Wife or Mom?

Question

Ok this is mainly for men but women I'd like to know how you are treated?
Curious...(men) do you tend to treat your wife like your Mom? You know expecting her to cook, clean, do your laundry, get you up, keep up with your social life as well as "where you put your _____"? Or do you treat her as your wife....Thanking her for the job she does and making sure she feels like a wife and not just the maid/mom?
Think about it....say thank you! Don't have the attitude of "I thank her by giving her a nice house and etc." TELL HER THANK YOU! If you do that already I give you a HUGE pat on the back.
Women...do you feel like a MOM to hubby or wife?

PS.....FOR THOSE OF YOU BASHING ME FOR ASKING THIS QUESTION...I DO THANK MY HUSBAND DAILY AND GOD FOR WHAT I HAVE BEEN BLESSED WITH.
This question was asked because of research I am doing for a book.

Answer 1

I do not treat my wife like my mom. I cook half the nights. I do not tell her thank you anywhere near enough. I should treat her better than I do.

Answer 2

I treat her both like a wife and a mom. I love my mom coz of many things. She supported me through thick and thin which my wife does and that's one of the links. I love my wife and treat her as such coz she's my better half that without her there won't be kids to comprise a family. I thank my wife verbally on occasions that she has done her wifely care for me and motherly care for me and for the kids, too. But in most cases, I thank her in silence as I would stare at her sometimes and admire her strength and good countenance and I feel so lucky to have her as my wife. I feel sad though coz it's not the same with her about me being her husband; but then overall she's a magnificent person than just a wife or a mom. This means that she's more of a respectable person to me that the whole world can benefit from than just for me to treat as a wife or a mom.

Answer 3

I'd say I'm a mom first. In the first few months of my daughter's life, I would say I was probably a mom ONLY. Luckily - for all of us - my life went back to 'normal.' I'm definitely a wife, but I would still consider myself more of a mom than a wife.

Answer 4

I do alot of the work around the house as well as also work the only job our family has as income. My wife is a stay at home mom. I respect her for that and am willing to continue to work in the home to help her out.

We both work full time jobs, mine brings in the money and hers has been there taking care of everything so our lives can continue as they are.

I know too, that if she could she would come to work with me to help me out. Marriage is a team. Work together and treat each other as an equal and things, no matter how hard they get, will work out for the best.

Answer 5

What a reality Check!! The voice of most married women. Thank you for your convicting question. As a husband myself, I am starting to get it. So I'll add what I've learned.
Guys, pay attention:

If you develope a positive attitude, not only will others want to be with you more often, but your wife will also benefit tremendously. She will have a greater sense of worth and value, knowing you have privded the encouragement only a husband can give.
Encourage your wife and deepen your marriage relationship by learning how to praise her. Promise yourself - not her - because she might develop expections and be hurt if you forget. Begin by learning to verbalize your thoughts of appreciation. Love is a decision not a feeling, so do yourself a favor...Love your wife!

Answer 6

My wife does all those things you label as "mom" things: cook, clean, laudry, etc. But I treat her like a queen. The other day I sent her flowers for no reason, on Saturday I hung a picture on the wall for her, once a week I take her out for dinner or an ice cream (without the kids), in church yesterday I looked over at her and winked at her and said, "you look so pretty". Fifteen yrs of marriage and still honey in this marriage pot.

Answer 7

I know I don't treat my wife that way. As a matter of fact I do as much around the house as she does. I do most of the cooking but that's ok because I'm a better cook. But I understand what you are getting at and you are right we do need to thank the women in our lives more frequently.

Answer 8

There is no need to bash you. Its a good question regardless of why you ask it. I try my best to thank my wife for the things she does but I am a stay at home husband so I do most of the work as it is. When she does things its helping out and I always appreciate that. (I gave you a star for your question because I think its a good question).

Answer 9

Hubby treats normally like a wife but never like his mom (hm mom never did any of the things you listed). But sometimes he treats my like "one of the guys" which though we were friends first and are still friends there are somethings you just don't say to a wife...
He's a little thick sometimes but those times are rare.

Answer 10

I've been treated a mom and as nothing....being treated like mom was way worse. I'd rather be neglected by my husband than treated like his maid.
I've never met a man, personally (I've known friends), that knew how to treat a woman or even more importantly his wife.
Reason why I'm single and plan to stay single, realistically I understand that it has a lot to do with the men I seem to choose. And since I can't seem to break that habit, I'd rather stay single.