that sort of stuff- but he took away the joint check book and the debit card and I don't have any $$ to speak of and I work only two days a week, no kids under 18, we own our house plus a rental property, but my name is only on one of these, plus a couple of a cars are in my name also, what should I do he also physically assaulted me, throughout our marriage but only when he use to drink- he quit drinking but he slapped me alot tonight because he knows I found out about his "b*itch!"
2007-08-26 20:38:15 · 13 answers · asked by sickofit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Contact the authorities and press domestic violence charges against him, get a protective restraining order on him and then divorce him and sue his a.s for everything youre legally entitled to, and then leave him for his girlfriend to take care off
2007-08-26 21:23:40 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find out if you live in a community property state. If you do it doesent matter that he took away the check book or if your name is only on some of the stuff you automatically will get half. At least consult a lawyer most of them will give you a little advise or a consultation w/o paying a fee. Then see if you can up your hours at work. Some citys also have womens centers specifically geared towards divorce. But the community property state is the big one. Did he clean out the bank account? Because if not, if it is a joint account I would go down there 2 marrow and do that if your state is not community property. Because once he gets his hands on that money it will be hard for you to get any of it. If you are in a community property state however eventually he will have to give you half of what you had. But that could take awhile. Good luck.
2007-08-26 20:46:19 · answer #2 · answered by Darkchild 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I was you. I'll call cops on him and reported his a.. ! If it doesn't make any sense to him then I'll press charge against him. With all the physical abused and the real proof right there, I am sure you have proved your case. Give him a lot of time in jail to think of what he did to you. Get a divorce, and since you 've been married that long,you'll get half of everything. It is community properties. You might get spouse support since he makes more money than you do. One thing, I have learned and make sure my kid knows it too, that if you let anyone put a hand ( or any kind of abuse) to you /on you once, for sure they will do it again. So do not allow that, if you don't want that ever happen to you ever again. And you have young children. You don't want to set an example for your kids that: is it okay to abuse or get abuse by... your spouse. He is a cheater and an abuser. What did he got to offer you to stay by his side this long?
2007-08-26 21:58:55 · answer #3 · answered by Lilian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the state where are from. And did you sign a prenup agreement? A joint check book and joint ownership on a home AND cars in your NAME? That , honey is THEFT?? The first time he beat you I hope you took pics and hopefully you have friends, family, and co workers who have witness to abuse and stress. You need to go to your DA and press charges. There is only so much the cops can or willing to do. See your District ATTY and also seek help through a womens shelter. It helps to see ACLU because you need a civil rights atty. You have rights to your belongings. If the beatings were healed and no witnesses you can't claim assault. That would be hearsay. I wish you the best and get in touch with women's shelters because they can help you with the laws of your state. I wish the best and do not meet alone with him because it can be dangerous. If he insists get a recorder( a small one to keep in your pocket or purse, make sure the purse is open and sit opposite where he can't grab your purse. if you want to put the recorder next to your thigh on the seat , go to the bathroom and put on fresh lipstickand use enough time to do both. Click it on in the bathroom and announce your self there in the bathroom where you are and leave it on play in your pocket. while the PR*** is ordering food slip it out of your pocket while it is on play. Set it near your thigh. If you leave the restroom with fresh lipstick and looked like you brushed hair and freshened up his stupid ego will throw him off! Tape the SOB and take a cab to the police with the tape. If he insists on driving , go to the desk and call a cab and stay put! do not go anywhere with him.If possible have a shelter lady sitting near within hearing distance so he thinks the person is just another customer with a newspaper. The small recorders are pocket size and small. not expensive. What ever you do, don't leave alone with him. Your life maybe in danger! Hope I can Help
2007-08-26 21:11:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I am VERY SORRY for you. I know exactly what you are going through and it hurts like HELL. If people knew what thoughts had crossed my mind I would probably be in an institution. I wanted to do the same thing you did except for the fact that I wanted to do it in front of them both, and yes I know that is pathetic. Why should everyone they work with NOT KNOW how THEY really are? That is why I honestly feel that if a person CHEATS ON THEIR SPOUSE WITH A CO-WORKER THEN THE 2 CHEATERS SHOULD HAVE TO PAY SPOUSAL SUPPORT TO THEIR VICTIM, FOREVER, ie: the devoted, loving, and ALWAYS BEEN there for you spouse. That just might make co-workers THINK, THINK, THINK, BEFORE dropping their pants or lifting their skirts. I HATE them both for the humiliation that I feel every time I see or talk to people at his work.
2016-04-02 01:16:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I still suggest getting that lawyer. But move out with some family or friends if you can. Sell the cars in your name and even the property get money from that and hire a lawyer and tell them everything that went down in the marriage. I'm sure they will find a way to get him in serious trouble with the law for putting his hands on you in that way even if he quit drinking. And especially if he hit you for finding out about his mistress. So you have more fodder than he does. Good luck to you.
2007-08-26 20:43:51 · answer #6 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take pictures of any red marks or bruises he left on you - no matter how small.
Go to the bank, get a copy of the current bank statement. Take out half of the money, open a separate account with it.
Go to the lawyer, show him the bank statement. Show him your new account statement. Tell him you want a divorce. Ask him what to do from there.
Hell, go to the lawyer first - if he knows your husband has money, he'll still take the case!
2007-08-26 20:46:35 · answer #7 · answered by devyl gyrl 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You look up pro bono lawyers in your area...there are lawyers out there still in school that need to pass the bar by taking on free cases so they can prove to the bar that they aren't just in it for the $$$. If you have the solid proof you say you do, it'll be viewed as an open and shut case, and any lawyer worth his/her weight in sh*t will jump all over it AND work extra hard to bleed the bastard dry on your behalf.
2007-08-26 20:43:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes get a good lawyer and change the locks on the house your in NOW. You are entitled to half of everything so don't quit now due to the lack of monies and sit back and watch this come back and bite him on the bum lol.
2007-08-26 21:48:38 · answer #9 · answered by Live_For_Today 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and talk to local authorities about the times he assaulted you. That will make the divorce an easier process.
2007-08-26 20:43:08 · answer #10 · answered by Carlos Mal 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋