question for the personally experienced... should i go back to exotic dancing?

Question

i don't know how many experienced strippers i'll find on yahoo answers, but i'd rather not get a million people preaching at me about it or being rude for no reason...
my question is just, will it destroy my mental health and skew my vision on humanity, of relationships, etc, permanently if i work as a stripper too much or for too long?

basically, in the past i worked for about five months dancing because i need money (NOT drugs -- travel, musical instruments, money to help me achieve all my dreams) but i stopped because i found myself getting angry and losing faith in the world and losing touch. however, doing ordinary work while im this young has the same effect -- i feel like time is slipping away if i slave away in a restaurant during all my spare time. But dancing, i can work for one week straight and have enough money for a flight overseas, or i can work one night a week and study and be able to pay rent all at once. is it such a bad idea to go back? personal experiences?

thanks for your input everyone -- (although bemused at first poster... for starters, it's the men that choose to come to the clubs and break up their own marriages. they're not babies, it's their own responsibility. if i had a husband who went to strip clubs behind my back, i'd kick him out of my house. he'd be at fault, not the girls who just dance. it's a question of personal choice, NOT of morality. it's pathetic when women blame other women for their own partner's dishonesty...)

haha, and yeah it probably is the worst to ask this question, i was gonna go along with instinct anyway, but i was curious to see what different people would have to say.
that thing about becoming manipulative, yeah, i've certainly seen that happen as well. i don't know about myself, i just know i developed a fair bit of mistrust.. which would almost be worth it if i could believe it was reversable
meh, i'll see what happens
ill leave this open for another day to see if i get any more gems!

**edit: worst place to ask this question, i meant

Answer 1

i have never been a dancer although i often times i wish i could have been, for i have been quite poor, but alas the lure of easy money could not over come my extreme social ineptitude. however i have had many dancer friends and i have noticed that the longer one dances, the more one is prone to manipulative tactics within social atmospheres. it seems that it becomes second nature to play people (especially men, but women as well) with flirtatious behavior. inability to act genuine, and people responding well to your disingenuious manipulations can make one lose respect for almost everyone else. also making money that quickly and easily makes it difficult to leave dancing, after and any extended period of time, to a normal low wage anywhere else. your lifestyle will accostome to the high income. if you have strong personality and will you could get away with it without changing too much in bad direction perhaps.

Answer 2

While I personally have never worked as a dancer (I would go hungry with this body), I have worked security at an establishment. It is true that some of the seedier clubs can be a bit dangerous which is a true consideration, but the better clubs will provide security and are quite safe. As far as whether or not working as a stripper will ruin your life it will only do what you will let it.
For some women the experience is very negative and they felt like they had sold out, that stripping had somehow lessened their worth as a human and began to see themselves as disconnected. Others take the experience as empowering, often joking about how little control men actually have, sitting there giving money in a trance without any real will to do so.
To answer your question; it is all up to you. But whether you do or not it is of most importance to maintain strong healthy ties to friends and family. Because they are what will keep you truelly grounded and able to keep a positive outlook on life.

Answer 3

Alright--didn't she say she needed real advice--not people to degrade her?!? Anyway, I do have personal experience. I was a dancer for about a year and a half. I quit only because I got pregnant. But, after giving birth (to a beautiful little girl) I went back. Then, I realized what it was doing to me. I didn't trust people, nor did I try to. Like you, I was not into drugs, but dancing leads to a very fast lifestyle. You have to be a very strong person not to let it get to you. I know many girls who danced there way through college, finished school and never looked back. But, you have to be careful, yes, the money is great, and it will suck you in. It sometimes takes a stronger person to not got back after you have left. My advice, stay out!! Leaving was the best decision I ever made. Best of luck!! Only you can decide if you can handle it or not.

Answer 4

I've done go-go dancing, just for kicks. Realized 'yes!' it pays well and 'yes' at first it was fun. But talking to my friends about it I later found out that 'that’s not the kind of person they want to know'... so I quit.... and in that business, it’s so easy to become and alcoholic, or get into drugs.

However, it must be really different for a female. But for both, it raises confidence, and allows you to see the people for what they can be. No offence to anyone, its just it's so easy to have a problem in that category, and so easy to get addicted.

PS I've found that having hobbies or a job where you feel like your always accomplishing something and always needed helps you stay positive.

Hope I've helped

(Forgot to add, please be careful, very dangerous if you don't have friends looking out for you. co-workers don't count much)

Answer 5

Honestly, this is the WORST place to ask this question. Try stripperweb.com instead, where you can get real, honest answers from women who have been in the same predicament as you. There are pros and cons to dancing, obviously (as in any other job), but "breaking up marriages" is not one of them!

Answer 6

i'm not a stripper nor a pole dancer... and i'm sorry if i'm not a girl too... but let me share some insights... dancing is a good form of exercise... whether it be pole, ballroom or belly... as long as u put ur mind to it... so go ahead...

Answer 7

.... sure if you like degrading yourself publically and being an assisting cause to the break-up of a ton of marriages....... go for it!

i've never done the above. there's a lot of crappy things about my life presently, and i surely could use a pay increase, but i have too much self-respect for that.

i think you ought to weigh the long term effects of prostituing yourself like that. (because youre obviously debating it) .....
it may be legal, but a stripper is no more than a prostitute.
I don't know you, but I think you can do better than that. and you need to learn to repect yourself, and realise there are other ways of making a living.