Should i go to college with my boyfriend?

Question

Right now i'm a senior in high school. My boyfriend is on his first year at central michigan. We want to go to college together once i graduate. (we've been togetehr for 2.5 years we are both 100% confident in our relationship) If i were to go to central with him when i graduate, id have to transfer to a different college because they don't have my major (nursing). my 2nd choice would be michigan state.. Its good for nursing. i wasn't originally planning on leaving home my 1st year untill i decided to go to school with him. If he were to get accepted to Michigan state then i would go there.. if he didnt they i would not. My last choice would be going to schoolcraft (community) my 1st 2 years and then transfer. I would stay at home and it would be alot cheaper. Am i basing my decisions too much on my boyfriend? Would it be stupid to go 2 hours away to central and then have to transfer? I'm a smart girl with a good head on my shoulders i just need some advice.

Answer 1

First, go to school where they have the best school for your program!

I grew up around the same area you seem to live in and actually went to both Schoolcraft and MSU (Biology major baby!). I saves so much cash getting my pre-reqs out of the way by going to Schoolcraft and then transferring to MSU, so I could not give good advice without sharing that experience. Trust me, no matter what people will say to you in school there is nothing wrong with attending classes at a community college, and for the most part people seem to take classes there during the summer to get a lot of their pre-reqs done as well.

Before she retired, my mom was a director of education for a major hospital in the area and has always said good things about MSU's nursing school.

As for your boyfriend, he should understand that you need to go to school where they are going to provide you the best education you can get and not because he is going there as well. There is a bit of a romantic appeal to attending the same school, but why go through the pain of transfering down the road if you can get into the school you would want to attend from the start? It is one thing do go through this to save money, but why spend a ton of cash to go to one school only to have to spend the same ammount of cash to go to the school that has your major in the end?

If you are 100% on the strength of your relationship, going to the same college shoudl not matter. I hope this helps, good luck (and hopefully SPARTANS RULE!)

Answer 2

I know it's hard, but I wouldn't base my education on my boyfriend. If nursing if what you truly want to do, then you need to go where you will get the best education. If your relationship is strong, then it will last no matter where the two of you are.

Things can change in a year. Your relationship can get better or it can even fade. That's not something you have to worry about right now, but it is a possibility. Going away to school changes a person--not in a bad way. It's a growth process. You'll learn that when you go to college.

It sounds like you know what you want to do with your life. Follow that path. And why can't he follow you? There is no law that says a woman has to follow a man where he goes. Relationships work both ways. If they don't, then that's not a solid relationship.

Good luck with your decision.

Answer 3

I hate saying this because i dont want to deter you from what you want to do, but highschool relationships barely ever move on to college for the obvious reasons of hes away, the trust issue, hes constantly being tempted while your not there. Look all im saying is if you both REALLY think you'll stay together then go to his college, but you have to accept that things might happen you won't like.

Answer 4

I believe that you have to look out for yourself first....take the route that gives you the best options in life, if that means a better education, than go that route. Even if you end up marrying this man, you never know what life throws your way, and it's always good to know you can take care of yourself. If the relationship is that strong, then it will stand the test of time.

Answer 5

You should attend the best school for what your future holds. You should not base your choice on your boyfriend in any way shape or form. Although you are very confident in your relationship, things can and do go wrong. Be true to yourself first.

Answer 6

go to the school that you would want to go to. The school that is best for you. If you truly love each other, you could handle it. My cousin and his girlfriend went to separate schools (1.5 hours apart) and now they both have graduated and just got married.

You don't want to regret going into a situation because you want to make someone else happy. Take care of yourself first.

Answer 7

It all depends on what you want to do in life. Don't go just cause your boyfriend is there.
If your really into being successful and going to get a job then do what YOU want to do!

Your boyfriend should understand if you are going to a different college. If he doesn't then well hes not a REAL friend.

Answer 8

I think you should toatlly think about what you want to do that can help your career. Personally i think you should go to Michigan State because i live in Michigan and I've heard great thing's about it. You could see your boyfriend though if he was aceppted into michiagn state. So think about it.

Answer 9

Go to the college that has the best program for the major you want.
In five years you may be broken up with BF , with a less desirable degree.,
If bf won't last until you have your degree, it wasn't meant to be...

Answer 10

Your priority should be your study not the boy friend.