so they will always know what the consequences will be if they do not listen to you.

If they disrupt class, send them out of the class without a minute of hesitation. The rest of the students deserve your full attention. Do not allow a wayward student to take your attention. Send them out and don't let them back into the class until they agree that they will behave.

But when they do as you want, don't forget to encourage that good behavior with supportive words and acknowledgement that you value them and want to see them succeed. Even the most troublesome student wants someone who recognizes their abilities and encourages them and *expects* the best from them. Set your standards for these girls and demand they live up to the standards.

You're the one in charge here and you don't need a cane.
You just need to make it crystal clear that you do not put up with any student who does not work and pay attention to you.
When the girls realize that they cannot get away with this behavior any more, they will either quit it or quit school. Either way, you will have done your job, which is to support the majority who wish to learn.

Answer 3

I don't think hitting the girls is going to help the situation (it may escalate or you may be the target). Your best to start off with figuring out the reasons why they are not willing to learn or listen to an authority figure. Let them know that you are the teacher and you should be treated with respect and in turn you will give them the respect they deserve. If they are not there to learn or ask for help then perhaps they should not be here in the first place.
Find ways to discipline without violence, more work or assignments or contact their parents for help. Ask other teachers what they do to gain control of their classrooms with out having to do physical harm or look online for ideas.
It's sad that your headmaster is demanding you solve this when it really should be up to him.
If it was me in your shoes I would be seeking a different school to teach at. It doesn't sound that appealing and I fear that one day I'll regret the person who I have become because of it.

Answer 4

Every child is different and has to be treated accordingly.I honestly feel as though what has worked for me is the bribe system.if its everyones going out to spend friday lunches with each other on picnic in school yard.everyone has to act decent to get to go.If you do not you sit inside!Candy and other rewards work well also..either ask for donations the kids would adore teen girls (make up books toiletries etc)I will give you this if you act respectable.
sweetie,they probably have never been taught and now at 21 or 22 seems a little late honestly...but you can work with things the best you have....I would send donations like that to help the school as i am sure others would.

Answer 5

Why are these older girls there? Is it by their own choice? Sit down with just the problem students and talk with them. Ask them why they are there and what they hope to learn. Ask them to explain to you how an education can help them and make their lives better. If they don't know what the value is, explain it to them. Think this through very carefully before you talk with them so you will know what you need to say to convince them that education has value to them. Then tell them that they are the role models for the younger students and therefore they need to show these younger girls how an adult behaves, and how an adult values an education to better herself. Perhaps these girls will have ideas for lessons, things they are interested in learning about. If you solicit their input and ideas and teach things which interest them, they are more likely to be cooperative and more likely to learn something from you.

Answer 6

I teach first grade in an inner city and even at that age, I have some very disruptive students. We are not allowed to use physical punishment. The students verbally abuse me and throw crayons at the back of my head as I write on the board. When I call the parents of these SIX YEAR OLDS....the moms tell me to call the police because they cannot handle their own kids.
Sorry I don't know what to tell you, I have the same kind of problems in a different way. GOOD LUCK

Answer 7

I understand u must be from India (most probably)....

caning is a terrible thing to do. Never Hit your students. Try to talk to them, find out why they are misbehaving and disrupting the discipline. Atleast one of them will understand ur situation and tell why they behave so. My guess is since u r so young, they almost treat u as equal to u, hence they dont see the need to be as disciplined as they are in other classes.

First talk to them and make them understand that these classes are for their good. But never beat them.

Become their friend and win their trust. that is the best way to make ur students listen to u.

Answer 8

If you are so confident, then why do you need our help in wanting to know if you are worthy of having a bf/gf? So you have listed 'good' qualities... any bad qualities lurking under all the surface?

Answer 9

Get out of that place ASAP and find a teaching position where you can continue to respect yourself as well as others.

If it is possible, please find a legal way to help these unfortunate kids because your true purpose for being there may not be to teach but to help make changes that will benefit humanity.

"There is a reason for everything".

Answer 10

i say do what you have to do to take control of you class