really need help teenager and scared?

Question

im a pregnant and i was just wondering in your opion what would be better natural birth water birth or other
im fine about having the baby imjust really scared about giving birth loads of my friends have different opions none that have helped me really help me please

Answer 1

Hi ya, I did hospital for first and home for 2nd two, wish I done first at home too.
I havent done water, but i know plenty who really rave about it.
If you wana email me, I can put you in touch with lots of home birth and water birth support people. It depends where you live.
Im sure there must be websites you can look up.
If you can get one doulas are very good support and can help support what you want, they wont make your decision for you but make sure to the best they can that you get what you want out of your birth.
I had drugs, pethedine and entonox (gas and air) with my first, all it did was fuzz up my head but didnt seem to touch the pain. I believe my pain was worse because my head was fuzzy and i was frightened and unsure. I even asked for an epidural, but fortunately didnt get one.
With the other two they were home births, short births and no pain relief, no tears, etc.
You just really need good support around you, if you have a close friend who has been through their own positive birth or has been at other peoples births they might well be a good choice as a birth partner. Keep talking to your positive friends. Theres no point listening to the negative and scarey stories - we all know whats possible- you just need to keep positive and if medical intervention is required you will just get on with it in the moment. Theres absolutely no point dwelling on and worrying about the worst things that might happen, focus on the most positive type of birth you would like to happen, keep thinking it, just write into your birth plan a back up plan to follow if it turns out to be necessary.

Good luck.

Answer 2

When i was 17 i had my 1st daughter - everyone told me how horrible labor and birth was - i refused to listen to them and you should too.

Mind of matter - go in knowing it will be ok, your body knows what to do - and you are strong enough to do it. I wouldn't turn down the option of medication or epidural you may find you need them (i didn't) but try and go natural and see how strong you really are not jsut physically but emotionally and mentally as well.

I personally would never recommend a water birth, being in warm water during labor is nice it helps relax you, but there have been so many babies that have been harmed by this and mothers scarred emotionally for life. My former employer had a water birth, attended by a midwife, and her daughter is mentally retarded, will never walk, talk or have a life. Many water births may be just fine, but there is always that chance...


I wish you good luck and try not to stresss to much, labor and delievery are really nto that bad (im about to deliver baby number 5 in a couple weeks - all have been natural births)

Answer 3

Sign up for a child birth education class at the hospital and they can walk you through your options and the ups and downs of each on. Also, I think every woman is a little unsure of what to expect with the first one and this can make us afraid, but I have noticed that as my time draws nearer, I have more peace about it. Nature does something to you that just makes you feel ready and empowered because two things. You are so ready to hold that precious little one, and you would really like control of your body back. Good luck, you CAN do this.

Answer 4

I had a natural waterbirth and it was AWESOME! My first I had all the drugs and the birth was horrible and I barely remember anything about the birth. My 2nd, I had the waterbirth and it was so peaceful and calming. Why don't you try hypnobirthing classes or the bradley method. It is really helpful in having the birth go the way you want. Good Luck. I had had my first at 19 and 2nd at 21. You can do it!!

Answer 5

I had an epidural w/my first. Now, both of my feet are numb. I had Nubane w/my second and was stoned when I delivered. Plus, she screamed non-stop due to the drug.

I had a waterbirth w/my third and can't wait to do it again. See if you can get a doula. Research it on the net and check around town. Many offer their services free of charge. Make sure to take lamaze. It will help you be in control. You can do this! Your body is designed to birth babies!

I'm proud of you for giving this baby life!

Answer 6

I had a medicated birth, but wish I hadn't. I'm going all natural next time around. I think a water birth would be very relaxing though. You have plenty of time to research. Don't be scared. By the time you're due you will be ready for it.

Answer 7

I am always concerned w/ pain. I'm much older than you (37) and I know that pain and I don't get along. Thus, I had to have an epidural. Otherwise, I would have never made it. The contractions were very strong and I guess, I don't handle pain very well. So, I would strongly encourage you to have an epidural and deliver.
Water births are still new to me. I'm just not into all the "new" options. I prefer normal deliveries because I know most doctors have done them over and over again...tons of experience.

Answer 8

talk to your dr. go to the hospital that you have chose they will give you a tour and the nurses will explain what happens,where,when and how..Natural childbirth is really not that bad-don't get me wrong IT HURTS---but once you see that beautiful tiny face all the pain in the world will simply go away,you'll be so wrapped up in the baby that you won't even remember the pain..I had 2 natural and 3 with epidural-the3 epidural numbs you from waist down its kinda like getting a tooth pulled at the dentist-you are awake,you can feel the pressure,you know what he's doing but it doesn't hurt.

Answer 9

I did natural with both my kids, but being a teenager and scared you may want to look into an epidural. I don't think there's any shame in that at all. It takes a lot of guts to carry a pregnancy to term at your age and if an epidural helps you get through the whole process, that's something only you can decide.

Answer 10

hi jade s.
look at the options your hospital has to offer. if this is ur fist child i would have it in a hospital. if something gos wrong then u can have help.
some people say water bith is good and less tramatic on the baby. i think its a little odd. plus u r sitting in all that blood and after baby stuff.
i did not need medician in all 3 of my labor and delivorys. but i also mentaly prepared my self for the pain.
just find a hospital setting that u enjoy, get familar with the rules. it will be ok. there are lots of choses that overflood even the most experance mother.
good luck, have fun being a momma