He doesn't like them but what are your opinions??
Thankyou.
2007-08-26 18:02:52 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I can see your point and I can see his.... We all want our significant others to be a part of our family.... but is there a reason he doesn't like your family? Are they rude, intolerant, or do they just not like him??? I understand you are upset... you have that right. Talk to him and ask why he doesn't like your family.
2007-08-26 18:09:51 · answer #1 · answered by Linda S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does your family feel about your partner? You need to find out why he doesn't like them or if the feeling is mutual.
My husband has trouble with many of my family gatherings too. I come from a very large family and sometimes the gatherings get very loud and some people are very opinionated and try to talk religion or politics or force their beliefs on everyone else...
2007-08-27 01:09:14 · answer #2 · answered by knittinmama 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your Partner? Is this your boyfriend? Or is this a gay relationship? ok, assuming that it's a boyfriend I would be upset as well. Why don't he like them? All of this makes a difference and without anymore info. it is hard to make a call about this one. If it is a gay relationship then there is good reason because most families are not very accepting. Maybe yours is but as I said without anymore details it is hard to tell. But put all of this into perspective and hopefully something might ring a bell.
Good Luck!
2007-08-27 01:16:28 · answer #3 · answered by julia b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you really need to stick together when it comes to family. It's not really good for the relationship if they refuse to come. I know it's hard for some people to deal with others. But, for you they should come to the get together.
Did something bad happen to them at a gathering?
I knew a couple where the guy stopped going. Now they are divorced. Not the cause. But not much help either.
2007-08-27 01:09:31 · answer #4 · answered by 354gr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he doesn't like them, then forcing a meeting would be terrible. Then THEY won't like him either because he will probably show a bad attitude towards them.
If it is really important to you, try to find out why it is he doesn't like them. Families are complicated and not exactly our choice, and sometimes family gatherings are obligation, more out of etiquette and keeping harmony.
His perspective could be the result of something you have projected on to him (if you talk sh** about your family, even without noticing). If this is true, then you have more power to change his mind.
2007-08-27 01:14:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you married/legally joined? or do you feel that you have that equivalent? I think... if he doesn't want to go just because he doesn't like them... ugh that's really selfish and childish. Are you sure there isn't some more important reason? I mean, try to find out before you chew him out because someone in your family could be making him feel really uncomfortable... i mean even more uncomfortable than normal in-law uncomfortableness.
He should want to stand by you everywhere you go, and want to get to be a part of your family, don't you think? family is very important.
He should just suck it up and be as pleasant as possible. We're all gonna bad mouth each other when we leave anyway.
2007-08-27 01:08:42 · answer #6 · answered by arsenic sauce 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, definitely you are right to be upset. if he loves you and you would like him to go to family gatherings with you, and he doesnt want to go, there must be a reason behind it, so when he is in a good mood and understanding, you should ask him the reason. even if he doesnt like your family, it doesnt mean that he cant be with them for a couple of hours JUST to make you happy.
2007-08-27 01:14:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you have he is your partner he must go to family gatherings
sometimes this will be the reason he wont go
he felt unwanted by your family
so you do have a right to be upset he is a part of your family though he is unwaanted just like the ugly duckling....
2007-08-27 01:09:23 · answer #8 · answered by me 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you have a right to be upset. If he really loves you, he will try to be part of your family.
2007-08-27 01:06:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't like any of my bf's family. They are predjudiced hillbillies and they kind of ignore me when I'm there anyway. He may have his reasons for not wanting to attend to them, but doesn't want to further upset you by complaining. I usually make up an excuse not to attend so I won't have to hear it.
2007-08-27 01:07:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋