I TAKE FULL RESPOCABLITY FOR WHAT HAPPEN AND AM SORRY FOR THE DISASTAR THAT HAPPENS IN MY MARRIAGE AND MY SONS LIFE WHAT CAN I DO?
I had an AFFAIR on my ex. husband before we divorced with his older brother who was my HIGH SCHOOL love, but went to prison before graduation! He got out and got married and went to prison again until a year ago when he got out, and we got together 24 years latter!
My husband caught us and he divorced me and took our son with him and kicked me out took everything saying in court I was unfit mother, judge believed him and I lost completely!
My son lived with him for over a year but I was to get him for 6 week this summer. Well he was with me for a day when I said something POORLY, and salty because my BOYFRIEND was "feeling me up" and when my son caught us , I made a joke at his expense.
My son picked a candle stick holder on the table and struck me in the face and said hows that for a joke, I had to go to the hospital and have many,
2007-08-26 18:58:30 · 21 answers · asked by April Snow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
broken bones on my face as well as my jaw, and my son YELLING HOWS THAT FOR A JOKE!
My my boyfriend his uncle when to stop him he is now in a wheelchair, for broken spine he's never going to walk again, or anything else for that matter!
latter that night while he was arrested he tried to commit suicide, but failed only because the tie broke and the officer got him to the hospital where my EX. and I was to my 14year old child was suffering PTS (Post, traumatic, syndrome) and was the main reason for his behavior!
The JUDGE throw out the case because of our joke and stripped me of all rights and ordered me to pay all the Counseling cost! *I'll do that gladly*
I say again I'm the one to blame and my actions have hurt my child what can I do to insure him I's SO SORRY for what I did about everything!
My EX. and I are talking about getting back together, after breakup with his GIRLFRIEND!
2007-08-26 18:58:40 · update #1
I am drunk, and I don't care who knows because I hurt my son so much everyone should call me a whore, slut, and anything else you can think of!
2007-08-26 19:14:45 · update #2
I'm sorry your going through this. I think you want to be a good mom though or else you wouldnt be on here venting. How about get some therapy? Pay 100% attention to your son now. Get rid of the men in your life. Make your son your focus.
2007-08-26 23:15:17 · answer #1 · answered by mary1234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor U, Wah wah!!
Sober up and get straight....SH** happens!! We make choices and we live or die by them, but we should definietly LEARN from them!!
From what U have said, YES, U have made a few mistakes, bad judgement, hormones, Heaven only knows, however, U have to continue making choices, but U totally need to consider the consequences, the best U can each time!!
Life doesn't have to be so hard, but God knows, he doesn't make it easy All Of the Time either!! Whether U believe in God or anything or not.
Know this U don't have to go down the same path the rest of Ur LIFE!!
Take the time to re-evaluate Ur priorities!! Every aspect of UR life....U can change it for the better, but it takes time, and I am telling U the truth, it may just take a LIFETIME....but if U really want to put for the effort....
IT TAKES ONE BREATH AT A TIME
ONE MOMENT AT A TIME
ONE HOUR AT A TIME
ONE DAY AT A TIME
ONE STEP AT A TIME
Eventually, U will be able to look back and say, "Wow, I made it through". U might have to give up on some things, or change the way U view things, even stop things, but U are in control of what happens to U, unless U break the Law.
Well enough of that....
Right now, feel sorry for Urself or someone else, for no one else, for everyone else.....but pick Urself up again and try, try, again...the only person that is stopping U IS U!!
God Bless!!
Sorry, one last thing, I don't know if anyone told U, U are a horrible Mother or if U just think U are, but who are they to judge?! Yes, some choices U have made aren't ones that have given U the outcome that U might have wanted, but U gave life to a human and that is definietly being a Awesome Mom, if nothing else...Think about it!!
Good Luck!!
2007-08-27 02:52:25 · answer #2 · answered by SuasGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you are already aware of your faults you should take the next step. Mend all wounds. After the deed is done there is no way to take it back. However, you can try again. You are the mother of this boy for a reason. If you can handle your son and truly want to forge a stronger and better relationship you should talk to your former husband and you current boyfriend. Your kid is obviously not accostomed to you with your new love. If ever you get to speak or see him don't bring him (boyfriend) along. Take the first step. It is difficult to instigate and the pain will be overwhelming. As a mother you have instincts for this. Use them. No matter what be there for your family. Take your time. Please remember the injury is still very raw. Day by day sow your love and perseverance. Seeing a therapist would help release some frustration and anger on both sides. Hopefully, if you are sincere enough, your ex husband will cooperate.. If he doesn't then don't gve up. This boyfriend of yours is not as important as your son. Your husband is not reason enough to walk away.
Good luck.
2007-08-27 02:14:43 · answer #3 · answered by impasse 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe you've been traumatized on so many different levels and like any story, we don't know the whole story here on the board, so I'm making NO judgements whatsoever.
I feel that some good therapy would be great for you on all levels, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. You deserve to work this out the best way you can so you can feel better about yourself and in time things will get better. Not everything will ever go back to the way it was, but still though, there will be improvement, so NEVER give up!! and don't give up on yourself. Everyone makes mistakes, everybody.
There must've been issues between u and ur spouse for u to have strayed. you can't put ALL the blame on one person [like urself for ex.]
please go get therapy you will not regret it for a minute
2007-08-27 02:15:43 · answer #4 · answered by Yvonne 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should just forgive yourself and get on with your life. Your son is not going to want to have anything to do with you because you caused him hurt shame and did'nt show any type of motherly love towards him the way you went about things was really wrong and i'm not going to say you deserve what you are getting because i can't judge you. But i will say you brung all this alll on yourself. Get some help and take it one day at a time.
2007-08-27 02:17:25 · answer #5 · answered by Spacious 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd hate to kick a dog when he's down but girl, you've got too much DRAMA for this page! Can you put the drink down & keep your legs closed long enuf to hear what people are saying?? You admit you're unfit, your boyfriends a loser, your husband don't need you and your son is a wreck!! YOU NEED TO STAY IN COUNSELING. Don't try anything drastic, for attention but get outta their lives and work on yourself. You need help badly. I don't want to call you a bunch of names, plus you know them all...just RUN to your nearest church, center, group or whatever! God Bless You.
2007-08-27 04:41:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a fool you are. You were a train wreck. Your a big girl. You made a choice to screw up. I think your ex is mental if he goes back with you. and your son caught you? Wow should I add the word s*** to the mix? Now that I told you how it is/was let me build you up..You have another chance to make right choices. You should not get back with your ex for no less than a year. Do not date anyone else, have sex, Get your s*** together. Prove to him and yourself that you have matured
2007-08-27 02:18:45 · answer #7 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to go to counseling yourself, and then you need to have family counseling with your son, and your exhusband.
You're considering getting together with the exboyfriend, who ended up in a wheelchair? Seriously? Hasn't this relationship caused enough trouble at this point?
GET OVER HIM.
Go to counseling, and do something to get yourself straightened out. That is the ONLY way to show your son that you are sorry.
2007-08-27 03:43:08 · answer #8 · answered by devyl gyrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jerry Springer. The court is right, you are an unfit mother. You get your son for six weeks but making out with your boyfriend was more important. In fact you chose to ridicule your son. Apparently sex is more important to you than the relationship you build with the people around you. And you've got a mouth on you. I think you know what to do. You just can't do it.
2007-08-27 02:13:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Wow, what a mess. Looks like the damage is done and you can't change the past. All you can possibly do is change what you do from now on. Nothing else you can do. Get some counseling. You will need it to work through all your feelings and guilt and learn how to forgive yourself.
2007-08-27 02:12:29 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋