I need help please?

Question

Ok...I am still very upset over a breakup, and its been over a year. He broke up with me to be with someone else. SOmeone who had his child before we met. She was a one night stand and he was ashamed, but I helped him thru so much. He was depressed and suicidal. He actually threatened suicide to me. Then when he finally came to terms with all that was bothering him, he acted like he never knew me. Til this day, I still get really upset, because he has moved on without a moment of remorse. I fell humiliated, used ,and the suicide aspect of it I think is what gets to me the most. I have told him off and then felt bad about it. I wish I never met him....I really do. I was happy and had self confidence and thought love was real before him. Now I feel he has effected me so much, I just cant seem to get passed any of it. I hate him for what he did to me and I wanted so badly to confront him in person, but he pretty much told me to never call him again. We were together for almost 2 yrs

and I dont understand for the love of God how someone can be this cruel. Can anyone advise me on how to move on? I have seen a few doctors. I just dont know what to do anymore.

Answer 1

You need to move on. Time has not done its job for some reason...so you need to the speed the process up yourself. Get out there, meet some new people, and stop worrying or thinking about him. He's the past; you need to stay in the present, and not dwell on past memories. Get a fresh start, and don't let him affect your life. It was his decision to leave you; that means that he doesn't deserve you anyway. Don't dwell on how much you hate him; don't even think about it. There are so many new, fresh opportunities out there in the world; why waste yourself like this? Go outside, even taking a brisk walk and breathing in some fresh air could clear your mind. Read books, take walks in nature, make yourself alive again. You still have a chance to "restart" yourself; you just have to be strong willed and determined.

Answer 2

I think that you need to really look at this event and try to learn as much as you can. I know it hurts, but oftentimes if we examine the pain, and try to examine it objectively, you will basically disentangle all the emotional chains that bind you to it. Time alone will cause the event to weaken its hold on you. Believe me, there are loving people out there and we all deserve a loving relationship through which we can grow. Many people are trying to make themselves feel good and without knowing it they use people because the relationship feels right to them at the time. What you should learn from this relationship is, first, take it slower next time. Don't invest too much of yourself into someone until you really know them. Be sure that they are free of other encumbering relationships. Many times the way that people managed other relationships and treated other people are the way they will treat you, too. If you cannot accept to lose if it ends, don't pay up front.

Answer 3

I find that women are sponges to male emotions. This accelerates them to grow up with rapidness. Themselves have to acknowledge this, that they have grown.

Answer 4

waaa, you'll get over it, then do it all again.
Don't like the pain, dont play the game.
MIKE