Recently I discovered that my husband of twelve years has been seeing another women since November. When I confronted him about her, he declares she was a counselor and he was seeing her to know how to deal with me and being away from me and the kids. What should I do?
2007-08-26 13:01:01 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I, too am a Navy spouse. We have had are issues as well. As you well know, being a military spouse is a hard job for both involved. It takes a special kind of somebody to go through deployments and remain faithful. It can be a long time and the lack of intimacy can have a big affect of people. I cannot tell you what you should do, only you can answer that. But it would be a good idea to go to marriage counseling with your husband. Even if he didn't cheat your trust in him as been broken and it will require mending. This is usually done best with the help of professionals. My husband and I went through a similar situation and counseling helped tremendously. I was not willing to just throw away what we had because of it. And I am grateful I stuck with it because we are closer now than we have every been. Counseling helped us through the tough times and gave us the tools we needed to forge a better marriage. I wish you the best.
2007-08-26 13:16:13 · answer #1 · answered by iambeanstalk 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear that and I'm sorry to say that myself i probably wouldn't believe the counsellor crap they always seem to clutch at straws when caught .So what to do? i say that if u still love him then give him a choice the navy or u and the kids if he doesnt like it then u have ur answer if he busts his balls to try and get out and get u to trust him again then maybe u can forgive. if he stays in the navy then honestly how do u trust him. i know the feeling u will be sitting at home at work thinking i wonder what he is up to is he with her it drives u nuts so if this is something that u cant get over then i would tell him not to let the door hit his **** and remember time heals all wounds
2007-08-26 20:15:31 · answer #2 · answered by curvykirst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know for a fact that he has been cheating, you need to go to a counselor (not the one he "went" to) and discuss the situation. If he has been cheating, you will need to make the decision yourself as to whether or not you can forgive him and move on. Most people can't, but many can and go on to have very successful marriages. It's all about what you can handle.
2007-08-26 20:25:20 · answer #3 · answered by Student Doctor House 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the VA and ask for a family counselor.
Talk to his family and ask for their help. Its their son and grandchildren too.
Are you sure? Are you thinking the best of him? Is there marriage problems or intimacy issues between you?
Talk to the counsler and express your concern. They have supervisors and are regulated by laws and business practices.
Get help ASAP if you want to save the marriage.
Might I suggest a book. Check it out from the library or buy.
2007-08-26 20:09:37 · answer #4 · answered by Robert Miller 95670 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miss like suggested before asked to go with him. I am a retired Sailor myself. An I have never cheated on my wife. An I had the opportunity numerous times. Ask to go with him and I bet you he will either:
1. say he does not need her counseling anymore.
2. find numerous excuse why you can't go with him
When he does this the choice is yours. Forgive Him or Divorce his dumb butt.
2007-08-26 20:21:26 · answer #5 · answered by Dude In Love 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would have never married a man in the military.You should get the skank fired for breaking up a marriage.Oh yeah,and you should leave your hubby.He's not just sleeping with another woman he's flat out having a relationship with her.
2007-08-27 13:14:07 · answer #6 · answered by S C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at this point you need figure out is the marriage beyond repair. if not forgive and get some counseling. if it is let it go and move on. get a divorce. but think to yourself did you think this man was gone from you long periods of time and not getting his rocks off. GodBless.
2007-08-26 20:31:41 · answer #7 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask him if you could go see his little Ms. Counsellor, coz you wanna ask for advice about your cheating-*** husband? What a clown your husband is! Why did he even get married if he doesn't know what marriage is all about.
2007-08-26 22:19:04 · answer #8 · answered by Simplygreat 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Adultery is an offense in the military. Notify his chain of command and fry his a**!!
2007-08-26 20:30:48 · answer #9 · answered by SailorLo23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ANy woman married to a sailor has to sort of already be prepared for this situation right?
I mean it's like one of the most classic scenarios ever told!
Especially since women can serve on the ships now.
2007-08-26 20:04:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋