Whats wrong with me and how can I fix it ?
2007-08-27 02:19:48 · 13 answers · asked by wishingstar5555 3 in Health ➔ Men's Health
do you still find your wife sexually attractive.
Many guys lose the ability to get an erection for their wife because of various reasons. The most cited reasons are:
1. No longer sexually attracted
2. Wife declines advances too often, husband's ego is bruised (Porn will never say it has a headache)
3. Sex with wife has become too routine. It's no longer exciting if you know exactly what to expect.
4. After wife has a baby or becomes pregnant, she is seen as more of a baby maker than as a sexual being.
You should talk to your wife, and see if she is having similar issues. It's easy to fall into a rut, you have to make an effort to keep things exciting.
Is she okay with having porn on while you have relations? If so, you could try that. You could also try roll playing, fantasies, etc.
If it continues, you may want to seek professional help - marriage counseling or sex therapy. She is probably feeling pretty damn unnattractive at this time if you haven't been able to get an erection for her but you can for porn. Women will ALWAYS think it's her appearance in these situations.
2007-08-27 02:32:14 · answer #1 · answered by nephthys76 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Help make your love life more exciting. If she is very straight sexually, introduce her slowly to more exciting things. Some women are more up tight and it takes time to thaw out.
A little alcohol never hurts. And good toys.
What is your age and hers? Plan scheduled sex and introduce some of the new adventuresome ideas. This has to be with totally private time. Pretend you are meeting a lover you ARE NOT MARRIED TO.
Anticipation is a serious part of sex. Plus how talented are you??? That is a very important factor. Find new and adventuresome moves. Does she know that you look at porn. THAT IS AN IMMEDIATE TURN OFF. Women are not needed if you can get what you want from porn.
Do you help around the house? Every job you do to help her out leads to the bedroom. Good Luck.
2007-08-27 09:38:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn excites you obviously for reasons only you truly know. Using porn as excitement for both of you to watch is risky. Here's why. Porn is portrayed mostly through mens eyes. Most woman look at porn differently. If you can find a WOMAN DIRECTED porn DVD view thoes ones instead. They are trying to appeal to the woman first. That will be enough stimulation for you as well but she should enjoy it more. However a steady diet of porn erodes away the lust for your wife and it's not easy to get it back especially if her physical appearance is not meeting your standards for sexiness. Your going to have to come to grips with this if you want to straighten it out get it back to when you were dating and the honeymoon all night er you two had.
2007-08-27 09:59:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are addicted to porn. In your mind you want your wife to be like the women on the screen. You need to stop watching porn and probably get counseling. Good luck.
2007-08-27 22:51:23 · answer #4 · answered by texas mikey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch porn with your wife and see if maybe that could help you two out. Hope it works take care.
2007-08-27 09:34:47 · answer #5 · answered by bigpoppapun33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are erection strengthening exercises that worked very well for me. You may find them useful. Check out Mistermanpower.com for a guide. They also help you last longer
2007-08-27 10:04:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the married couple that watches porn together stays together.not really but give it a try
2007-08-27 09:31:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop watching porn for a while and concentrate on her
2007-08-30 16:40:27 · answer #8 · answered by hyde y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jst thik u cant marry porn, porn wont give u kids and porn wont cook ur meals
2007-08-27 10:54:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
why not try to watch porn together, maybe that the ways you both love. try it!
2007-08-27 09:28:41 · answer #10 · answered by edelyn j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋