I really love my boyfriend and for the most part he treats me like a queen but during the last month or so half the time I can't even stand him to be in the same room. I'm 12 weeks pregnant. While I'm at work all I want to do is get the day over so I can be with him, but once I'm with him, every little thing about him drives me nuts. I feel like I'm going crazy. I love him so much but feel like I'm pushing him away. Half the time I don't even know why I'm doing it. Anyone else having this problem?
2007-08-27 04:45:20 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
So glad to see so many woman feeling the same way I do. Can't wait to get home and then when I do all I can do is
b$%ch which I hate because I don't want to be that way toward him. It's really hard because he just lost his mom so he needs me right now and sometimes that gets really annoying and I hate feeling that way. Hormones and all these changes is what I blame. I just hope I come through on the other side feeling they way I used to feel. Maybe its just one way for us to get ready for the baby because the relationship will completely change.
Kate- if you get back on here I would just like to say that marriage doesn't ALWAYS create the best circumstance for having a child. And I for one am not going to just get married, even if I'm not ready, just because there is a bun in the oven. What an old fashioned sad point of view. I grew up in a single child family and I turned out pretty good because I didn't have to listen to my parents fight all the time. These days marriage and b/f -g/f relationships have the same amount of commitment. Marriage is easy to terminate.
2007-08-27 05:09:56 · answer #1 · answered by wazup_dude2007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also hate my hubby right now! I have since about week 8! I don't think there will come a time until after the baby is born that I will feel loving towards him. But I am told it is normal to feel resentment towards your man at this time. He got you pregnant and has no idea what it is like to be pregnant. Sometimes it seems as though I can't make him understand how much work it is just to be pregnant! Jerk! But I love him sooo much! It's emotional, and unfortunately I think it is here to stay. I don't think I am pushing him away, I think I am pissing him off. But he knows I am preg and miserable right now, so it's not really personal, it's hormonal. Have your guy read some books about it. They actually have books for daddy-to-be to help him deal with what you are going through! Mine won't read them, but maybe yours will! Good Luck!
2007-08-27 04:54:24 · answer #2 · answered by jenjfrost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to same problem!! When I'm away from him I miss him like crazy but when we are finally together I wanna kill him! I'm 28 weeks. I try so hard not to fight or get mad about little things cuz really it's nothing to be mad about. But I think it's due to your body going threw all those crazy changes. Just work on not being so agree all the time. Thats about the only thing you can do. But on the other hand... You might wanna talk to him and tell him your sorry for being so pissed all the time but you can't really help it. Just explain what your going threw I'm sure he will understand. Good luck and your not alone!!!
2007-08-27 05:15:45 · answer #3 · answered by luveschvys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, all day long at work all I want to do is go home and snuggle up to my bf. But when I get home. . its like, I turn into this crabby ***** and I want him to leave me alone. I want EVERYONE to leave me alone actually. I dont know why, but everything he says I feel like I have to disagree with, and I feel like hes always an asshole. . when hes probably really not.
Just explain to ur BF how much you really love him, and that the pregnancy hormones are driving you a little crazy. Ask him not to take anything you say or do to heart.
LOL ~ You know they say your baby comes out acting exactly like the person you cant stand while you're pregnant.
Unfortunatly for me thats my sis-in-law more than my bf :(
2007-08-27 04:54:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahaha, I feel the same with my husband most of the time. As long as you aren't saying things that could be really hurtful I think it's okay. He should understand. My husband works with a couple other guys whom wives are pregnant...so they share their crazy wives pregnant stories. Those temper tantrums go right in there too. I am happy because he does know that it is normal because he has buddies that share just as crazy or crazier stories. Talk to him about it, it won't hurt to know what he is feeling through all of this. That's how I found out about my husband sharing stories with his guy co-workers...in a sense I was relieved that he could just wipe it off his shoulders. Good Luck!
2007-08-27 05:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by Roz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal. When a female is pregnant, she goes through a lot of hormone changes. I got very emotional when I was pregnant. I cried at every little thing my husband did. I even got to a point where I asked for a divorce. Everything will be fine later.
2007-08-27 05:06:14 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs Apple 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 33 weeks and have been feeling like that lately. I just feel like giving him the silent treatment for no reason. These feelings started out of nowhere! He bugs me and asks why I'm so distant or grouchy. I just apologize and say it's nothing that he's done, that it's just this grumpy mood that's suddenly decided to try and take over. He thinks it's funny and I do too but somedays I just wish he'd go and bug someone else. lol.
2007-08-27 04:54:09 · answer #7 · answered by Darling 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aren't pregnancy hormones wonderful? NOT! Pretty sure i was like that too, but i was like that with everyone, and i was working as a waitress, not a good combo. Hopefully you have a really nice boyfriend though, unlike mine, he'd leave me in the middle of the country by myself and go into town to drink and not come back until the next morning right before he had to take me back in to go to work. then my dog died, and i snapped and we broke up, and he started dating someone else. so know that things could always be worse and good luck dealing with those mood swings.
2007-08-27 04:58:19 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah L. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uggh! i had the same problem... i would miss my boyfriend all day long and then when he told me he was on his way home from work i would be all mad.. he would annoy me so much but i knew it was just my hormones. sometimes it would scare me because i acted like i didn't love him... but you just have to remember that it IS your hormones; NOT YOU... and make sure he understands that too... it might hurt his feelings but sticking by you no matter what is what helped me get through it.. i love my boyfriend to death but some days i just didn't want to be near him or hug or kiss him.. it's all hormones... it'll go away eventaully. i'm 26 weeks now, and we're more affectionate now then ever.. it's just a phase.. :) good luck...
2007-08-27 05:14:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal for some pregnant women to feel different toward their man..
He should understand the changes you are going through and it's only a matter of time
good luck
2007-08-27 04:55:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋