Am I wrong to feel Violated?

Question

I don't mean to be over -reacting, and please tell me if you think so, but I'm 16, and yesterday at a family get together, i was practically on the coucgh falling asleep because I had a stomach ache, and I had taken some pills that made me sleepy. So as I fall asleep, a long time family friend wanted to rub my tummy to make it feel better...In my oppinion he wasn't rubbing only my tummy. I don't know, I just feel so violated. it's in my head, i cant get the feeling out. I can't discribe the feeling, it's just you know it only after you experince it. I told him to stop, but he kept going, untill i got up and left. What should I do? I feel so alone, and disgusted with myself. I told my mom but she doesn't believe me because i've been moody all day and made her mad, so she thinks im just making it up...please share your thoughts with me. do these feelings ever go away?

I was inside my aunts house! For gods sake, I wasn't excpecting anyone to do that! I've known these people for a good 16 years now! Everyone was outside, and I had just come in too. :/

I don't think he touched me down there, I just know my sweater was unzipped and he was cupping feels at my chest...that's it...

I think the guys about 50 here people. He's older. much much much older. I had basically fallen asleep too, and i think what got me up was a squeeze. I can't remember what happened well, but I sure remember that feeling in the pit of my stomach.

I wasn't home. I was out in the country the drungs made me drowsy, what was I supposed to do? Suffer? I just had my gallbladder out. Secondly i trusted everyone at that family type get together. How am i supposed to learn from this? Never let myself be alone with people who i trust? Never let people get close to me mY father is already an alcoholic, don't you think i already stduggle with a trust issue? i dont let people close to me. i've heard some nasty things from my father too, but i really hadnt believed anythign would go far...i fell asleep at what i would call my second home.

Answer 1

it will always be a memory...as for them going away they will start to fade with time...they will never truly go away...this just shows you should not put yourself into a situation with anyone stranger or friend unless you can handle it

Answer 2

it is not top that he appeared, i might sense violated too! i think of with stuff like this, it replaced into rude of him to ever invade your privateness like that, and if it incredibly is gonna be a source of contempt, you're ideal off discussing it with him so as that a minimum of you have had an probability to get it off your chest, if no longer the rest. i won't have the capacity to make certain this going badly incredibly, except he's one in each of those power tripping Nazi he'd hearth you for even stating it, then circulate with your instincts and confer with him approximately it. frequently, i might tread intently and convey it up without being overly accusatory or aggressive, only via fact people will respond defensively and that i won't get the determination i'm after -- no longer honest, you need to be waiting to be openly indignant approximately this, whether it incredibly is on your guy or woman ideal interest to try this with a point head and only tell him frankly that what he suggested looks to have been from a message on your telephone and you elect to easily be direct and ask him if he did look by using your telephone. If he apologizes, you will sense plenty extra suited (with any luck) and if no longer,t chicken a minimum of you probably did carry it up and returned *with any luck* which will enable it relax extra undemanding with you. interior the top, there is probable no longer something which will depart you feeling *stable* approximately this, you won't have the capacity to unring the bell, he's seen your own info, it is not in any respect gentle *yet* with any luck having it out int he open vs. sweeping it below the rug provides you quite delight that it replaced into a minimum of reported. desire this helps, average basically a crappy difficulty! =o(

Answer 3

You are in no way overreacting to this situation. If he made you feel uncomfortable than something is definitely wrong. What adult male would rub a 16 year old girls stomach? AND you asked him to stop. I'm sorry to hear your mother was unsupporting of your feelings. Stay away from this guy. Be sure you are never alone with him. If possible avoid any future gathers he may be at. If you really need to talk about this further there are help lines that specialize in this. I suggest you look one up in your area. I'm not sure if your feelings will go away because I have not personally experienced that but for your sake I hope they do.

Answer 4

First of all, if you were in a drugged state, I'd worry if you think something else happened. Wait for your mom to cool down a bit and then find her and in a calm manner, tell her what you think happened.

Don't even think that it's your fault, don't feel disgusted with yourself. THe person who made you feel this way was wrong and should have stopped when you said something. Go and talk to your mom again.

Answer 5

the feeling will go away, and your not overreacting although i dont really understand that feeling (at least if he was your own age) but that could be bc im a guy...idk id just try 2 forget about it and dont let him start next time. maybe he likes you? and what was he touching? everybody seems to be getting really pissie..if he just touched your chest...i would say calling a rape line or the police is really overreacting at most just tell him not 2 do it ever again and you didnt like it (you said you are not even sure he wasnt only trying 2 rumb you stomach??)

Answer 6

I don't think you're over-acting in this situation.

I was always taught that if it didn't feel right--then it's not right and I'm 45 yrs. old.

Maybe you can tell your dad and it will be different. If all else fails you could ask someone of more authority--a cop, social worker, etc.

Good Luck in this and stick with how you feel.

Answer 7

if u feel violated then u were violated ur mom is a stupid b@#ch.. if my child ever told me she feel violated in any way best believe im gonna handle that.. so take it to a counselor at school.. speak up for ur self that is the only way to get that feeling u have to go away.. i no because i have been there and some

Answer 8

they will go away, but you have to stay away from this person. doesn't sound much like a family friend. your mom should believe you even if your moody, and made her angry. maybe you need to speak to someone else like a minister or a counselor, to be able to deal with these feelings.

Answer 9

Let this be an important lesson for you.
You should have gone to your room.
Never put yourself in a vulnerable position.
Perhaps if you hadn't been so moody,
& irritated your mother, she'd believe you.

Answer 10

they will go away once you tel lsomeone who will understand and try to make you feel better.
assure your mum, talk to her again, and tell her this is not going away, and if she doesnt understand and be there for you, you will go to police.

just say it, and she will see the seriousness in this isutation..
dont you hate when parents get told something, and dont read into it...
when their daughter or son get molested and raped - they say there were signs, but we didnt act upon it...
its rediculous..
talk to someone who you think will understand and believe..
it will make you feel better
what that person did was wrong.. and i think you should contact that person and tell him that it wasnt right.
getting it off your chest is a great way to deal with it and put it behind you.

Answer 11

Have patience dear friend! Like someone said next time don't leave urself vulnerable. That guy was a jerk if he really molested you!!