Okay, here goes... Can a married man have female Friends?

Question

Assumes no shenanigans, just mates

Answer 1

um. kind of... married men can have approved female friends...

Answer 2

The use of the word CAN implies the capacity. Of course the answer is yes he can, but the real question is SHOULD he.

I hate to always be the voice of reality, but "here goes"...

No one is perfect and no one is impervious to temptation. How many "just happened" affairs happen when a man or women is down and in need of a friend? Or tired and run down and extremely grateful for a back rub?

However much you trust your partner, it is never a good idea to put too much temptation on his plate.

Trust is the single most important element in a relationship, but no relationship is airtight and all are subject to problems, which in turn provides leaks into which a tiny bit of temptation can seep.

We live in a disposable world, full of instant gratification. There is enough to temp and challenge relationships, why add the pressure that could tip it over during stressful times?

If you ask yourself what it is that you are getting from a relationship, there is a special place that a wife fulfills . A friendship is based on shared interests and time spent together, is your spouse not enough? Do you really need another women, and if so, what for? Do you have problems making friends with other men? Too much competition? Need to prove you still got pull? Be honest with yourself.

Most of the people who so quickly say, "of course, if you have a strong relationship!," are the ones in relationships in which they take separate vacations and don,t really want to be with them most of the time. A friend who was one before you got married, should also be your wife's.

There is no other man that I would like to spend most of my time with and he feels the same. He agrees that all is not right when one party spends time apart from the other with another woman, what is he looking for, or missing? Your wife should be enough woman for you. Do some male bonding instead.

Answer 3

Since you are here asking this question then obviously there is a problem of some sort. If your wife objects then I would lean toward believing that your are more than mates. If having friends of the opposite sex were normal for you then she would have known that before the wedding and would have no reason to object to a new friend. A sudden desire to have a female friend means that you are looking for intimacy, either emotional or physical, and both are dangerous to a marriage. Ditch the mate and recommit to intimacy within your marriage!

Answer 4

Well, that's nothing that your wife should be angry about (but I don't know your wife, so I can't say that for sure). If you mean female "friends" and not girlfriends (as in the type you date), as long as you keep it legit, I don't think she'd have any issues with it. But, again, this depends on the Woman. From what I've seen, married women can be very fickle at times. If you're not married, then I assume you're asking because you soon will be, so I'll say this. Be faithful and prosper, friend.

Answer 5

A married man can have friends. Depending on the man’s attitude and behaviour. Some men have friends that turn into something more and have problems in saying no to women. It is a matter of married men having clear and firm boundaries to not make decisions that affect the relationship.

Answer 6

Of course he can have female friends - so long as they are just friends and nothing more. And a married man should introduce his female friends to his wife so there's no secrecy involved. That way the wife won't feel left out or insecure. Works both ways with married women and male friends.

Answer 7

Of course they can, just because they are married doesn't mean they are dead but some tend to cross that line.....that doesn't mean that all men will though. The best is to have female friends that are also friends with the wife, if the friend doesn't like the wife or vice versa than that can cause problems though

Answer 8

Years ago, I think the answer would have been a firm no. However, if you had female friends before you were married, or they are mutual friends with your spouse, or they are girlfriends of your male friends then absolutely. If they are just female friends, I still don't see why not. However, you have to be careful as women do get jealous. Not only your wife jealous of them, but them jealous of your wife. It's strange, but it does happen.

Good luck.

Answer 9

Of course men can BUT if your in a relationship/married the woman in your life does feel threatened,been there myself!Maybe the friends have nicer bums,are thinner,have blonde hair that sort a thing can feel threatening to your partner,but yes have female friends.

Answer 10

IF a married man can have female friends then a married women can too! I wouldn't suggest this... If you are allowed that standard it shouldn't be a double standard and if you can handle your woman having the same then kudos to you both. You have to put yourself in your mates shoes and ask yourself this question...? In reality we should be treating others as we want to be treated.

Answer 11

Yes, they can - but it would be akin to cheating unless the man's wife knows all about it.
Much of my married life, my co-workers were all female. We'd sit around during morning and afternoon breaks and at lunch break at talk about anything and everything. We shared anecdotes about our kids, about our spouses, about our dreams and goals, and yes, about our sex lives. I'd occasionally give a co-worker a ride to go shopping, or agree to come get their kids and drop 'em off at scouts or at football practice, and once in awhile one of those ladies would return the favor. We'd occasionally wise off in the group about who I'd enjoy the most if I bedded her, or just how likely it was that I could sexually satisfy any of them - but it never went beyond that. My wife knew most of them - she worked at the same place, and though in a different department, was aware of all I did - and did not do - with those women. It was a good life - I kinda miss it now that I'm retired...