My boyfriend and I just moved in together. I guess it’s natural because they can’t hear themselves while they are sleeping, but I cannot get any sleep because his snoring is so bad. It does not appear he really wants to do much about it even though I have insisted. Does anyone have any suggestions?
2007-08-27 06:49:16 · 21 answers · asked by Melody 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I will add a few more details....
I of course did notice this before we moved in together. It does bother me that I have to tell him to use the nose spray and put on the nasal strip, and h acts frustrated. But, when I mention it, it's as if he is embarrassed over it. I thought of trying to tape record him so he can hear for himself. I think he does have sleep apnea, but trying to get him to ever go see the doctor is a whole other question!!!
2007-08-27 07:30:16 · update #1
you didn't noticed this BEFORE you moved in together? did you ever spend the night at his place (or him at yours) before living together? that would've been a sign.
2007-08-27 06:53:42 · answer #1 · answered by Gildardo F 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I have been married for 35 years and I still have that problem. I have tried earplugs, he has had sinus surgery, I have tried rolling him over. He has sleep apnea. He has a machine he is suppose to use but does not all the time. It bugs me as much as the snoring does. Honey I hate to say this, I really do, but after 20 years of no sleep I finally had to find another place to sleep. That does not mean we can't be in bed together, I just HAVE to SLEEP some place else. You will see. Good luck and sweet dreams.
nfd
2007-08-27 13:57:35 · answer #2 · answered by fishineasy™ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is no joke. I was absolutely driven to the edge by exactly this situation.
In fairness I would have to question why he was snoring. Over-weight people tend to snore, stressed people tend to snore...there can be a lot of medical reasons for this too, but my guess is his that his apparent apathy i sbugging you nearly as much as the snoring.
See if you can find a sound reason for his snoring. if it is poor positioning don't be shy about nudging him- the harder the better - into a different one. You can also buy nasal strips (but you'll have to get his co-operation for that one) or alternatively you can simply banish him to the other room.
There's no easy answer to this and I feel for you, I really do. I was sleep-deprived into harbouring murderous thoughts and we could only part after that. i hope this won't happen to you.
Good luck
2007-08-27 14:01:05 · answer #3 · answered by trebs 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my bf has the same problem...he snores so loud i can't sleep. The only thing i can suggest is two things, which i do myself...is when he's snoring real loud i tend to give him a little push and he'll roll over and snore a little less or best one that works for me is i go to sleep before he does so when i'm asleep i can't hear him. lol well good luck and if all else fail tell him your not going to sleep in the same bed with him. good luck and hope you get some good sleep soon.
2007-08-27 13:53:11 · answer #4 · answered by Babe 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sleep on the couch, or make him! I have the same problem, nasal spray doesn't work, there is a mouthpiece that is supposed to work, the only other alternative for mine is surgery which doesn't always work. They make this pillow that keeps a person from rolling into a sleep position but I have heard mixed reviews.
2007-08-27 13:53:08 · answer #5 · answered by LocalCelebMrsParks 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Like someone mentioned, ALWAYS see the Dr first, for underlying sleep disorder or snoring issues, that need to be looked at and treated right....Do ask him if he finds that when he gets up, has a 'sore throat', a sign he HAS BEEN SNORING!
If your Dr approves you to try this product, I forgot the name, it's like a band aid type that is applied across your nose area, to help you breathe and sleep easier. It is found at the pharmacy store.
Good luck & happy sharing the bed at peace, Kewt Couple! (GRINS)
2007-08-27 14:01:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am the same way--a light sleeper and snoring can be a big problem.
So before you start sleeping on the couch, try ear plugs, ask him to use breath right spray right before bed, or ask him to sleep on his side. Also try sleeping with the t.v. or radio on to help drown out his snoring.
2007-08-27 13:56:41 · answer #7 · answered by kim 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your boyfriend's snoring could be a much 'bigger' problem for him than it is for you ... snoring is the 'first and worst' sign of 'sleep apnea' ... and although you may not even 'know it' I'll bet that when your boyfriend 'stops snoring' for awhile it's because he's NOT BREATHING. Tell him to make an appointment to see a 'sleep disorder specialist' to be tested ... it could save your relationship and it could also SAVE HIS LIFE!
2007-08-27 13:53:43 · answer #8 · answered by Kris L 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Move out? Your are right he has sleep apnea. He is tired and goes to sleep before you cause he doesn't rest good at night. Good thing you discovered this before you had children.
2007-08-27 13:53:03 · answer #9 · answered by south of france 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start sleeping on the couch or get him some of those nasal passage opener strips that go across the nose. They work.
2007-08-27 13:55:02 · answer #10 · answered by Zipperhead 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
THERE IS A CHANCE THAT HE HAS SLEEP APNEA. DOES HE SOMETIMES STOP BREATHING OR MAKE STRANGE NOISES OTHER THAN THE SNORE? DOES HE MAKE SNORTING SOUNDS AND THEN START BREATHING NORMALLY? IT WOULD NOT HURT FOR HIM TO BE CHECKED OUT BY A DOCTOR.
2007-08-27 13:54:16 · answer #11 · answered by SCARLETT 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋