I catch him in lies all the time? I.e. we went to my sisters for dinner & his friend calls & says he needs something my hubby has to go, says hell be back in 30 min, tops. An hr. and 15 min. later I call & his friend says hes @ his house but going back then to our house where my husband was waiting. He gets back to my sisters 45 min later. We live 10 min, fr. my sisters. Then after basically forgiving or forgetting the incident we come back home, and a girl friend of ours stops by & casually mentions in conversation stopping by earlier in the day "when you weren't here." after seeing my anger @ him, she added that she had only been 5 or 10 min. Its not even the point that it was a female friend because I figure she did drop in but if that is the case or not I spec. asked him 2-3 times earlier who was there and he told me solemnly "nobody". Now he doesn't understand why I am mad. Its little things like this all of the time....I mean mybe small in big pic, but its driving me NUTS
2007-08-26 19:57:22 · 8 answers · asked by hyphyscwifey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What part of it is driving you more nuts? The part where you love him or the part where you know he is a liar? Sweetie, anybody who lies like he did is doing more than lying. Follow your gut on this one and don't waste time with a guy who doesn't appreciate you enough to be honest (and faithful) to you. If he hasn't already cheated, it's only a matter of time. The set up you described was very scary. Sounds like the girlfriend busted herself accidentally and is trying to cover. Why else would your husband have any reason to lie?
2007-08-26 20:04:36 · answer #1 · answered by Gorgeous 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When people are married to someone who is deeply suspicious and critical most defend themselves by saying as little as possible to their partner. Doubtless your husband thought that if he mentioned the woman called by he would be in for a grilling again and therefore kept quiet.
Jealous suspicious minds are very destructive not just to marriage but also other family members around them.
Ask yourself now if you want your marriage to survive and whether you are prepared to try and save it. Your conduct is destroying it and it will probably not survive unless you seek urgent help to control your psychological behaviour problem!!!
Just why do women rush to say dump him, divorce him in answers like this? No wonder the divorce rate is so high. Begs the question why any woman gets married at all!! Or, perhaps they hope that getting wives and girlfriends to dump their partner will put another man on the street for them!!
Close your ears to them and concentrate on saving your marriage!
Good luck!!
2007-08-27 03:09:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like typical drug behavior - he isn't cheating on you, but he is doing something he definitely does not want you to know about - - sounds like he had to score something for the guy and the girlfriend had asked him earlier about getting something too - that's why they are ALL lying - and not doing it very well either.
He's trying to confuse you so you don't figure it out and get MAD instead of finding out what he is doing.
2007-08-27 03:35:34 · answer #3 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't small. Lies are a BIG problem, and they do warrant trust issues. You are not wrong. He needs to know that the lying stops now and he needs to stop turning the problem around onto you. Lies are not necessary if there is nothing to hide.
2007-08-27 03:56:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, we must be married to the same guy; it's not your trust issues it's that he has no respect for you and it pisses you off. Generally people don't change but for your sake I hope he does. Good luck with a guy like this, you're going to need it
2007-08-27 09:47:17 · answer #5 · answered by Jersey Style 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything is black and white with guys, no room for gray areas.
You can only give males one instruction at a time or it confuses them.
He either has something to hide or he's a penny short of a dollar.
2007-08-27 03:07:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you have trust issues because your guy is a liar. You don;t say how long you've been together or whether you have kids, but you might want to think about whether it's worth it to stay with him.
2007-08-27 03:06:23 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. Switch 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it's proven that he'll lie to you, then you cannot reasonably trust that he won't do worse.
2007-08-27 03:15:12 · answer #8 · answered by Ratchanexpat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋