I am 4months pregnant for a man that I wasn't in a relationship with. What should we do from here.?

Question

I am pregnant for someone that I have known of for a long time but I didn't know them personnally. We started liming and one thing lead to another and I am pregnant. We didn't have a relationship and now it is posing a real problems. I don't know if to leave him alone or if I should try and make him understand that we need to provide a family for this baby. What should I do?

Answer 1

I think u need to take him to a lil family court and decide on who gets custody and child support and all. goodluck

Answer 2

I know how you feel I got pregnant from a guy I only knew for a month and I would only go home with him after the club. And when I found out I was pregnant I cried for so long I didn't know what I was going to tell him. I didn't even know this guy for one, but it's a year later and we are buying a house and I'm very happy. But I would just tell this guy that yous don't have to be together but that you just want your baby to have a father. Good luck.

Answer 3

First of all, just because you are pregnant or having a baby doesn't mean that you should be in a relationship with that person. It doesn't mean that he is good for you or that he would be a good influence in the baby's life.
On the other hand, if you feel he is basically a good person and would be good in the baby's life, then I'd try to talk with him. He does have a responsibility to the baby but not necessarily to you.
You can't force someone to be with you or to be a good father.

Answer 4

Make him feel guilty of all the thing u done for him in the past and he make u pregnant and leave u 2 handle the baby alone and say if he want 2 see it later in life he can't cause he couldn't care for it but he will only come 2 u of the guilt u can always find someone trust-Worthy 2 help u and the baby good luck.

Answer 5

Well for one, tell him you are pregnant. If he doesn't believe the child is his just tell him that's fine and you'll ask for a DNA test after the baby is born to prove the fact. If he doesn't want to be a part of this child's life, thank goodness for child support. Outside of that, you can't make him be in a relationship with you, you can only ask him to take part in your kids life.

Answer 6

If he doesnt want to make an effort to be a couple, or be a father, its time to slap a child support suit on his butt.

Dont screw around with him if he's not going to participate. You both made your bed, now deal with it.

That child is priceless, and you as a woman have so much value. There are plenty of men out there willing to be husbands and to father children that arent theirs. Go find them, theyre NOT on the corner, and theyre NOT at the bar.

Answer 7

i totally understand.im 17 weeks pregnant.told the father and he said he wanted to be involved its now 7 weeks since we have spoken he doesnt give a toss bout this baby but i do and so does my family and im gonna raise this child myself and as best i can without him.if hes not showing an interest now he never will

and by the way if he comes back offering money it may be tempting but dont accept i certainly wont be

Answer 8

I wouldn't say provide a family but he does need to provide Support and love for the baby and if he won't then i'm sure whatever state you live in will! that's how it works it took to of you to make it and to of you need to deal with it

Answer 9

if he wants to be a part of the childs life then fine if not then fine.
raise the baby yourself. there is no need to stay together to "provide a family" especially if you don't really know each other.
you'll do fine

Answer 10

You can't force a relationship to work out. I would take it one day at a time and see how it works out.
Good luck to you and your baby.