in response to my previous question.........HELP?

Question

OK SO AFTER CLOSELY REVIEWING THESE VIDEOSS OF PROPER LATCHING ETC I'M CONVINCED MY POOR BABY IS ONLY GETTING MILK WHEN I HAVE MY LETDOWNS I'M FREAKING OUT AND FEEL VERY IDIOTIC THAT THESE NIBBLING SUCKS HAVE BEEN MISTAKEN FOR HIM GETTING MILK HE IS GETTING ANGRY WHEN I TRY TO LATCH HIM APPROPRIATELY AND AT THIS POINT I'M QUITE DISAPPOINTED THAT THIS HAS ALSO GONE UNOTICED BY THE PROFESSIONALS I HAVE CALLED UPON FOR HELP AND ADVICE I FEEL AT THIS POINT MY DECISION TO BREASTFEED IS SELFISH HOW COULD HE BE GAINING WEIGHT THOUGH? I ASSUME I HAVE A SEEMINGLY POOR SUPPLY DUE TO THIS HE DOSENT SEEM DEHYDRATED HE WETS AND POOPS I'M FREAKING OUT HERE.................I SERIOUSLY DONT KNOW IF I SHOULD CONTINUE TO BREASTFEED OR NOT NINE WEEKS OF ANGUISH.........ANY ADVICE

PLEASE DON'T TELL ME NOT TO STRESS YOU ARE NOT IN MY SHOES

I HAVE TRIED TO GET HELP AND BEEN THROUGH 2 PEDIATRICIANS THUS FAR ALSO 2 LACTATION CONSULTANTS

exscuse me!!!!!! I SO don't want to give up I love breastfeeding and havent given in yet!!!!!!!!!! even after tons of poor advice and very little support!!!! I know he's not starving I'm just a mess!! sorry for being so frantic

well to the rude answer I guess you don't realize how many doctors are uneducated and push formula down you're throat and I like both of the l/c's one relocated and I am working with a new one in my defense how am I the problem I only care for my baby!!!!!!!

thanks for the positive responses I guess some of these people have never worried or thought they may mess there baby up lol I've allways looked far into things and I get too worked up which isn't good my hubby is threatening to take away the computer LOL sigh of relief !!! I'm kind of a nut over htis baby can't you tell?

Answer 1

Dear Tasha,
It seems like everything I wanted to say has already been said, but I want to throw in some extra words of encouragement, because I know just what you're going through.
Reading your questions brings me back a few months with my baby.
First of all, contact LLL, they 're awesome. They'll let you know if something is wrong with the latch.
Other than that, don't listen to anyone trying to make you give up. I was told by my mom and sisters, that I was starving my baby, that I was driving her crazy, that I was stopping myself from enjoying my baby by persisting to breastfeed, when obviously I couldn't. I head time after time, the words : " My baby wasn't breastfed, and look, he turned out just fine..." or " So you breastfed for a month, that 's good. Now it's time to stop, or you'll die of exhaustion..."
NO! I wanted to keep going, and nothing in the world would stop me. My baby was gainning, and that was all the reassurance I needed. It's discouraging to hear people say: "Well, you did your best, but it didn't work out..."
Tasha, don't listen to anyone. You just keep trying. Look at your beautiful happy baby, and know that you're doing a good job. Well done for being so determined. Your son is obviously not in danger. If you're unsure, keep talking to lactation consultants, 'till you get it right. You're gunna make it I know. I just know in a couple of years, I'll be answering one of your questions about how to wean!!!!
Good luck, you have my wishes.

Answer 2

you guys will get it.
first, before you give up, try some different positions... if you are cradling him while nursing now, switch. Hold him like he's a football. so he's facing you. cradle his head,put him to your breast. If he's crying at this point, that's good, b/c his mouth is wide open and you can put your nipple in there properly. if holding him like that isn't comfortable, lay down with him and try to nurse that way.
my son did this too, he was a tough one to nurse, he wouldn't latch on all the way and the such.
you aren't being selfish, by wanting to breastfeed--you're doing what is the best for him also!!! and if he's getting the letdown, that is GREAT!!! That's when they get the most food, so no worries there!!!
That is very frustrating that no one has even tried to help you!! That's unbelievable!
I really feel that you 2 will get it. Just make yourself as comfortable as possible for nursing. Whether you have a boppy or just pillows. Plop them on your lap (and if hubby or whoever) is available have them hand you baby. Maybe that will help. Try to relax your arms AS much as possible while holding him--he may sense that you're worried/stressed and this may be why he fussy even more....
So HOPEFULLY some of this will help you in nursing. Fingers are crossed for you guys!!! Keep it up, you're doing it--and he'll learn!!!

Answer 3

Okay. If your baby is gaining weight then he is getting milk. He is getting more milk than you think, it's just so hard to gauge when you have nothing to measure...he wouldn't be growing, he'd have dry diapers and he'd be constantly crying if he didn't get enough milk...trust me he'd let you know!
You need to take a deep breath, because if you're tense about nursing, he'll sense it and get upset. Baby's are very intuned to your emotions.
Are you sure he's not latching properly ... the key to a good latch is lack of pain for you! If you're in pain than he's not latching properly ... if you're not in pain and he's suckling then it's a good latch ... you don't need to be gushing milk everytime his lips touch your nipple, just being at the breast and slowly drinking works.
I think you need to find a breast feeding support group in your area, where you can discuss things with other mothers that are experiencing the same anxieties you are. Contact your local public health unit and see if there are any meetings in your area.
Good luck and hang in there! You're doing GREAT!

Answer 4

First, I only tolerated the caps because you seemed stresed.

The wets and poops though say it all, that he is eating. Have you seen if you have a local la leche group (sp?) Because these women are volunteers and not on the clock like lac consultants, they may be easier to work with. The lac consultants I had help me were so hard core, I was kind of stressed out too. And the stress can have a big effect on let down.

Answer 5

Take the caps lock off!

Your baby sounds fine. You do have enough milk. Relax. Call La Lech League, they have help available 24 hours a day. You have no reason to stop breastfeeding- your baby is obviously getting enough. Keep trying, and be patient. Your baby deserves to be breastfed, so don't quit, for his sake.

http://www.lalecheleague.org
http://www.kellymom.com

Answer 6

So you are having let-down and milk is coming in??
He's gaining weight and using his diaper enough??

I am sorry you are having such a rough time, but it sounds like baby is okay.
If that is the case, then the selfish thing to do is give formula.
Hang in there for baby's sake. Things should get easier for you.

Answer 7

First I think you need to CHILL OUT. . . and maybe its not the pediatricians or lacation consultants. . . seems like its you who is the bigger problem.