I really want to get pregnant, and I know my boyfriend does too. But I just want to make sure that we go over EVERYTHING we possible can before taking that step. What are the questions we need to ask each other, and what are the things we NEED to know.
2007-08-27 07:02:06 · 5 answers · asked by ♥ ~ lele ~ ♥ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
You need to make sure that both of you are ready for the responsibilty of having a child...and trust me it's not easy...also you need to make sure you are financially stable and able to provide for a child....and make sure this is really what you want...do you plan on getting married soon?? Do you have good insurance for the pregnancy and after the baby arrives...things like that...Good Luck
2007-08-27 07:08:42 · answer #1 · answered by It's a Girl!!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people will disagree with this, but you need to discuss marriage before pregnancy. It is better for financial and medical reasons. If your b/f has medical benefits through his job you cannot be on them unless you are married, and if something was to happen and you had a high-risk pregnancy and could not work you would need his benefits. It is also better for the child. I know several people that had parents that never married and when the relationships ended (And a lot of times they do) the dads of some of them refused to pay child support until a DNA test was done...even if they had been together for years. You also need to discuss parenting strategies, discipline, religion, sports, schooling, holidays, etc.
2007-08-27 07:11:48 · answer #2 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First consider marriage. According to statistics, 95% of unmarried couples split before the child enters school. There is a definite lack of committment there!
Secondly, find out what his parenting style might be. You both don't have to be on the same page, but you should be in the same chapter. My uncle and aunt are vastly different persons and the strain on their marriage was pretty bad. My uncle is a harsh disciplinarian while my aunt is a diversion or soft correction person. How many kids do you think you want? Are you both in agreement?
2007-08-27 10:00:04 · answer #3 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you financially ready? It costs around $40,000 for medical bills and labor. It'll cost around $5,000 for baby necessities. Who's going to take care of the baby after he/she is born? Can you take time off from work to take the baby for doctor visits? Are you okay with getting less to no sleep in the middle of the night for the first one year after the baby is born? Are you okay with not going out with friends and not having a regular social life?
2007-08-27 08:08:08 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs Apple 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first one needs to be "Will you marry me?" and the second one needs to be "Do you promise to love, honor and cherish ..." with the answers of "I do" from both of you, preferably in front of some family and friends.
Then worry about finances, discipline styles, division of household chores and childcare, in-law issues (see above) etc.
2007-08-27 07:09:03 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋