i reconected with an old friend 3 months ago,ever since then he has been asking to hang out together but honestly im still not sure if i want to see him in person.the thing that bothers me is he only calls me 2 or 3 times during the month and to me thats not being a real friend.we discussed this prob before and he did better for a while but of course he slacked off so basically its an off and on thing he does.even though we are only friends i feel if he wants to spend time with me he should make a better effort to contact me.does anyone agree? what do you guys think?
2007-08-26 14:20:18 · 13 answers · asked by jelisa3120 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i completely agree, dont waste your time
2007-08-26 14:25:51 · answer #1 · answered by m&fn princess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not like talking on the phone much. I rather talk in person. My friends know that I wouldn't be calling them every day or even once a week. We go out and hang out now and then and we text to each other a lot but not phone conversation. Don't get me wrong though, if any of my friends need help I will be there for them, and they know that. I accept my friends the way they are and they accept me the way I am.
2007-08-26 22:04:08 · answer #2 · answered by Caitlyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this is being a real friend. The infrequency of his contacting you sounds a lot like you are a last resort for him, after he can't find anybody else at all to contact.
I have a friend and I know that it's important to her that I e-mail her every day. We hang out only occasionally but I make sure there's something in her in-box from me virtually every morning. And I really look forward to it, and to hearing from her.
There's no friendship here, but whatever it is, I think I'd just let it die on the vine. He doesn't care enough about you to earn the title of "friend" and is only doing the minimum he has to keep stringing you along.
2007-08-26 21:30:27 · answer #3 · answered by Bill F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well at first it sounded as if u to were together if so ur right if not then ur acting like he has to spend all his time with u if ur just friends u dont have to hang all the time just sometimes he doesnt have to call u like 6 times in one day to be a real friend
2007-08-26 21:27:31 · answer #4 · answered by Mercedes aka gata cubana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really cares, if he really views you as a possible relationship, he'll put you at the center of his life. This two or three times a month--he's just rotating around in his little black book. A, J, K Oh, there she is! Let's call her today!
LOSER.
2007-08-26 21:25:48 · answer #5 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea i agree it seems like he is only calling probably when he has nothing to do or is bored not really because he wants to see YOU he just wants to see SOMEBODY...so just maybe talk to him again and dont hold back tell him exaclty how you feel and dont only call you when he is bored unless he is a really busy person.
2007-08-26 21:27:01 · answer #6 · answered by .:...:. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. Are you God's gift to men?
If he is interested he should call more but have you been receptive and do you like him?
Go out on a double date.
"Meet him at the malll with friends only"
Its up to you, he has interest in you, you will never know.
2007-08-26 21:29:11 · answer #7 · answered by Robert Miller 95670 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this falls in the out of sight out of mind category. He thinks your not all that interested in him because you don't want to see him in person. If I wanted to see one of my "friends" and they weren't sure if they wanted to see me in person I wouldn't bother.
2007-08-26 21:26:38 · answer #8 · answered by nomorequestionsplz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. He should talk to you a lot more until you think he deserves to see you.
2007-08-26 21:25:35 · answer #9 · answered by jamellmay8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are all kinds of friendships...if you have mentioned it before...mention it again and say he is not keeping his side of the agreement up
2007-08-26 21:25:42 · answer #10 · answered by Veevee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋