2007-08-27 03:45:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Probably anyone over 35 had trouble at one time or another accepting it. Thanks to changing attitudes and the internet, I think younger people are finding it much easier. That is about the only reason why I would want to be 18 again - just to not have to go through that.
Do this: Take a long look in the mirror. The guy whose face you shaved today is the same face you saw last year, five years ago, ten years ago. What's different? Nothing. Then evaluate yourself: Am I a good guy? Am I honest? Do I treat friends/ family well? Am I reliable? These are the questions that you can answer that relate to things that you are in control of. Your orientation - you cannot control. Your orientation is an aspect of you much like that beard you shaved. It's just the way you're made.
Good luck!
2007-08-27 03:58:48 · answer #1 · answered by Clint 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
A very unusual question for this site. Most users on this site are very comfortable with their sexuality, or so it seems.
Depending on the circumstances and what career goals a young gay person may have, it can be next to impossible to "come out". If a gay person seeks to "climb the corporate ladder" and seek a career in many traditional companies, he may choose to hide his sexual preference. It doesn't change his true sexuality, but he changes his approach and he modifies his lifestyle. In other words, he lives a "double life".... in part of his life, he acts completely straight, and in the other part is gay.
I believe that there are a lot of people living this double life. And only someone who lives it can understand why they live this way.
Hopefully this answers your question. I feel these people don't truly accept their sexuality.
2007-08-27 04:18:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be free. Accept it and move forward. You can't let people tell you what to be (whether its straight or "Girly Gay") there are loads of gay people out there that live completely normal lives; no different to a straight person, only men not women in there lives. The new Bible is wrong, I agree. There is no need to live by a church or a book all you need to do is have good morals and know in your heart what your doing is right, god will know your a good person. Let yourself be free. There are hundred of bent fish in the Ocean! Best of luck out there! From a gay person in the same situation.
2016-05-19 01:18:36 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not a gay man, but I AM a bisexual woman. It took me about 6 months to make the adjustment. What helped me the most was finding a community of other bisexual people. When I could talk about what scared me, I didn't feel so alone so being Bi became much easier to accept.
Now I'm very happy with who I am and I am looking around for women to date.
2007-08-27 03:57:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really had low self esteem over being gay. In the early 70s I started volunteering is a gay liberation organization. I got to know so many wonderful, caring, giving people there. One morning I was shaving and thinking what great people they were. Suddenly i stopped, looked at myself in the mirror and said out loud, Hay, fool, so are you. You are doing the same thing." And I was on my way to recovery.
2007-08-27 04:09:04 · answer #5 · answered by Ray T 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It was hard accepting that I was gay, but when I feel in love with my first boyfriend everything just made sense and life was a little easier for me.
2007-08-27 04:00:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No pro blem to me in fact I had better friends who were gay than those who were straight. All depends on your own behaviour. Being kind and thoughtful should erase all troubles. There again I am a female.
2007-08-27 03:52:55 · answer #7 · answered by SYJ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had no problem telling people I was gay if they asked me I just said yes I am gay then if they don't like it they can do the other thing
2007-08-27 06:23:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have worked with homosexuals (I refuse to misuse the word gay) and have found them good colleagues and indeed friends. However I do not like what they do which is wrong but if they do not flaunt themselves in front of me I will ignore and accept their inclinations
2007-08-27 05:43:16 · answer #9 · answered by Scouse 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you say " a gay man"?if correct do you know any can become gay one day.Go to science to refresh yourself. Sorry I am not hard this is my way to "funny"questions-take it as it comes!
2007-08-27 03:57:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋