how do you feel about men who to tip too much?

Question

so im going out with this guy. we go out to bars, restaurants and such. sometimes the service is not great or good. but he still tips a lot. he likes to tip 10% -15% of the amount of the bill. he usually always leaves more than $5

Answer 1

As long as it's not my money, I could care less! There might be a reason that he tips so much. He might've worked before as a waiter, and knows through personal experience how little servers make ... payroll-wise as well as tip-wise ... or he might've known someone who is or was a server. Or maybe he's just that generous. Either way, it only seems to prove how he's likely to treat you in the relationship.

I usually try to tip as much as I can afford, because I've been there. I'm still there. I tipped a server $5 once ... and it hurt me that she seemed so close to tears! Where I work, $5 is hardly nothing sometimes. I tipped another server at the Subway $5, as well as her three co-workers who'd helped her wait on me, and was thrown when one of her co-workers was wondering aloud if it was real ... and still another server at Cicily's $20, who took the cake when he asked me if I was sure I'd tipped him right, said "Thank you", and came back a few minutes later and asked me again if I was sure that I'd tipped him right. He seemed about to pass out, and I can't tell you how that made me feel to realize that these people are so unused to being tipped that it's almost a miracle when they are.

It reminds me of when I worked alongside a girl who, I found out later, was struggling. She was 16 years old, on her own because she was emancipated from her mother and her mother's perverted boyfriend, and living in an apartment with friends because her older sister's boyfriend had started trying to get her into bed. One day she turned to me on break and asked me - nervously - if she could borrow $5 to eat. It was heartbreaking. McDonald's didn't pay enough to sustain someone who was struggling as badly as she was. I lent it to her, and noted that, although she paid me back the next week, she never asked me again for money. She was too ashamed to, so a couple of times I tried to offer without hurting her pride. It makes me wonder how many other servers out there are in the same boat.

Tips, I found out, mean 'To Insure Proper Service'. In other words ... if a server meets your expectations, or even exceeds your expectations, it's good form to give a little extra. It always comes back to you double ... I guarantee it!

Answer 2

Good-tippers are more than likely good people. They understand the value of what they are getting at that restaurant, bar, coffee shop, etc. Maybe they used to be in the industry and they REALLY understand it. I am a hairdresser and I have the kind of job where tips are accepted and appreciated but not as common as waitstaff tips. However, when I receive a tip, it makes me very happy. I feel like my work meant something to that person enough for them to pay me above and beyond what was expected. So when I go out to eat, I sit down at the table with a certain amount of a tip in mind. If the service is mediocre, they get the tip I was planning to give. (around 20%). If the service is poor, I'll probably give them 15% (which is standard, by the way and included at some places) And if the service is terrible, I let the manager know, and leave 1 or 2 dollars. :) But knowing the importance of a good tip, I'd say that this guy is worth keeping around. And if you're really wondering about it, why don't you ask him? like, say he leaves $10 tip on a $25 bill, just casually say, "man was it just me? or did that waiter not refill our waters enough?" see what his answer is. Another thing to think about is that if you haven't known him very long, he may be doing it just to impress you, so you should find out before you're getting the wrong idea. You could always pull out the "tip calculator" on your cell phone, if your phone has one, just to get the conversation going. Good luck and I hope he's a genuinely generous guy, not a creep that's trying to impress you :)

Answer 3

I don't know why you think 10-15% is too much. The norm is 20% if the service is good and 15% if it's bad. I only leave less than 15% if it's absolutely horrible. If the service is horrible, write a letter to the management, don't take it out on the server. They may have had a bad day or something, you never know. My wife and I recently had a bad experience and sent a letter to the management at the restaurant and received a $25 giftcard and a phone call from the store manager apologizing.

I used to be a server and let me tell you, a server's paycheck is NOTHING. Their hourly wage (which is $2-3/hour) basically pays the taxes on the tips they make. If the guy you're going out with has brainwashed you into thinking 10-15% is a good tip, get rid of him! He will be cheap with you too and I'm sure you wouldn't want that!

Answer 4

The general rule for tipping is 15% - 20%, especially at fine restaurants. When going out for dinner, you should expect this as part of the bill. If the service is minimal, leave 15%. If it is exceptional, leave 20%. If the service is unacceptable, only then should you consider less.

Answer 5

First of 10%-15% IS NOT overtipping. 15% is average, 10% is an insult. If he were to overtip, upwards of 20% would be generous. A $5 tip can be good or bad. On a $20 bill, it's a decent tip, on a $50 bill, it's a joke. But if he were an overtipper, get over it. It's not your money, and people can tip however they'd like. If you're paying, you can tip however you'd like.

Answer 6

haha......leaves too much? 10-15 percent!? That's below average for good service...if anything he's being a little cheap. And $5 means nothing if the bill is $70. If service is poor, then that is one thing...and yes he should leave a tip that reflects his displeasure (if he is in fact unhappy) but if the service is good-great....then he should be tipping MORE than 15%, chances are, that server is making way below min. wage. (in NC...it's $2.13 an hour!)

Answer 7

I think 10 to 15% isnt leaving too much. When I get so so service I leave 10%, When the service is good I leave 15%, when the service is flawless I leave 20%.

Answer 8

15% is an average tip. If the service is very good, 20%, less than average 10%.

If I went out with a guy who tipped less than this, I would think he was a cheapskate who didn't appreciate good service and likely dump him.

If he overtipped, like 30% on average, I would wonder if he felt he needed to help out the service people for some reason.

Answer 9

Well.... why do you really care? it isn't your money.... but anyway.... i imagine he understands that for the most part people in the food service industry work very hard and have to deal with alot of difficult people..... why not tip a little bit more to make up for all the jerks who leave miserable tips when the service is great?
btw... 10% isn't good at all.... that is what you leave for bad service

Answer 10

You are suppose to tip 15 to 20 Percent of the bill OR take the sales tax and double it and thats the amount you are suppose to leave. He is actually cheating the out on the tax