What reaction do you have when people try to pull you apart from somebody who you care about?

Question

Also how do your feelings change towards the person who you care about when you know that they aren't very well liked by certain jealous people or whatnot?

Answer 1

I don't react well... as you may remember. If I care about someone, no one should stand in my way. They can tell me their worries, but not try to pull me apart. I lose my respect for them when that happens because they pretty much demonstrate that they don't respect me. My feelings for the one I care about doesn't change and if people are jealous, then that's their problem. Unless they have a legitimate reason for me not to be with the one I love, my feelings won't change.

Answer 2

My first reaction is outrage. My second reaction is determination. My third reaction is to find out who the party is,what effect does it have on the relationship and then seek the person or persons out and demand an explanation as to why they are doing this. Hopefully since the person or persons are trying to drive us apart ,I think I would be entitled to an upfront and honest answer . My fourth reaction would be to tell them to mind their own business . My fifth reaction would be to face the person whom I have feelings for and ask her what is the relationship , if unknown , in the past to these people who have the intentions to put up obstacles in the relationship and why would they be jealous ? My feelings toward her may have been altered or changed but if it is true love then it can endure these obstacles and flourish and become stronger in spite of all of this. My last reaction would be to step back and see with a clear mind and eye if there is any credence to what the people are doing and see if there are any adaptations required so harmony can come back in the relationship and trust can be established with a better foundation. In the meantime I would back up the one I love with fervor until she would give me any means to change how I feel. Lastly, you are not going to able to change people's minds in how they feel about the person you love but you can adjust your reaction to the hindrance and be there for her and see if cooler heads prevail. They will hopefully see that puling you apart does not fit anyone's interests very well and actually can cause harm to the participants. Either that or if it is true then she must make adjustments to her behavior which is very hard to do because you love her for who she is and has become or may be other things will have to happen to keep you together despite of the people's jealous, uncalled for , dislike reactions to her and your relationship.

Answer 3

I react by keeping the peace with these people. With some I just agree with them, but not in my heart, and I don't follow their advice. With some people, I kindly put my foot down and let them know that I love this person and will continue to help her to my dying day. She has even assaulted me a few times, but I just push her away. She even smokes pot. I don't care. I am talking about my daughter. She is 24 years young. A parent's love for their children is unconditional. I understand why she has hit me a few times...it is partly due to the death of her younger brother 2 years ago, and other things that had happened in the past, which I won't go into, for I'm sure she'd prefer me not to mention these past occurrences. By the way, my daughter was the first person I ever heard using the word
whatnot, and she says it all the time. p.s. I do the same with my friends...if somebody tries to tell me something bad about them, I politely agree...but not in my heart. And if a friend hurts me, I forgive them, and if I hurt them, I say I'm sorry.

Answer 4

Fab question. Well, my normal reaction used to be to keep reaching for that person who is being kept from me. After years of experience, I have learned that if anything can come between two people, regardless of the type of relationship, it wasn't meant to be. It wasn't strong enough to withstand the tests that life often poses. Sure, people get jealous of what they wish they had when others have it, and yes, they try to take what they want from other people. But my attitude has changed, and I say to myself "let them go" because they are not the type of person who would be right to have in my life. I desire people around me who are positive, kind hearted, and good. Those are the people who stick with you and that you can always count on. That is quality, and that is what I find best.

Answer 5

Hi,
My situation is a bit of a twist on how you described in your question. The classic mother-in-law situation I suppose only I've done everything possible to make my son's partner feel welcomed into the family; we've gone out of our way to make her and her children (whom we love dearly) happy and yet nothing is good enough for her. I've always suspected she was jealous of the closeness we have in our family though she was welcomed into that closeness and recently her behaviour and blatant lies has confirmed it all. I realise too she has psychological problems. My reaction: I will continue to support the relationship as my son's happiness is my main concern. Even though I know she will continue to try to push us apart. Hopefully when my son returns from abroad she will get help to deal with her paranoia and jealousy. And no matter what she does, she's going to have to accept that all loved-one's are shared. No one can be 'exlusively' anyone else's.
Not sure it answered your question the way you hoped but it gave me a chance to get something that's causing me a lot of worry, off my chest!!!!
Polly

Answer 6

Someone asked me a simple question, that jealous person had a dispising look..I was..thinking..what the hell.., they were being very insecured and they treated others like they are their possesions which actually the other person is an individual, if they really love there friends, they should be happy if the friend could get along well with someone else..

Answer 7

Back when I was insecure I would have made the choice to stick with the person who cares about me and their ideas. Now I am in that very situation and I realize that I am responsible for my own happiness.

Answer 8

I ignore the people trying to pull me apart from the one I love.

Answer 9

My boyfriend's father flat-out told me he doesn't like me and said I've been a "burden" for the last four years. He is completely against my relationship with my bf. I told the guy that I could care less what he thinks.

Answer 10

The problem is how your feelings change toward yourself if you get to the point you can listen to those you trust and face the moment of accepting what you refused to believe out of faith in yourself to the one in question.