i am single .. is that strange ?

Question

am 37 and single . i am not comfortable with the idea of marriage , never been . i been in some relationships but never commited fully . also since i wasted a lot of time between 18 and 29 i am working very hard to catch up . so i am also not dating for 3 years to catch up with my material , mental , spiritual goals . do i sound strange or rational . any website where singles can get courage from ? ( PS - i am in India ... people are usually married here ; there are some singles but not too many )

Answer 1

I'm 27 and have never even dated.

I'm pretty strange.

You might be too.

Peace.

Answer 2

There is nothing wrong with being single, in any country. That's a choice you make, as others make a choice to be married. It's much better, anyway, that you not marry, just because you may feel pressured by your society to do so, or because most people in India are married. Marriages like that are not likely to work out at all.

But I can understand that you may feel uncomfortable being single in a country where most people are married. Being different from most people around you often makes people feel like there is something wrong with them. There is nothing wrong with them, they just make different choices from those around them.

If marriage is not for you, don't do it. Would you ever consider spending some time in a different country for a while...some country where there are a good number of singles? If it's feasible for you, spending time in another culture is very rewarding and it expands your horizon and perspective of the world. I spent 5 years in France and it was very rewarding, except for the fact that I was in a very difficult marriage.

Anyway, being single is perfectly normal. You make a different choice from those around you, that's all.

Answer 3

I don't see anything wrong or strange with how you feel. I applaud you for not doing what society thinks you should do, but rather doing what you believe in. If you don't feel it, maybe it just isn't right for you. You sound like an intelligent person ~ getting your life straightened out, planning for the future, catching up with work & where you believe/feel you should be (I wish I would've had your outlook a few years ago!). If/when you meet someone that you want to spend the rest of your life with, you will know it and everything will come together.

Answer 4

perhaps in India this is strange, but in other parts of the world it is quite normal. Sounds like a good plan to me, so just do what you want to do.

India will begin to change as time moves on, people like you will become more common.

I know a man from India who is 40 something and he has never married. It is your life, live it your way.

Answer 5

Normalcy sucks. You're not strange, you're you, and you should be proud. Don't believe in social norms, there unfounded and shallow. Be yourself, if you don't want to marry, then don't. I see nothing wrong with it. Life is all about choices as long as you make the right ones for your life then you should be set. Don't just marry because society is pushing you that way, push back and be you.

Answer 6

If you are happy and okay with your life style and you don't feel there are underlying fears or issues, then it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.
If you have friends, a job and live a productive healthy life, then go for it.

Answer 7

You are not particularly strange. There is nothing to recomend marriage in your life right now.

Answer 8

NO YOUR NOT STRANGE. I'M 43 & SINGLE BY CHOICE. IT'S O.K. TO DO YOU & FEEL GOOD ABOUT IT. YOUR MAKING A FOUNDINATION FOR "YOUR" FURTURE. GETTING YOU KNOW YOURSELF FOR A CHANGE THAT'S ALL!

Answer 9

theres tons of singles your age
perfectly normal
:)

Answer 10

Strange....well not strange but not normal