They usually mean well, but not many people (even friends at times) seem able to discern the difference between a reflective mood and a grumpy mood?
(Please don't tell me to cheer-up; I'm fine, honestly).
2007-08-27 00:44:03 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
No one can live their life truthfully with all sunshine and smiles. We all need time to reflect and re energize ourselves. I try to distinguish between grumpy and reflective moods and giving the person the space they need without making them feel bad or guilty. Sometimes people just butting out of our business makes us happy. It all boils down to respect.
2007-08-27 15:29:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't seem to have that problem, J. Being retired allows a lot of quiet moments and I am basically a happy person around people so no one tells me to cheer up.
I do remember years ago when I had depression problems friends would do that and I rememberr it bugged me cause words do not heal anything,however well meaning so i learned not to do that to other people but rather try to find a way to bring out a smile,brief though it may be.
2007-08-27 09:25:13 · answer #2 · answered by marlynembrindle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People do mean very well when they express this sentiment but sometimes it has the unfortunate effect of making a person feel worse when they are already at a low point, having been there myself in the past.
I like what latj says about having time to reflect and re-energise that way the mood tends to dissipate and eventually we are back to what we may call 'our normal selves.'
2007-08-28 04:16:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Moods are contagious, and so people try and get perceived grumpy people to cheer up.
I think people are getting worse at reading moods, or maybe you have a muscle structure that looks naturally grumpy when relaxed. Oh well, don't sweat it. Tell them nicely, "Why, thanks so much for caring!" They'll either go away happy that they cheered you up, or they'll go away creeped out -- in which case they won't bother you again. Win-win. (-:
2007-08-27 08:17:02 · answer #4 · answered by Madame M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is awful when people say that. Often it's not even as simple as just cheering up.
I like a lot of quiet time alone and prefer people to just leave me to it at the moment. So I wont tell you to cheer up.
:-)))
2007-08-27 11:05:17 · answer #5 · answered by Teejay 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your fine then why are you on here..even your words sound as if your having a low day..myself ..i prefer to just be left alone to my own thouhgts...more aften than not i will end up the day in a nicer mood or a clearer outlook...i agree..i hate it when people tell me to cheer up..specialy when they have no idea if there is even anything wrong..we ALL need our quiet time to cleanse our brain...dont worry be happy...lol..beam me up some one
2007-08-27 08:02:57 · answer #6 · answered by eb_guy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That must be annoying. I've become accustomed to my husband's reflective moods and know that he is neither depressed nor angry so I just leave him alone. I tend to smile during reflective moods. I wish he would stop asking me 'what's so funny?'
2007-08-27 07:53:59 · answer #7 · answered by babydoll 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
YES!!! also, its ok to not be over joyously happy all the time. it's also ok to be in a quiet mood, or not talking much mood or whatever. i think its about other ppl not feeling comfortable, or feeling responsible for our moods
2007-08-27 07:55:30 · answer #8 · answered by soooo???......... 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate people telling me to cheer up. I always say 'cheer down'
2007-08-27 07:48:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES!!! I'd love to be able to be in a bad mood every now and then and not have to worry about anyone asking me what is wrong? it'll be alright....blah blah blah..."have I done something?"....lol
2007-08-27 14:20:22 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ωέςтєяиΝСģαζ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋