one of my closest friends died.
i dont know what to do latley.
he died in july & i still dont believe it.
i need him in my life so much right now.
another one of my friends is in the hosipital.
she got in a car accident,which was horrible.they dont know if shell make it.
can anyone please,say anything to help me cope with all this pain?
thanks :/
2007-08-26 12:17:36 · 22 answers · asked by :D 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Oh sweetheart. I am so sorry to hear of our loss. I really dont know what to say but I want ot give it a shot. When you think of your friend whom has passed on think of the happy times. Remeber God needed an angel and he chose your friend. Your friend is watching over you now. He is free of all pain and illness. He is free of the cruel world we now live in. He is in a much better place.
2007-08-26 12:23:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry about your loss. I lost 3 friends on 1 day in high school and felt so completely alone. Talk to someone else who is grieving about these friends- it helps. I know it sounds stupid but time does help. Do something productive to honor your friend like a sale of some sort to set up or contribute to a memorial fund.And don't be afraid to contact your friend's parents. They need to hear you miss him just as much as they do.Also, visit your friend in the hospital. Her parents will appreciate that someone cares and if she's not concious, she still might be aware of your prescence.
2007-08-26 19:27:17 · answer #2 · answered by mccormom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say that only time will heal this hole inside of you. A part of your life is gone forever and you have to mourn the loss, it is the only way to get past it and it hurts more than anything you have ever known. Time will pass and one day without knowing it, you will remember the good time and they will put a smile on your face instead of a tear in your eye. Keep your bf's picture where you can see it so you feel them closer to you. Your friend is alive and with you as long as they are in your heart. I am so sorry for your loss and I pray your friend in the hospital makes it. Be strong and hold on; it will get easier ...with time.
2007-08-26 19:29:52 · answer #3 · answered by littleone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that this happened to you. You need to find ways to distract yourself so that you won't think about this so much. Talk to your parents and let them know that you are really sad and maybe they can help you out. About your friend thats in the hospital go visit her try to spend as much time with her as you can just in case because you never know. I hope you can start feeling better pretty soon, but I really don't think a person can ever get over a death of someone who really meant something in their life.
2007-08-26 19:23:45 · answer #4 · answered by Laura B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so so sorry. Something like this happened to me also. While it wouldn't be kind to just forget his memory, cry it out. Let it all go. You are allowed to be sad, and you really need to tell somebody about it. Cry and tell it all. You also need to be there for the friend in the hospital, she probably needs all the help she can get. I'm not going to tell you to forget about it and your friends. Do everything that you love to do that flares your soul and stand close to your other friends and mourn with them. That's a terrible terrible experience. I am so sorry.
2007-08-26 19:28:41 · answer #5 · answered by Moddy English 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried visiting his family? Sometimes you seeing them and them seeing you and you reminding them that you miss him sooo much can help. Just remember your friend will always be watching over you and he would want you to get on with your life, even though it is very difficult. One of my friends died too. What I did was I wrote him a letter with everything I always wanted to say to him. I left it open on my bed, hoping that if there is a way in the afterlife, he could look down & read it. It made me feel sooo much better!!!
2007-08-26 19:24:27 · answer #6 · answered by Princess Leia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first off I am so sorry the 2 things right on top of another the only thing I can say is talk to your friends & family remember the good times keep your head up & pray for your friend
2007-08-26 19:38:01 · answer #7 · answered by Big Man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this sounds trite. But a few years ago I lost a good Friend to cancer. My mom said, "be still and the moment will pass" You will heal, but the pain will not kill you. It takes time. Wish I could be of more help
2007-08-26 19:22:44 · answer #8 · answered by Love the west 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that spirits walk among us, if you miss your friend talk to him or her as if they were still with you. Believe it or not, it will help. My husband died in a truck wreck back in 2003, I talk to him all the time & I feel like he is still with us. Even our cats act like he's still here. You friend may be just waiting for you to make the first move.
2007-08-26 19:28:01 · answer #9 · answered by ♫ Bubastes, Cat Goddess♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure theres much you can do to stop this pain.
after a while it will get better.
think of the happy memories you both had.
or try and take your mind off things.
maybe go visit your friend in hospital? i'm sure she needs you right now and maybe you could help eachother?
i'm sorry for your loss.
i hope i helped.
2007-08-26 19:23:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋