My husband and I split up two weeks ago, this pained me to do it but he was not going to change, we recently found out our youngest daughter has special needs which has put a strain on us and I have been in and out of hospital ill recently.
the thing is now he wont speak to me, after things being okish, as, he went away without telling me, I became very sick and was rushed in to hosital to have an operation, he ignored all the phone calls to get hold of him to return to look after the kids, he wont answer his phone to me now, and I have only had one text saying' i didnt realise how bad you were' he is one for burying his head in the sand and not facing things, but he wont respond to emails phone calls or texts to me, or even see his daughter, instead his family have turned there back on me and so has he, what can I do??
do you men think this is his way of coping, he just wont speak to me, I mean he has never been like this and to leave me in hospital really ill with collapsed lung
2007-08-27 03:54:39 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
its all fair and well you saying this, but I do love him, but with two children with special needs now I dont need to be carrying him on my back now as well, I would never turn my back on him, even if he dropped dead tomorrow, I would be there, even after leaving me ill like this...but then I am not like him, hence why I had enough, I would never let anyone suffer like he has to me, and he has not even checked or phoned that I am ok with our child.......
I think he has been off with some other women, but thats just me thinking that is the only thing I can think of why he would not face me.....I think he thinks I got ill on purpose or something, like I asked to have a chrohns like illness......
2007-08-27 04:08:23 · update #1
Sounds like he just doesn't want to deal with family anymore so he avoids everyone.
You can't rely on him anymore. It's up to you to take care of your children and yourself. Call on your family members or friends instead if you need help. I would stop giving him any information on what's going on since he obviously doesn't even care.
Unless he agrees to go to marriage counseling, I'd start filing divorce papers. You don't need a guy who says he's a husband and father but acts like a stranger on the street.
2007-08-27 03:59:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he has shown that he can't be there for you in your time of need and is not reliable and wants to abandon the relationship due to, from how you paint it, a child with special needs. let him go. he will only be a burden to you. but make sure you get his child support. he is a loser who has finally shown his true colors. i am sorry you are going thru this. keep the faith in God and he will take care of you. good luck
2007-08-27 10:59:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's hurt right now, and probably irrational. You left him, he probably feels like you should deal with it. No matter what comes to you. In my opinion, it's wrong of him to seperate himself from his children, but If my ex was in the hospital I wouldn't call. Except to see if she wanted me to get our daughter, but I wouldn't ask how she was doing.
2007-08-27 11:00:51 · answer #3 · answered by ~MB~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has abanadoned you, why are you still concerned? and wasting your energy on him?
Buck up, get well, care for yourself and your daughter. And know one day that, pay back is hell. He'll get his, one way or another, he'll get his.
You should have not a thought more about him, no more than stepping in dog sh!t. Rinse it away and keep on truckin'
2007-08-27 11:06:03 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a good lawyer an have him fixedup for life with child support that wil get him.
2007-08-30 23:03:43 · answer #5 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he should ever have any questions as to why you left him, remember this and he will have his answers.
2007-08-27 10:59:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋