For years ive struggled with a shyness problem and the fact that i looked young for my age made me feel that i didnt fit in with others..because of this i have been depressed alot and avoided people interactions. Since i was young i haven't had that my friendships or girlfriend relationships. I want and need to find a way to be more outgoing and involved with people but it seems so hard in my mind to do. Sometimes i can feel really good about myself and can be socialable and have fun joking around with people... but alot of the time i seem to isolate myself and cant find a way to be around people.... Can anyone offer any advice that might help... Thanks
2007-08-26 15:48:47 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Be yourself. Checkout Yahoo Personals.
2007-08-26 16:13:34 · answer #1 · answered by ted j 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you may have a depression problem that causes you to be antisocial. This is very very common and alot of people take medicine for it. You probably have some low self -esteem problems too. If it is effecting you every day then I would suggest talking to a doctor and just trying some meds to see if it helps you - If not, you can always stop taking them.
Alot of people don't want to take medicine or see a doctor for a problem like that because they feel like other people will think they are "crazy" etc. but that's actually not the case. I know more people who are treated for depression/anxiety than aren't. Good luck!
2007-08-26 15:58:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bud you are not alone. There are millions and zillions of fellow boys and girls with this problem. But there's help at the end of the tunnel. You have to prepare a plan in your own mind. Once you have that, follow your instincts. For this, you might need to use your subconscious mind in the beginning..You need to get a head start as fast as possible. Now how will you prepare a plan in your head? Take some unimportant things out of your crowded mind and then things will be very easy your way.
2007-08-26 16:00:52 · answer #3 · answered by salimdist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 Do this:
Everyday, starting tonight, right before you go to bed go to a mirror and look deep into your eyes(not at your eyes) and tell your Self "I love you unconditionally, and I honor who you are and what you are".
Also do the same process as soon as you wake up.
Your Life will have shifted within 30 days.
It works!
#2 Get rid of the words want and need from your vocabulary they are disempowering, replace them with desire and require.
#3 Go to the below website and read all the articles and quotes
2007-08-26 16:12:36 · answer #4 · answered by aldiaz2wheare 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a drama class. Take a speech class. Join toastmasters club.
You have to pretend you're someone you're not to be outgoing and engaging. Then when you've got a conversation going, or a relatinoship going, you can feel free to be yourself and let your friend see the "real" you.
2007-08-26 15:57:48 · answer #5 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
begin by asking your family...
or go out with some people yo know often... this will make you spreak to them very well..
don't let your mind be clouded with thoughts that you may not be able to bear... never hesitate to ask a question even if you think it's stupid, just make sure it needs to be asked for your professional enlightenment...
read books, articles, etc. that discuss personality development.
you may also speak to a counselor...
in doing these, you must have some who is very willing to monitor such changes...
2007-08-26 15:55:51 · answer #6 · answered by leoeightysix 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to be treated for depression, not shyness.
2007-08-26 15:53:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋