I'v been with my boyfriend for about a year and we've been having sex for about 7 months now and the first time was unbelievably painful and i bled quite a bit for the first couple times (which i know is normal for some girls due to the hymen breaking). However, each and every time we have sex it still hurts quite a bit during entry, and is not pleasant the entire time. Then after it stings and burns, and this happens no matter how much foreplay we have or how turned on i am. I'm guessing this might be because of lack of lubrication, but if anyone knows any other reason why this is happening please tell me if you can. Also does sex actually feel good for some people? and how can i make it feel good?
2007-08-26 18:07:06 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
You could try some lubrication because if you're dry it's going to hurt no matter what, and sometimes it will hurt for a long time when you first start having sex because the hymen can still be partially intact and it's pulling and doesn't feel good. When you are lubricated and relaxed it should start to feel better, it may take time but lubricate the condom and yourself and see if that helps any, KY is a good lube.
2007-08-26 18:15:25 · answer #1 · answered by Laura S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is supposed to feel wonderful, ESPECIALLY upon entry. I imagine you have tried KYJelly so you WOULD be lubricated enough. You'd put it on his penis and inside of you. If it's still painful and/or uncomfortable, you have a problem. Sweetie, you can't go through life like this!! It's supposed to feel GOOD. I promise!! You must get a pap smear! Have you have one yet? They're no big deal! Girls are nervous the first time only because they don't know what to expect!! As long as you relax, they go by in a couple minutes, and it does not hurt. Please go get a pap smear. The doctors do them all day long, so there's no reason to be nervous. And the nurse stays in there. She'll hold your hand if you want. You could have a serious problem, so become a grown woman and do what you have to do. Doctors are so smart. The doctor will help you feel better physically as well as mentally. Make that appt, tomorrow. C'mon, girlfriend!! Don't be a baby!! You can go with your Mom or a best friend. Or alone. Just go. E-mail me if you want. Lynn :)
2007-08-26 18:27:30 · answer #2 · answered by LadyLynn 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you been to a gyno? If you are having sex, you should go anyway. You need to first and foremost make sure you are healthy down there.
Yes, try buying some lubrication. This could help.
Are you sure you are turned on? If you are nervous, your body may be too focused on you being nervous to let you be turned on (and thus, lubrication).
Wear a condom... They come with some lubrication (plus the benefits of STD and pregnancy protection...)
Have you done other sexual deeds? I have heard the more you have done (him using his hands), the most stretched out and 'ready' you are, and thus, less pain.
And making it feel good is experience. Make sure you are comfortable with your relationship with your boyfriend. Relax with him, and just enjoy each other.
So yes, Go to the doctor and try more lube.
Good luck!
2007-08-26 18:17:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If sex is painful for you due to lack of lubrication, a name brand, water based (water-soluble) lubricant can often enhance and make sex enjoyable. (KY is a popular brand).
The pain may also be related to your boyfriend's "size." A larger "member" (Yahoo! TOS issues) will take sometime getting used to, but, eventually, your "insides" will stretch enought for sex to be enjoyable.
The best thing to do, ask your gynecologist. They will have much better information for you, especially because they are privy to your gynecological history. So, please, do not delay in talking with your gyne about this issue (or any other related issues, ever!)
2007-08-26 18:15:55 · answer #4 · answered by BigJRules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it would feel good if you saved that for marraige :) No, I'm kidding ;) Maybe you could get some lubricant, I've heard of people doing that to ease the pain.
2007-08-26 18:13:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably need to use lube for a while. Also, you are probably subconciously clenching up in anticipation of the pain. Get totally relaxed and take it slow.
2007-08-26 18:14:21 · answer #6 · answered by Crunchy Sweet 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree- check it out with a doctor.
Sex can feel totally wonderful, and if it's hurting, there might be something wrong, physically or emotionally.
Please check it out. I'm worried that if something's wrong, sexual activity could even make it worse...
2007-08-26 19:54:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it fairly is very painful you fairly could desire to wish to do it on your physique to sit down down back and bypass with it. in case you have any doubts then do not do it. i admire anal intercourse with my boyfriend whether it nevertheless hurts, you want a great number of lube and merely take it sluggish. in case you have ANY doubt do not do it! you need to use a condom!
2016-10-03 07:09:45 · answer #8 · answered by mccleery 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it eventually will get better. Your body is still adjusting to it. tell him to stop pumping on you like a rabbit and take it a little slower. it still is probably tight. I used to keep icecubes near. or you could have your bath ready. it feels different raw because he is puting his semen in u too, that is if you are not using condems
2007-08-26 18:16:26 · answer #9 · answered by shareecee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try some lube
2007-08-27 06:18:24 · answer #10 · answered by aldrich061007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋