me and my hubby are 21 years old.. we've been married over 3 years and 2 months now..married in the name of love.. just graduate from college.. planning to continue for further studies..so do you all think we should have a baby at this time?
just wanna see what's your thoughts of this..
thank you in advance..
2007-08-27 04:18:18 · 15 answers · asked by NEILISA **Shane's Mama** 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
damn... 21 years old? been married 4 over 3 years? u got married whn u were 18??? damn... tht's gotta be sweet... married at young age... were u guys being supported by ur parents? who paid ur tuition fees? it must have been nice to be married at such a young age...
babies r expensive... true... 4 u 2 have a baby... u will spent 1mill from birth till she's/he's 18... congratulations... u r a millionaire...
sum1 did tell me tht money is likely would not be the factor... coz whn u have a baby sumhow or rather u will have money to be spent on ur baby... the only thing is do both of u mentally prepared 2 have one? it is not that easy taking care of a baby or a child. it is very exhausting... u need to really care, nurture, educate, physically n mentally ur child is with u 4ever. no more hanging out with frens... no more put ur things 1st... every single thing u do u hafta put ur child 1st
ask urself r u willing to make that sacrifices 4 ur child... if u r then go ahead... n i wish u all the best.
2007-08-27 07:12:19 · answer #1 · answered by Jack(Adidas) 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For every married lady's mind is initially to grab the attention and earn maximum love from her husband. After that initial period is over - say may be 3 to 6 months - they think of building their family brick by brick thought by thought though either on the first night or the day they fall into love, planning also starts especially in the mind of the female one. In that one is whether to have a baby or not. It all depends on how God blesses you both. Having a baby after three years of togetherness is not at all a bad idea. Though it will take away some of your valuable time, but consider it is also a part of your future life. It won't affect your career at all - if you have the will to bring up a child - a part of yours.
2007-08-28 03:12:39 · answer #2 · answered by BLOWHOT 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 21 you have a lot of time to have a baby. I wouldn't complicate things at this stage in your life. If things are going so well, why don't you wait until you are more established in life. Maybe ages 25-28? After you are done learning and have a job? Congrats on planning your life!
2007-08-27 11:50:29 · answer #3 · answered by Me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would wait til you both got the jobs you are working to get and settle into a home.Marrige is hard enough with the extra stress of a baby keeping you up at night and buying things baby needs.
This will help keep you 2 together.Get a pet to bound with together or volunteer at a children's shelter,hospital or boys and girls club.
2007-08-27 11:27:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe all couples who want to have children, should be very informed in what it takes to have, raise, and the responsibility of a child. This child will link you together for the rest of your lives, whether you stay together or not. Having children are a huge responsibility. They should be loved and cherished, and never used as tools to hurt the other parent.
2007-08-27 11:32:20 · answer #5 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say wait until you both have completed all major goals before having a baby. Babies are forever and its easier to do what you want to do when you dont have a baby. Babies require a lot of time and love. Give it a little more time.
2007-08-27 11:22:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
not if you want to stay together, and not if you want to have a career or further your studies. The baby will most likely end that for at least one of you, and then the resentment will end whatever's left.
2007-08-27 11:23:16 · answer #7 · answered by tomhale138 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think if you're both on the same page, and both want it, then go for it. Normally, I'd say wait a little longer, but you've been married 3 years already, and are still together, and done with your schooling, so go for it.
2007-08-27 11:22:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are ready then I think that you should have a baby. There is noting better than having a baby with the person you love.
2007-08-27 11:22:43 · answer #9 · answered by Cortney H 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, of course but only if your up to staying up long nights and changing dipers! Over all it is a great experience! You will be greatful to have a baby! Trust me!
2007-08-27 11:37:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋