I terminated the relationship with my ex several months ago. Now he is going around his office and with my (now ex-) friends talking very badly about me behind my back. And when he is in online locations that he knows I also am there, he will make passive aggressive snarky comments at my expense. My response so far is say nothing. But the more that I find out he is saying about me, and these lies that are being spread about me, my patience is about to wear out. Part of me wants to confront him and the people involved and call them out directly. Part of me wants to snark back. And what I think is my better nature says to have no part of it and not even address such concerns. Why do I feel the need to defend myself? Should I? I do not go around the old friends at all - he won them. But at work (we work together, on my recommendation he got his job while we were together) I do not want to run the risk of his badly chosen words to change my reputation. Is silence always the best option?
2007-08-26 18:46:42 · 2 answers · asked by buscadora78 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What a jerk! You must have really made him mad. Aren't you glad that your rid of him? Best to protect your job but without being there it's hard to tell you what to do. But the words I dumped him when I realized what a jerk he was should cover it. I wouldn't have given up friends without a bit of a fight. Most people realize an ex says bad things because they are upset with how it ended and it obviously wasn't their choice. Usually friends of both are neutral. Not addressing him is really making him madder, he wants your attention-which I would not give. If he damages your reputation at work, you owe him nothing and he deserves what you give him. Be very careful on your job.
2007-08-26 19:47:32 · answer #1 · answered by towanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
altough sometimes silence is the best option i think u need 2 stand up for yourself and confront him and tell him that he needs 2 stop and that its not funny. Ask him why he does this 2 u,but dont make it sound nice ask w/ attitude, and say that if he has issues with u then he needs to confront u about it and stop being a immature little boy who hides behind his problems creating new ones instead of just solving them. Make sure u tell him that wat he does doesnt bother u cause it only proves the fact that U R 2 GOOD 4 HIM!
2007-08-27 02:04:01 · answer #2 · answered by Emery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋