im 19 and confused i've nevr enjoyed sex with a man, could anyone help me, how do u know if u r?
2007-08-27 01:04:50 · 26 answers · asked by confused!!! 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
you need to experiment with Women, go to gay clubs,etc and meet people, see if you feel comfortable with that sort of contact. If you do then you'll be lead in the right direction at least, if not you'll never know!
have you ever had any strong feelings for any of your female friends???
2007-08-27 01:08:00 · answer #1 · answered by ダニエル 3 · 6⤊ 1⤋
It's not all that unusual to be 19 and not enjoy sex with a man. If that's the only criteria you're using to decide you might want to talk to your doctor, or a school counselor, or clergy, or a family member whom you can trust not to make judgements about you. Maybe you've only had experience with really clumsly men. In which case it would not be an enjoyable experience for you. I would suggest that you not try to decide this by yourself, but talk it over with someone you trust. Sounds like maybe you dont have enough experience to make the decision. Nothing wrong with that. Everyone needs a little help sometimes.
2007-08-27 08:15:12 · answer #2 · answered by nonefiner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends if you are attracted to women or both sexes. If you want to find out if you are or not. Do experiment a little with sexuality and soon you will know if you are or not.
I didn't enjoy sex with a man till I was 23, but I never had any doubt that I was straight. I just haven't find the person who touched the right buttons.
As you are 19, you might find that the case with you as well, but if you find women attractive, may be you are by.
2007-08-27 08:24:02 · answer #3 · answered by soraya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don’t enjoy having sex so your first conclusion is you think your lesbo. Maybe you should consider some other things before becoming a muff diver.
Maybe you have a hormone deficiency?
Maybe you haven’t found the right guy?
Maybe you are just not that interested in sex and feel you should be because everyone else is obsessed with it.
Maybe you are depressed and it is manifesting in your sex life. (my guess)
There are hundreds of reasons why you may not be enjoying sex the way you think you should. Not one of those reasons is related to wanting a girl to strap on rather than using the real deal.
2007-08-27 08:23:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 19, so in fairness you haven't had a lot of experience with men and sex.
The answer to your question, though, you can answer yourself: Are you sexually attracted to women? If the answer to this is yes, then you may be lesbian. If your answer is no, keep reading.
I'm thinking that if you've never enjoyed sex with a man, you're getting involved with the wrong sort of men. I didn't really enjoy sex with men either, and I'm not gay, and I thought it was something to do with me - until I met my lovely husband who didn't mind experimenting and he made it into a lovely experience. We have just celebrated our 14th anniversary ....
2007-08-27 08:14:04 · answer #5 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 41 and I've just come out to a few, carefully picked people.
You may not be you're young and may not have found the right man but don't be like me and live for 26 years in denial. Think about it hard and long and if you're sure you are then come out. Tell your parents (mine aren't with us any more but I'm sure my Dad would have been supportive, he was with everything else.) After that, everyone else is secondary.
Above all, be true to yourself.
2007-08-30 14:24:08 · answer #6 · answered by elflaeda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im going through the same thing right now..
I think sex with men is boring... and actually cant see why ppl like it so much..
I talk to lots of lesbians online and i get on with them so much better than men..
Im quite surei am but theres something holding me back..
Like the fact i want a normal family with children..
And i mabye wont be able to do that with a woman even though i'd absolutly love too..
Look.. Add me on msn mabye we can have a chat about it.. Because it could help me too :)
My msn's on my Profile :o) GL x
2007-08-27 08:12:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you haven't found a man that is good in bed. I wouldn't classify yourself as a lesbian yet...You just need to experiment with women and a few different men...That's the only way you will really know...
2007-08-27 10:37:00 · answer #8 · answered by Mama Bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how did i know i was a lesbian? I've always been attracted to women. I've always felt a lil different around my friends. you just feel it. and when you feel it and realize it you embrace it because that's who you are.take it slow and enjoy it. don't just jump into the lesbian scene, but go to some clubs and pride events.it'll help.
2007-08-27 13:26:16 · answer #9 · answered by LGBT pride 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 Possibilities here.
!. You cannot be homosexual or you would have known long ago.
2. You may be bi-sexual.
3. You just may have not met the right man yet.
You're 19, give it some time. Hopefully you will have plenty of that !
2007-08-27 08:18:32 · answer #10 · answered by Mezmarelda 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you just haven't found a man who is good at that sort of thing. Do you see a woman and think wow id have her or not? If you do then you may be.
2007-08-27 08:09:19 · answer #11 · answered by Mum 2 Boys 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋